melodydanielluna

@Phil King Good insight and thank you for the links!

Is university worth it, if not for a job, simply for becoming an expert in your chosen field? For example, would it be worth for an aspiring writer to study English or Creative Writing? Or is it wiser to save your money because this information can tecncally be found online? I am curious about other people's perspectives. EDIT: I understand the answer may be differrent, depending on whether or not you are paying out of pocket, taking out a loan, living with your parents, going to school full-time, part-time, etc.

Anxiety is ruining my life. So often, I am faced with intrusive thoughts (BPD and C-PTSD), and I am living in the future, playing out nightmare scenarios in my head. 99.9% of the things I worry about never happen. I know this logically, and yet still I am plagued with fear. I am on an SSRI, which seemed to help for while, but now is not as effective. I have a daily meditation practice and I practise yoga, on average, thrice a week. Those do help. I really feel if I could heal this part of myself, everything would be a lot easier. Any advice?

Thank you, you are so right about all that!

@Yarco Wow, thank you for the thoughtful reply! It's so interesting, what you said about indie pub vs. trad pub, how trad pubs don't know a good book. My 'friend's' exact words were, "Until you get a book published by a traditional publishing company, you're not really an author." I should also say that this 'friend' isn't really a friend, but an authority figure. I guess I'm afraid to have that much confidence and belief in my manuscript. Like, what if I publish it and it's actually terrible? Lol Thank you for all the resources, as well.

@Yarco Essentially, I'm asking you to talk me out of trad-pub! And to tell me why indie pub is better! And to inform me of some good marketing techniques for fantasy/sci-fi authors I am open-minded. If what I was doing was working, I wouldn't need to ask for help/advice.

@Yarco Thank you for the thoughtful response! Your perspective on indie vs. trad is so interesting. I won't say who it is, but I have a traditionally published author in my life and they have really put down indie publishing and hyped up traditional publishing. (Bare in mind they got published in the 90s!) There was a time when I wanted to indie pub, and felt really passionate about, but this person kept discouraging me, and I am very insecure in my ability to market myself. (Though I know it's a reality, regardless.) I am already dealing with agents trying to change things. One agent was interested in my premise, but felt it was too long for a debut author. As an artist, this is frustrating. And I am torn between wanting to stick to my creative vision, but I also wanting to trust they know more about marketing than me. (Especially with this close person in my life always telling me trad-pub is the way to go and indie-pub will 'ruin my chances'.) On the topic of marketing, I feel you are right, I am just confused about how to pick a niche. If my end goal is to sell copies of my fiction books, then what should go on my blog? Short stories? Writing advice? Reviews of similar books? It also seems hard to make searchable content with fiction/without writing 'how-to advice'. Is there a better way to market books, outside of having a blog? Honestly, I am very open to what you have to say because I'm currently in the process of figuring out what works and don't have much attachment to my chosen methods.

@Benton This is the documentary I was watching.

I am a writer. I have recently completed a high-fantasy manuscript that I am shopping around to literary agents. I'm hoping to get a trad-pub book deal for my fiction. While I wait to hear back from agents, I am working on my non-fiction and posting this to my website/blog. I have already written and posted two essays, one on taking six months away from dating, and one on the importance of Mastery. https://www.melodydanielluna.com/ The goal of posting this blog is to build readership. I am trying to do something unique from other fiction authors in this regard. Most fiction authors I see make content about 'how to write' or 'how to market books', which I think is really overdone. Instead, I am writing about - well, I'm not sure exactly what my non-fiction niche is yet. Thus far, I have chosen topics that I feel strongly about due to personal experience/past mistakes/observation, etc. These essays were also topics I had read/studied quite a bit. (Which is why the essay on Mastery has so much in common with Leo's LP course!) My plan is to keep writing essays on topics I feel strongly about for my website/blog and some that will be exclusive to my Patreon. When I have enough essays to warrant a book, I will either turn them/some of them into a book, or simply lump them into an anthology. Here are my questions... 1. Do you think I need to pick a niche for my non-fiction? And does it have to relate directly to my fiction? 2. How can I drive traffic to my blog? SEO? Social media? I really want to AVOID what I speak about in my second essay: making content for tons of social media platforms. I would rather pick one or two tactics that work. I am going trad pub for my fiction because, generally, the quality of book (edit, formatting, cover) is so much better and I'm not, currently, rolling in cash. Trad-pub is also great for getting your book into bookstores, which is very important for my genre fantasy/sci-fi. But I don't want to fall into the trap of thinking a traditional publisher will do EVERYTHING for me. I want to have a fun and interesting website/Patreon/online presence, and I want to build an email list. Any constructive feedback/tips are greatly appreciated

For those who don’t know, she’s the author of Peter Rabbit. I am watching a documentary on her and she seems so beyond her time.

@Leo Gura Could you do an unlisted YouTube video?

I’m having the glitch too. I’m assuming it’s a technical issue?

So, I've only recently transcended Green and gone into Yellow. (Yes, I still have my shadows and I am working on them, but I'm mainly Yellow.) The last time I was in a relationship I was Green. How do you think dating/sex/love/relationships change at Stage Yellow? And then at Turquoise? This is a really open-ended question but some things I wonder are: - Is it normal/healthy/reasonable that, if I do partner with someone, I want them to be at Yellow or Turquoise? - Where do Yellow/Turquoise folk meet one-another? - What sorts of dates do they go on? How does dating work for them? - How does sex change and evolve at these higher stages? (If it does at all) - How do relationships evolve and change and these higher stages? - And this last one is very specific: Something I've noticed recently. At my day job, the workplace culture is suited to people holding there cellphone in your face with a picture of a 'hot' guy loaded up, and she will ask me what I think of her recent Tinder match. (No, I don't like my day job's culture, but I am working my ass off to get out of there.) Anyway, I never know what to say. I seem to not care about physical attraction like I used to. I honestly can't know if he's hot, not without knowing his personality/spirit/etc. I've always been a bit this way, but recently, more so. It's as though I have no interest in a superficial relationship. I'm wondering if other Yellow/Turquoise people can relate to this? But this is an open-ended question. All responses are appreciated. Cheers!

@Vynce Interesting! I feel the “colour” of the music itself might differ from the “colour” of the people who gravitate towards that kind of music?

@Adodd @Human Mint Thanks guys! You know what's funny about committing to deep work? Is how people think you're cRaZy for letting shallow work go? So many people are telling me I CAN'T GET RID OF SOCIAL MEDIA. And, like, you can. And I feel it has been one of the best things for my creative development and my personal/spiritual development.