Kksd74628

@SQAAD Of course you don't want something that is harmful for your ego and you will justify that act with all arguments that come to your mind like it's just biology, god designed it that way or I don't see reason to overdrive it. Isin't that crystal clear that you won't participate in process that kills you in the end? Your game you play is to be alive and that's it. Everyone wants a long life, guess why. Of course racist would say that oh it's just so natural to hate other races, because it is just our defense mechanism that god created for us and I cannot see why would I overdrive that on purpose. Could you see that this bias is so strong that you even deny its existence? You don't like pain, because it's alert system of your body that indicates when something is wrong from YOUR POINT OF PERSPECTIVE FOR YOU. First of all there is no you that those things are harmful for, so stop believing in "I" that you can't even find from your direct experience (you may argue that you have sense of self, but that is just product of that belief) and come talk here again after discovering NO-SELF. In the end only thing that matters is that "you" enjoy life as much as you want, so do whatever you want and believe in anything that serves you, but when it comes to discover what there is without your assumptions then that does not depend from what you think and what you want. Love yo <3

@patricknotstar The sky is blue colored, grass is green colored, the sun is yellow colored and asphalt is black colored. Thing is that what are blue, green, yellow and black. You know that those are colors and you can check those from the world around you in your direct experience, but question that remains is do how you know which is "I" without first telling me "I am the body", "I am the observer", "I am the awarness", "I am the universe", "I am pure consciousenss", "I am the God" etc. I don't want to know what "I" equals, I want to know what do you think is "I" and again how do you know what this "I" is without first labeling it to something. "I feel like I am dying" ... ... ... Who is dying? "I feel like my identity is dying" ... ... ... Who feels and whose identity dies? Thing that happened is that first there came thought of "I" and now when that thought goes away there comes chock, but that really was never there and never leaves, because how can something die without first being born. It's completely same that you now think about pink table and then let that thought fade away and nothing happens. (actually do that now and see what I try to point out) Then think of you now reading this message and then let that thought of someone existing right now reading and understanding something fade away and nothing happens. Also understand that - if you believe that when you stop thinking of self someone dies and then comes suffering - this is also thought about thought. IMPORTANT!! Before stressing about something dying first question the assumption that there was "I" to begin with.

@SS10 Don't wait for perfect moment, because there will never be one without you first making one. Life is like ocean you have to constantly dive into and realize that you can't drown. Starting dating, meditating and inner work RIGHT NOW is the only way to get you to actually make anything happen. I gave you possibility NOW and I hope you catch it, because otherwise you have to wait for second train and anyways you would sooner or later either to jump in or under the train. ( Don't take this stupidly as message to harm yourself, but just as analogy ) You decide your own game rules so why would you put excess limitations to yourself for example relationships and dating should be for people who have their life together. If you really think that people have their life completely together when they build realtionships then why there is so much violence, cheating and other issues. Thing is that almost no one is "ready" for relationships, but think relationship as thing that makes you shine your personality and if that relationship ends not working at least you have one more experience, increased knowledge of yourself and you took an action. You can live a life 3 ways either you don't have anything, but you are so happy just to BE so it does not matter ( Monk or spiritual style ), you have everything you want and you are happy therefore ( Actually same thing as the first one, but lets label this as success style anyways ) or you can have nothing and need everything and that is not style so to speak, but just suffering, hell, dissaster, pain etc. Hell and heaven are just labels to this place you are currently living in and you decide how you would like to describe your home. Only way to BE truly happy is to enjoy BEING. Either you like the game you play or not and that does not change the fact that you play it anyways. Ask yourself RIGHT NOW why would you want that suffering and only when you come to the conclusion that you actually don't want then ask when you are going to take action and as long as you don't answer RIGHT NOW then ask again do you want to suffer. There is no another way. You cannot be saved you are already infected by extreme vibes, happiness, acceptance, love, joyfulness, badass attitude, confidence and noticing that I accidentally sent you. SooooooRRY, my love <3

@Vynce I would say that you should contemplate your thoughts more and maybe even have time just to think on your routine. There are couple of reasons and those are enjoyment of the thing, being mindful of thinking, coming up with insights that make your life easier and more fulfilling and most importantly when you have thought all things you have on your mind after that your mind becomes silent. Also like @Loba and I like to write, you should try it too. Writing is very benefical to make you more logical, get your thoughts organized and it is awesome way to learn to express oneself to the world of unknown. Hope that this helped you : )

@Julian gabriel Happiness is not some state of mind, consciousness or physical pleasure. It is accepting present moment as it is and not wanting anything else. When you have achieved that life no longer is suffering. Of course you can still solve problems or develop your character, but that is no longer source of happiness, because you have it within you wherever you go and whatever you do.

@Vynce You should also try to expand your meditation state to your whole day to get extreme results. In meditation you are kind of training your maximium conciousness level and anything that is between 2 meditation sets is training to maintain that. How does that banana look and how does it feel on my hand. How does it taste and how much can I enjoy one bite of that awesomeness. How little effort can I make to walk between 2 places. When you do that long enough you start to get glimpses of things happening automatically including your bodily movements. After that you get glimpses of no-self, because if it's not you doing those things what's your place in that function then. Also if are getting angry or emotional on your daily basis you should do some breathing exercises to maintain your cool. Love yo : )

@Jon_Bundesen First of all you need to find out - that if you drop out of school now and you would like in future to go back to school learning things and educate yourself - can you do that or is that option denied. Also because it is last year why just don't pass it and that leaves you more possibilities. You should aim to maximize your possibilities, because your mind may and most likely will change a lot from the mindset you have right now. Secondly you should make promise to life long learning from books, youtube videos, contemplation and free materials in internet, because that will help you to build awesome life that is worth living. Also remember that school is about developping yourself like in game you build your character so it can effortlessly perform from challenges that may and will come. Being at school usually is best to build strong friendships and maybe even love with the boy/girlfriend. As @Yarco said you will never in your life have as much free time to work your personal development and you should use that youth to continue to maybe college if that is even possibility to you anymore. Basicly you have nothing to lose if you use even 5 more years to educate yourself to wise adult, because you could use that time idling and thinking about the thing you really are passionate in life and maybe educating is neccesity in it and wouldn't you be sad if you missed your dream career only, because you tried to "save" your time. In reality you save lot of time from thinking your life purpose when your mind is already active from studying, but when you stop learning your mind will get lazy. If you ask my honest opinion about should you quit your school and not educate yourself to college or university I say that if you can't explain to me easily what is the thing you really are passionate about right now you should not quit and I would recommend you to continue your studying as you have chance.

@Jon_Bundesen There is no reason to hurry in life and you could use that time that you are studying to start loving information for the sake that it can be useful for your life and not, because you "need" to learn it. You can do whatever you think that is right thing to do and you should trust your inner guindance after all, but don't use that as excuse to not think things carefully and thoroughly. From curiosity what is the thing that you are "building" your life into?

@BipolarGrowth Beside the point, but you want some kind of script for your videos and as script I mean some basic key words that help you to cover all topics in logical order. Now what happens is that you use insanely amout of excess time that would be needed and also you lose yourself many times talking things that aren't important for the purpose of main topic. Please just don't take this like your video would have been bad or something, but rather as thing to concider working with. Also I would talk about these concepts with your friends if you have those that are interested about spirituality so you can effortlessly express that what you understand. Still after all I think that this video is extremely useful for beginners that need some more time to contemplate things. Thanks for uploading it <3

@thenondualtankie You would just communicate with yourself. When "we" are the same GOD there is no more me and you and it's only one thing which of course is YOU. To realize GOD is to understand everything is you and it is completely same feeling when you are in lucid dream and realize that everyone here including your character is fake and only one who is real is the DREAMER which also is YOU.

@Frosty97 Love is to let people do whatever they want and maybe help them on their journey. Devilry is to think that you know better what someone else wants.

@SgtPepper Remember that the question is how you get someone receptive enough to listen for advice when there is huge self-defence mechanisms happening. Yeah therapy helps, but how you get him here in the first place is the point. It's like answering for person who asks where are his/her glasses "put them on so you find them"

@MovForward Know what is the message you want to give to another human being. Only after that you can start your journey in expressing yourself, because without clear intention your communication will get messy. Say only what is necessary and nothing in excess, because you want to have compact impact to the receiver. Also learn about the subject you are talking, because if you don't really understand what are you talking about how you suppose anyone else to get it then. Final touch is magic of kindness. Thanks for asking that important question <3

@Gregory1 You are extremely right on this, because everyone is different and there is no absolute right way to do anything in life. Sticking with plan expecially at beginning is very useful to maintain strong motivation throughout journey. All my love so your journey is as beautiful as your precious soul <3

@Tim R It seems like people don't quite understand the thing you asked I would advice you to write him letter or long text message where you show him how much you love him and how important he is to you. After that you should calmly point out things that he maybe does not see. Message is good, because it shows the energy, time and effort you used for the person and that alone could melt his heart. For people with strong self-defence mechanisms it is easier to take advice without having stress to be in situation and when he can read it alone with time it has greater impact to him. Hope that this compact answer helps someone to make positive impact to someone else's life <3

@SonataAllegro The thing is not the topic itself, but the way tou present it. Learn to guide reader on it's adventure reading your essay. If you don't leave anything for your reader to think about he/she most likely won't like it. Essays aren't meant to measure your knowledge that much, but your capacity of holistic thinking and if Actualized.org member cannot do that then who. Also what no one tells you is that the way you write matters. They say that it's all about content in essays, but if you sound smart to the person reading it you are most likely to get better grade. If you write about topic that you are actually interested your passion, feelings and happiness will shine in it. Judges are people so they do have problems in their life and if you can somehow impact positively on their thought patterns they will start to love your writing. Also learn to write in parts where you first tell basic things about the subject you are going to present then you will deepen it and in the end you should have some kind of conclusion. Know what is the message you want to give, because without it you will sidetrack and your speech, conversation or in this case essay will lack consistency. Happy writings bro <3

@Rishabh R At the end of the day you better to stick learning to BE in moment rather than trying to understand it, because too much thinking leads to these kind of posts. Also I would advice you to write posts more clearly so people get better picture of what you want to ask. Just breath and quiet your overactive mind <3

@Rishabh R I suppose you ask does ONENESS and INFINITY mean same thing and yeah they point to the same thing with different "fingers".

@Vynce The thing here is to enjoy present moment whatever it is. See it like that if you enjoy watching good looking paintings then there will be time when you have painting in front of you that you don't like and that causes suffering in your present moment that you yourself made just by not accepting present moment as it was. If you do spirituality with picture that you will gain material goods for you, I see that you are doing it with wrong mentality. Point that you are missing is that seeking material goods will never make you as happy as BEING, because when your happiness comes from anything that is not present 24/7 you will suffer when present moment lacks of it. Spirituality as it's purest form is end of tomorrow and yesterday and start of NOW.

@Thewizardking I would say that this is benefical, because when you use psychedelics you really do not want anything "excess". Also why won't you just learn to be in moment with some beautiful music, because after all when you learn to enjoy present moment you have won the game so to speak. As I told someone in this forum that name of the game is not that who thinks most vividly, but who does not at all. Point of those guided meditation sessions are just to forget your body, but you can do that just quieting your mind and concentrating to something else.

"But I want to feel like I am in control" ... ... ... From control comes anxiety like you are having right now, but from surrending grows relief. "I wonder if all this is real?" ... ... ... What changes if the food you eat and enjoy is really there or not? "I honestly don't enjoy it when people come to me telling me their problems" ... ... ... First of all you should be grateful for being the one people ask help from, because you are important for them. Secondly you have responsibility in sense for what you say, because they trust your words. Shouldn't you enjoy being in place where you are giving back what you got from Universe or do you really wanna leave when it's time for paying back. You sure that this is not selfish act? Anyways if you still don't want to do that then why won't you just tell them that you won't help them anymore if that is what you truly want?

@undeather Thing here is that antidepressants are somehow seen as easy way out. Of course they do have their places in numerous of examples, but in most cases at least what I know antidepressants are being handed too easily to the patients. Antidepressant + therapy combo is very effective when the patient has hard time contemplating his/her feelings, thought patterns or past. Idea with antidepressants should be seen to help the patient face truths and accept them more effortlessly. Also we get to the another topic of not helping teens, before strong damage has happened. Yeah we have all kind of school therapists, but the help teens get is very weak. Yeah I also understand that changing negative thought patterns takes lot of time, but I would argue that doing things more carefully and with invistment of time, money and energy it would pay itself exponentially in the long run not only because we would have more people that are capable to work and give back to the society, but also, because everyone should be worth enough to live unbelievable beautiful life. Also learn not to call anything non sense, because if something didn't make sense to the one who is expressing him- /herself he/ she wouldn't have said that. So try to find reason why people think like the are thinking right now and only after that it is able to teach them to think more wisely and maybe you can also learn from their perspective. People do not suffer, because they know they think illogically, but because they for real think that their way of seeing things is the right one. Teach your fellows where they get their thinking wrong and that is the only wise way to help anyone with anything, because just calling someone illogical, stupid, lazy etc. won't help them to fix their thought patterns, but it only makes them more sad. I guess you want more happiness and not sadness to society so take this message not as argument, but as guidance and new step in life to be more friendly and loving to the Universe. I love you, because you have passion towards making people think more wisely <3

@NightHawkBuzz Sounds like you somehow wanna to impact world, because you talked so much about life will go without you. If that's the case find your passion and use that to make change in world. Remember still that life is not program in where you need to be important. Life is playfield where you should play all day long whatever you wanna to. Also, because you seem to have desire to be important it sounds to me that you think you can't do things or you think you are not loved. You are extremely important for your friends and family not because you have done something for them, but because you are what you are <3 You did very important thing when posting here, because now you gave possibility for people to help you. Please give more opportunities for people to help you and someday you can give all that you received exponentially back : ) I would advice you to seek for some therapy, because that would help you to recover from your negative thought patterns. When you go here some day remember my words about giving opportunity to help you, because there are loads of people who wants to help you. I accept you, you beautiful soul <3

@Bob Seeker You don't need to "overgrow" any stage it is only feature to stop people sitting here infinitely. There are no things that some stages can't do that some others can. Of course you can't go against what you want, but if you think about it what's the problem, because you wanted to do it anyways. So stage does not limit your action, but your desires. There are no things you absolutely need or should do so go and do whatever you want to do and that's the beauty of life. That's only true if you are in some stage, because you think you are supposed to be there. If you think you should make world better, because that is somehow morally right thing to do then don't do that. When thing you want to do matches spiral dynamics stage only then you can say you are in that stage. Because you have more broader way of seeing things I would say that you already are at stage green and that's good thing. Most important and simplest thing to understand about spiral dynamics is that Spiral dynamics is just map to track where you are not compass where you should go. Most important thing in life is to love being where you are and knowing you don't have to do anything : )

@WonderSeeker Hope that it somehow is valuable to someone : )