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Hi everyone, In this post, I want to share with you guys an event that happened with me in the past and I want you guys to tell me your thoughts about it. By your thoughts, I mean, I want you guys to tell me, was my friend correct? What should I have done different looking back? Was I the wrong one? Is this normal? In the month of July, last year, I along with my friend had a fight with a gang consisting of about 4 to 6 people. I and my friend were only two people. So it was 2 vs 6. FYI, below are the details of how the story unfolded: It was 2 a.m. midnight and I with my friend, accidentally, broke into an apartment for the purpose to inspect property damage. We found a girl sleeping and we did not know about the girl presence in the apartment in the first place. However, the girl called her brother and her brother called 4 to 6 people to fight with my friend along with me. My friend was in the Frontline fighting and I was back so my friend got slapped 2 to 3 times and punch 2 to 3 times by them. However, they did not beat or hit me. For this, my friend charged my 400 Chinese yuan. Then again, in the month of September, last year, I was slapped by a friend of that girl's brother. We went to the university administration to solve it. Then again my friend came with me to the administration. Then he charged me 100 Chinese yuan because he took my side with me in the administration. So are these charges of money which he laid upon me was normal? What should I have done in retrospect? Thank you for your guys responses!

Hi, I am a third year medical student at the People's Republic of China. 🇨🇳 My family however lives in Canada 🇨🇦. Currently, I am in Canada living with my family. Recently, I am not able to adjust living in China because of various challenges like language barrier, not good financial situation, not good friends, people forcing me to smoke/drink alcohol and their are even some gangs in my Chinese university who want to beat me up. I have two friends in China but they also want me to spend 100 to 200 USD on them per month otherwise they say that they will not protect me from those bad gangs and they will tell to those bad gangs to beat me up inside the university Campus. However, I have already invested 30000 USD in my education in China so far. If I leave my education in China then 30000 USD went waste. So, I want your guys opinion on whether, I should continue studying on China or leave China to study in Canada and live with my family in Canada 🇨🇦. Thanks for your responses

In Chine, the system works as give and receive. If someone does any work for me then they expect to recieve something in return

But he was taking care of me 24/7. He was with me 24/7 and right next to my bed 24/7. 3 years worth rent is 28800 yuan and one month expenses in hospital is 15000 yuan. Oh really? Is it dickish? How is it dickish?

@Sincerity He is asking for 15000 Chinese yuan because my current residence is in China and if I rent him a room to him for free for 3 years then it will basically make up to 15000 Chinese yuan and I don't have such money. To be honest, my mental health is deteriorating because he is asking me such money and is telling me that he should not have helped me because I should have paid him such money first and then he should have helped me in my road accident scene. For the full picture, he saved my money because if I was in the hospital then my medical bill would have been 15000 Chinese yuan to 20000 Chinese yuan for the treatment of my paralyzed leg during the road accident which he did at my home residence for free. Good point. So I give him 15000 Chinese yuan as his kindness?

@Salvijus FYI, I am a student and he is also a student. However, thanks for the reply and your advice.

Hi everyone, I want to share an incident and I want your guys opinion and advice on how to handle this situation. Basically, I had a bike accident on June, 2024 and I suffered so much blood loss due to the severity of the bike accident. My friend took me to the hospital and took me to my apartment plus he took really care of me like he gave me food on time and medicine on time because my one leg was paralyzed due to bike accident for one month. After one month, I recovered from the accident and I could walk well. As a result, he said that he wants to live with me for free for 3 years because of the help he provided me when he had a bike accident. Although, he has sufficient funds in his bank account to support himself financially to pay rent for an apartment for 3 years, he wants to live with me for free, without rent for 3 years. I do not have sufficient funds to rent an sole apartment alone for 3 years so I might have to share it with some roommates. I wanted to ask you guys that is this normal of him living with me for 3 years without rent or this is not normal/not okay? Currently, he is staying with me in my apartment without paying rent. Any opinion or advice to help me in this situation is helpful.

Hi all, I hope you are doing well. I want to share an event with you guys which happened to me recently and I need your guys advice on what action steps should I take next time to prevent event like this happening to me again. I live in an apartment with four other people. We share a wifi router with 5 sim cards. So each person gets one SIM card from the total 5 SIM cards. I have been using the SIM card from the last 5 months. Just last week, I figured out that I am the main card holder which means that all the wifi package comes to my SIM card and then from my SIM card, the wifi package gets shared to the other four SIM card. This is how the system of wifi works in China. I also figured out recently that the SIM card which I am using as the main card holder is not opened on my passport information but on one of the passport information of the other four people. The other four people knew about all this but I did not know about all this and just figured out about all this recently. The other four people actually hid this information from me. Some of the harmful ramifications which I could have face in the future because of this would be that the police could have caught me and put me in jail for using a SIM card on someone else information as you guys know their are many risk of an individual opening a SIM card on someone else passport/information and not his own respective passport/information. In response to this, I created my own SIM card seperate from the other five shared SIM card on the shared wifi router. My question from you guys is that what kind of action steps should I take next time to prevent situations like this happening again and I should not be made a fool again or get scammed again? Thank you for your responses

@Consept Yes, the problem is solved. I got the advice and I will never ask anyone photos going forward. Thank you for your advice.

What kind of questions do you think I should ask and what kind of action step do you think I should take instead of this? @Princess Arabia What does a girl signal when she always run away from me the next time she sees me?

For Your Information, it was not even a first date. It was my first approach and my first time talking to her.

I was just looking for ways to engage her. After asking her all sort of questions, like what is her major and how old is she...I ran out of asking questions. So, I asked this question with the idea that it would engage her but I was wrong.

@Consept How to make a girl feel safe and comfortable around me? How can I improve this part of my game?

Are girls very protective of their family? I have notice in my interactions with girls that whenever I ask a girl, especially Chinese girls because I live in China about their family then they get triggered and stop talking to me. Also, the next time when they see me, they run away.

Hi all, Yesterday, I approached a girl and I had a little chat with her. I asked her how she was and I was engaging with her. She seemed to be quiet interested in me and we were getting along. She even walked with me back to her home. For Your Information, she did not know English very well and I know English so we had to rely on a translation software in instagram. However, at the end, I text message her on Instagram to show me some pictures of her family and some pictures of her house from inside. She then text messaged me this: Your question today made me feel a bit invasive of privacy, and I don't really want to chat or meet with others while preparing for the exam, so I deleted your Instagram account first and don't add me. Wishing you success in your studies, thank you. My question from you guys is that can you tell me what was my mistake and how can I approach much better in the future?