Mz Hyde

If you really want to understand this - go study Psychology of Personal Constructs by George Alexander Kelly.

It's very complex matter. First of all, you need to understand just how much education is intertwined with so many other parts of the system. There are many determinants that affect education, such as: socio-political organization, degree of scientific and technological development, economic development, level of cultural development, the effect of old traditional patterns that are often very difficult to change, the development of the science of education and other relevant sciences etc. There is no simple and concrete answer to this question. What happens in the school system is only a reflection of what happens in society. Education cannot escape the values of the society of which it is a part. There is no easy and simple solutions here. Systems are hard to change. It's not impossible, but sure is very hard and slow. Real, permanent changes in the system can be made, only if we make an effort to work on all of its aspects. So, short answer to your question would be - everything.

In essence, in order to understand (and solve) this issue, the education must be viewed as a part of the larger system. We cannot expect education to change while the rest of the system remains the same. That's never gonna fly.

As a graduate student of science of education I couldn't agree more. See this is the thing: what we measure shows what is important to us. The grading system is a very deep problem. Standardized international tests are very important in the neoliberal society we live in today because they demonstrate the "superiority" of countries with the best results. System doesn't give a fuck about what children really know, it just wants to be at the top of the score list. The biggest tragedy is that the structure and organization of the education system is primarily a political, not an educational issue. Such a (non)functioning of the educational system, as we are witnessing today, comes precisely from this disparity of political and educational values.

One that was the most eye opening for me: People don't give a fuck about how you look, act etc. They only care about how they themselves come across. So, even if someone makes some rude comment, it says nothing about you, but them.

Maybe try using Antar. I made a post about that app a while ago: You could make a persona of that part and of those "spiritual healers" part to help them interact easier. If you are interested in ifs (parts work), check out Jay Earley's "Self therapy" (it has 3 volumes).

Have you tried talking to that part, hearing him out, asking what is bothering him, what he needs etc.? PS. Make sure to talk to it in a respectful and compassionate manner, as if you were talking to a child.

Are you doing parts work? Is "Gabriel" one of your exhiles?

I didn't know about that, what a pain in the ass. Tbh after finding Antar I didn't need to try anything else. I stumbled upon that other one and thought it might be useful to share. Guess I should've tried it first.

So I've found this app called Antar a while ago and it's amazing! I'll leave the description from Google Play below. https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.satya.antar - Meet Antar, a window to your inner world. It's a new approach to align your thoughts, emotions and decisions. - Antar offers you a unique way to have an internal argument using various personas or emotions. You can be your own coach and help yourself through tough decisions. - This unique approach can give you clarity of thought, bring you closer to your emotions, and help understand the multiple voices in your head. - A clear mind leads to a motivated, happier and confident self. - FEATURES: - Chat interface to discuss with multiple personas - We believe chat is the most natural form of communication. Communicate every thought with a message. - Switch personas and guide yourself to look at different perspectives. - Effortlessly switch between personas - Each thought comes from a certain emotion or persona. By being able to switch easily, you can be more in touch with your emotional self. - Identify the hidden emotion in your thoughts and explore multiple ways to understand your decision. -A comprehensive and growing list of personas for your use. Also, the ability to create new ones to suit your needs. - We provide a large list of personas and emotions. - Create your own personas or emotions to represent yourself better over time. - Ability to dive deeper into individual thoughts, by utilising our unique hierarchical argument format - Our hierarchical format for thoughts gives an opportunity to immerse into a sub-argument easily without being distracted by other messages. - We believe that our thoughts are not linear, so we give you ways to hop across to sub-thoughts as much as you like. - Secure, Private and totally Offline - We understand that lot of this information is sensitive. So, it never leaves your device without your consent. - Currently, no data is transferred over to any server. You're always in control of your data on your device. - Themes and Customizations - Customize your personas through different colors. - Dark mode support - Various ways to visualise your chat message / thoughts - Export to Share - Ability to export your thoughts in markdown format. - Integrate with any notes app on your device. - Antar is free to download and use. I hope it's gonna be helpful on your journey! Happy holidays!!! ☃️?

@Manusia You're welcome. Let us know how it works for you.

Western societies have strong individualistic culture with a very specific set of values that is very different from collectivistic eastern societies and their values. That was just an example, not the point of the post..

I don't think that line of reasoning has anything to do with "nondual God-logic". Average person from USA is going to have a radically different view on this matter than an average person from India for example. Questions like that can be answered only within a certain frame of reference. I personally don't think about "good" or "bad", as characteristic of a person, but rather their actions. I believe that everyone is fundamentaly good. That begs the question: Why than people behave in ways that are hurtful for others or themselves? I believe that's because those people are themselves hurt (but does that makes them bad people??). So than, lets put it this way: people who got through their healing process and therefore are aligned with their core authentic self (which is by default good).

Speaking of ifs.. I've just found another app similar to Antar that's called IFS Guide. Might gonna be interesting for some folks who are into these things (: Here's the link: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.ifsguide.app

I made a post about it a while ago with the description of the app. Glad more people are finding out about it. It really is a high quality resource, especially for working with parts (I've noticed that a lot of guys here are getting into ifs).

I'm not really into horror movies, but I love bizarre-deep-mind fucking stuff. Under the skin (2013) also has that kind of atmosphere you are looking for.

Have you seen Kynodontas/Dogtooth (2009)?

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I gotta add (especially considering the current events here) - his PATIENCE

Do those heavy metals come from cocoa powder? I drink at least one cup of cocoa every day.

Just curious.. How would you feel about your girl watching porn? (question not only for the topic starter, but for all guys)

Psychoanalysis is not the only one. There are many psychotherapy modalities and each rests on a different philosophy and value system. Do the research and choose the one that resonates with you the best.

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You can't expect anything to change while repeatedly doing everything the same. Real change is achieved by doing something you've never done before. Maybe something counterintuitive. You need to face the thing head on. Like @vladorion said, even with psychedelics you'll have to be willing to do that. Psychedelics are not some magic pill. In my personal opinion, you don't need them for this. They could even make things worse by overwhelming you with too much stuff that you are just not ready to face yet. Instead, think about the ways to challenge yourself. Then you'll be able to negotiate with yourself about what feels right and what doesn't, what's okay and what's too much.