Harlen Kelly

@Opo If your partner intuitively knows that you could get another partner with ease, she will never ''deny'' you sex. Women deny sex in a relationship to men they know they can get away with, men that don't have options and that are pathetic. The solution is to embody the qualities that women find most attractive (confidence, passion, groundedness, charisma, etc.) and she will most likely be the one initiating sex.

A ''great man'' would not tolerate a ''no sex'' rule, why? Because a great man (confident, passionate, a leader, conscious) is attractive to other females and therefore has many options to choose from. A great man would not have to put up with something like that, he would simply get another partner. The guy is simply needy, codependent and a doormat.

''It's important that we save these defenseless, sublime females from the wrongdoings of these male monsters'' Lol

@StarStruck The fact that it is mainstream, does not mean it's not pathetic. Such a relationship is bad for the kids.

@Preety_India You should stop having sex with that person, not because having sex without commitment is ''bad'' or inherently creates suffering, but because you are emotionally attached to him and this relationship is creating suffering in your life. It isn't healthy because it's actively creating suffering. You won't be able to let go of hearts expectations because you are emotionally attached.

@Preety_India ''How can any human being even survive without expectations, wouldn't they end up dead sooner or later?'' That is exactly my point that you fail to understand, survival is selfishness which again does not make survival ''immoral'' or ''bad'', it simply makes your survival selfish. There is nothing wrong with wanting to have a monogamous relationship or a family for that matter, the problem occurs when you delude yourself into thinking that what you are doing is not survival and is not selfish. Your expectation for a monogamous relationship after a guy has sex with you will create unnecessary and deep suffering, it will also severely limit your psychological growth and development, this is painfully obvious and I am certain you intuitively know this. If you never had any expectations what would happen in practice (not in theory) is you would feel deeply connected and joyous with this moment. That's what happens in practice when you let go of expectations.

@Preety_India Wanting to have a monogamous relationship is selfish simply because its main objective is to advance and guarantee your survival (psychologically, emotionally and physically) that does not mean is a ''bad'' or ''immoral'' thing, but it is categorically selfish. Just like a guy wanting to have sex with multiple women is also selfish, categorically different than wanting to have a monogamous relationship but selfish nonetheless. Not only is the expectation of a monogamous relationship selfish, it also creates a lot of suffering for you. Why? Simply because you cannot force anybody to have a monogamous relationship with you, that is completely out of your control. Selfish does not necessarily mean bad, and there is nothing wrong with survival, you just have to survive consciously and don't delude yourself into thinking that your survival is ''above'' or ''pure''. It's just survival. By the way, the desire for a monogamous relationship is what I am describing as selfish, I am not talking about deep connections or emotional bonds. You can have deep connections and unconditional love for people without wanting to have a monogamous relationship with them, or projecting any expectations on them.

@Ferdi Le The same could be said for men. @Preety_India The factual, observable reality is that men don't owe you a monogamous relationship, and you don't owe men sexual relationships. The faster you realize this, the less you will suffer. The idea that a guy has to have a monogamous relationship with you after he nails you down is a made up, selfish expectation that will only create suffering. That rule only exists in your mind, you made it up. That also applies to all your other expectations. If somebody does not have the behavioral patterns you desire, you can simply meet somebody else, but unfortunately you cannot force a guy to be with you, and a guy cannot for you to have sex with him.

@somegirl You can do a lot better than him. A relationship with such a codependent person will not lead to personal growth or psychological development.

@StarStruck Only a very pathetic man would accept such a relationship.

@bensenbiz Eye contact and physical escalation is all you need to turn an interaction more sexual. After reaching the hooking point, and after she feels comfortable with you, look at her as if you want to f her brains out. You must exude this energy. No weird facial expressions, just intense eye contact and vicinity. She must intuit that if she is left alone with you, you will pull the trigger and nail her down.

Nofap will not lead to psychological development. You will not become more conscious by virtue of not fapping. By the way, guys who are successful with women, are usually very comfortable with their sexuality, therefore, they don't practice ''no fap''. But if you think no fap will fundamentally help your growth, go ahead.

@Roy Bingo

@fopylo Answer this question, why do nations become more sexually opened as they become more advanced and developed? Why do you think that happens?

@dflores321 Are you still an adolescent? You should not be ''retaining'' semen at that age, that can be potentially damaging.

@somegirl He is manipulative and incredibly pathetic. A good representation of a weak, codependent doormat.

@fopylo You meditate because meditation makes you more conscious. Sexual repression does not make you more conscious. Which does not mean or imply that you have to fap uncontrollably, it just means that the act of restricting sexual expression does not lead to psychological development. In fact, the least developed countries and nations are the most repressed sexually and the most advanced and progressive / liberal nations are the most open sexually. Why do you think that is? As humans become more developed psychologically they don't become more restrictive with their sexuality, they become more open.

@bejapuskas So what is your suggestion, should they both continue with the relationship?

@bejapuskas That is a very scarcity-oriented and naïve view you have. Wasting time with someone who is not compatible with you because of their idea of sexual expression is unnecessary and counterproductive. Delaying that relationship will only create more suffering for both parties. I am not saying the girl is a ''bad'' person for not wanting his boyfriend to masturbate to porn, they are just not compatible and that is totally fine. There are billions of people to choose from for both of them.

@Peter Miklis Why is being masculine not pleasant?

That is in fact creepy, I'll give you that.

@Husseinisdoingfine They are becoming an ever growing voice in the US. Look at the popularity of progressive politicians, particularly among young Americans.

@bejapuskas It would be a lot simpler if OP simply looks for a girl that likes watching porn with him, since he is into it. Problem solved. There is no way that relationship will work.

@bejapuskas She is getting jealous because he is masturbating to porn. It's pretty simple. If your girlfriend got mad at you for masturbating to porn, would you bend over backwards for her and stop masturbating to porn to please her? Or would you simply look for a more suitable and secure partner?

@bejapuskas It's just a matter of standards. There are hundreds of thousands of women that are psychologically and emotionally healthy. Putting up with somebody who has neurotic behavioral patterns is unnecessary and it's a sign you have low standards.