Steven

There is no reason to force yourself to be a virgin either. Sex is ok but if you are with the right person, which can take time. But hey Einstein had hundreds of women too. Naughty Naughty

This is false even to rational mind... many women in their 40s and 50s 'discover' their sexuality. This is our monkey mind speaking to us. Can't you tell the typical ego demands? Ego always tends to put us out comfort zone.

I can see where you are comming from, and I'm pretty sure, pretty, pretty sure, that many of humans deal with the same set of 'fears', male or female.

Why don't we all go to Las Vegas and meet Leo?!

The pull of the cigarette addiction Today while I was driving to the library I had a good encounter with the presence of the pull. I’m talking about the bodily cravings for a cigarette. I tried to feel it and examine it, knowing that that it could not be more false for body to need this poison in order to sustain itself. Yet it was pulling like mad. It even generated panic, blood pressure and heart beats giving intense signals that something is not ok. What beast did you let in. Then I went to the shop and bought tobacco, but instead of smoking it straight away, I put it in the glove box of my car. And wanted to observe this falsity. Then it slowly went away. Felt a great relief. I knew that lighting a smoke would feel just like nothing, as having one after ten or more smokes. The ego (mind) is a funny, funny thing. It can go everywhere except the NOW. Fuck the mind. Who is the mind to know anything. It can’t do anything useful. It’s always in the past or future. Regretting and wishing for repetition, or craving and fearing. Why is it better tomorrow or a month from now, than right NOW?

@7:36 he summarises precisely entire essence of it

The size is not the only property though... There is shape and hardness. Once a female friend told me that she likes only straight ones. She didn’t like the ones with ‘kinks’ or disproportionate. She actually drew her perfect penis. I think that it really works both ways. Some vaginas are better than others. I remember this girl whose vagina felt so perfect...made my whole body buzz. It could be that it is a matter of being ‘just right’ You could have all the tools and not have full grasp of the process. Sticking it in and out is not the pinnacle although it seems to be the goal of the game. Don’t disregard the attraction and desire, delay in gratification, intrigue.... We have to be considering these too. Too much attraction is not good either. Too much desire can lead to disappointment once the intercourse takes place. Too long delay can make us give up completely. We can cool off. It seems to me that the best is JUST RIGHT.

@kalter000The last two sentences was the point I was trying to make.

There is no guaranteed sex on this planet

There is no psychology behind relationships. But if you want to get it wrong... try Sigmund Freud.

To me, relationships should not be tested...As soon as you test it you kind of change it and it becomes different. It's like a photon in quantum mechanics..

@lil I felt really bad when I was in my first year of Uni and my girlfriend at the time was testing my feelings towards her. Then I went home and felt bad and confused ... like "what the hell did I do?" Then I could not handle confusion and called one of my ex-girlfriends and we went for a coffee and chat. I did not know that I was being followed and it didn't go well with my girlfriend, Seeing me with a hot blonde German chick... an hour after she made me cry. She said that was the worst feeling she had in her life. I found out that she saw me with her... like a week after. Being insecure about each other, then nothing can be done to rectify things... But your issue is not just gf/bf issue. When people are separating for an extended period of time, and on a long distance, there are a lot of emotions involved. When kids leave parents, to migrate to some other country, they too have similar feelings. This is not about bf/gf only... I don't think either of you has the power to 'decide' - I'm not sure if you would understand this one though.

Are you bragging that women are using you for attention/validation... ? If you feel used then don't give them attention/validation... I guess. I don't see if it is such a big deal otherwise, It is not just females who like attention/validation. It is more about type of ego, than female/male issue.

Is he Australian? In the first part, while reading your post, I was getting an impression that it was him who is giving you a cold shoulder, but... That is pretty persuasive... Do you need a written contract? He obviously wants you to stay.

@CabotAs soon as you wake up, or realize that you your alarm is gone off, jump out of bed immediately, like just force yourself. Don’t stay in bed ‘needing time to wake up’. I noticed for me this marks my day i.e. the whole day tends to follow the lazy pattern if I've been taking too long to get upng up, and if I just snapped out of the bed, the day seems to follow this pattern too, I’m much quicker to just do stuff.

Do whatever you like doing for a month, but take rigorous notes/diary on what you were doing. Don’t fight anything. If you think you should study, but you in fact don’t feel like it, then just say to yourself “I should study, but I don’t feel like it, and I would rather do something else”. After a moth review your diary and results. Then do a month of strict routine. Wake up early, force yourself to get up even if you are dead tired. Take it as a challenge knowing that it will stop in a month. Do regular meditation, every day. Designate the study time, and even if you don’t want to study, force yourself to sit down and focus on the study material. Do this for a month and also take notes as you did in the previous ‘do whatever feels like doing’ month. Figure out the difference for yourself. Warning : The results may be counterintuitive

Flotation tank should not be thought of as a tool for mediation, because it is not. The whole point of mediation is not about making your body and senses comfortable.

I was just about to post a exactly the same question and then decided to look it up ... Intuitively I’d say that you are supposed to keep under control your body movements, including head and limbs, while breathing, blinking etc should be left alone. I still have one question though. When I’m breathing, I inhale through nose and exhale through mouth during meditation. Normally, when I’m not meditating, like now while I’m writing this, I either breathe in and out, either through nose or mouth. I feel like I’m imposing control on my breathing while meditating. What do you guys think? How do you go about breathing?

... until it becomes reduced to the invisible (in mind's eye). When I was about 9 years old I was practicing this technique. I’d start off just like any other meditation. I'd sit down in lotus position, and while being completely still, imagine a rectangle. Then I would start halving it and in the process I’d have to make sure that I’m fully focused on it. Just like focusing on breathing in mindfulness mediation, but this time I would focus on the rectangle and make sure I am fully aware of its size. Eventually it becomes very hard to keep up. Small speckle loses its shape. Then I would start off again. I’m back into mediation mindfulness practice for almost 6 months. Now I’m 35. Just wondering if anyone is familiar with this technique that I was practicing as a kid. Can not remember the book where I picked it up from. Also would be interested any comments on this technique. Does it do any good? Thanks Steve