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Someone spending an hour or 2 watching netflix is going to have zero impact on whether society burns.

alcohol is worse and more prevalent in my opinion

Not a very good analogy. A fire is an immediate threat which requires a few minutes of action to completely fix. A better analogy would be: How long should I spend grinding XP in a video game before actually having fun in the game.

The whole point of personal development and consciousness work is so that you can enjoy life more. If you genuinely enjoy watching anime, then what's the problem? Some of you guys (including myself sometimes) are so consumed with personal development that you forget to enjoy life.

The time you enjoy wasting, is not wasted time

Unconditional self love

Also, my intuition is telling me that actualized is giving off a toxic vibe. The whole forum including Leo doesn't have that vibe of unconditional love and acceptance anymore. It's just a lot more intellectual and spiritual egoic masturbation than it used to be. I guess it all started when Leo did his 30 days of 5-meo and started saying he was more awake than everyone else. That was the moment when Leo went from a talented spiritual explorer to going off the deep end. The forum slowly followed after that. I still respect Leo and his work but I don't see him as a wise spiritual teacher anymore.

I've noticed myself having intense egoic reactions to random events even more so than I was before. I'll spend hours ruminating over trivial shit. I guess this is an ego backlash.

Probably not going to end well...

You can literally change your style by buying some clothes... And the rest can be changed in a few months with some basic personal development or overnight with a low to medium dose of psychedelics. If you change your social circle, these things all change naturally on their own with no effort.

You are absolutely not born with any of these these qualities. tf are you smoking? All of these traits are based on the environment you grew up in and can easily be changed. In fact, most of these traits change naturally on their own just by living life.

Most of these aren't biological. Charm, personality, mannerisms, temperament, style, communication, how you carry yourself are all mental, emotional and spiritual traits.

Lol yes they can.

Attraction is biological... and mental, emotional and spiritual.

I disagree, not everyone has the same preference. Obviously some are more common than others but attraction is subjective. Just look at how many categories there are on pornhub That's even worse than a job application... I never said there was anything wrong with attraction. Only that people hyperfixate obsessively over the biological side of it and base their value and others against a checklist of ideal biological traits. Judging yourself and others based on superficial traits will inevitably lead to resentment and self hatred. You've been reading too much redpill and blackpill. If all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.

Disagree. You're saying that dating is something that you need to get out of the way so you can do higher things. Which sounds like a chore. And like anything you frame as a chore you probably aren't going to do well in it. If you see it as something more than that then its going to be a lot more enjoyable. 100% agree with you. But this post and many others have the vibe of 'how can I fake a personality trait so girls can like me?'

No, I'm saying that treating dating like a job application is pretty toxic both for yourself and the person you're trying to date. People with this mentality will become bitter and resentful real quick. Also If you think all men will choose a more attractive woman over you then that's a limiting belief.

I'm glad that out of all the things i'm addicted to, tiktok isn't one of them. Even the shorts on youtube and factbook are insanely addictive

No, its more the that these posts and comments give of such a depressing and neurotic vibe. These post frame dating like some sort of hellish job application where some female is judging you with checklist of alpha male traits to see if you're qualified for her vagina. I want other users to value themselves more.

If you frame it like that, then nothing is profound. That mindset makes it seem like a chore.

Reading these dating posts is depressing... If dating in real life is like the way people describe it on actualized, I have no hope for the future of the human race. You guys reduce one of the profound human experiences to the most superficial and toxic shit. At this point I don't care what women like, I'd rather just be myself and fucking die alone than try be some imaginary 'alpha male' that someone made up.

I disagree. when you transcend fear and hurt, these wounded parts do not heal, they are simply revealed to be illusions of the ego mind. You cannot survive in the physical world without an ego. Therefore it is necessary to build a healthy one and wear it as a loose fitting garment. If you want to spend the rest of your life in a transcendent state meditating in a cave then so be it. But to actually do things in the material world, you need to heal your wounded parts. Furthermore, the transcendence that psychedelics offer are just temporary glimpses and wear off after a few months leaving you just as wounded as before.

It really depends on how you define healing. I'm talking about reprogramming dysfunctional behaviours, beliefs and thought patterns caused by trauma.

Yes I agree, in fact I have experienced that transcendence for myself. However, transcending personal hurt and trauma is not the same as healing it in the same way that transcending your physical body does not heal a broken leg.

sounds like a projection. (yes i am aware that i am also projecting) I'm not refusing transcendence just saying that it doesn't magically solve mental and emotional dysfunctions. And that a large majority of this forum and spiritual people in general try to transcend wounded aspects of themselves rather than to truly heal them.