Harlen Kelly

@Kambido Who is the world saying you should love? I am confused.

@Kambido There are very attractive women from every race possible. There are unattractive women from every race as well. ''Hotness'' is not dependent on race or color.

Older women are less attractive to men, particularly for the very successful top 10% men, therefore they have less options. They have a smaller range of men to choose from because they are overall less desirable for the vast majority of men, therefore, they are less selective. They might apply selectiveness more rigorously with the options they do have due to experience and maturity. By definition the quality of man older women can attract is significantly lower than the quality of man a youthful, attractive woman can attract because the most prominent attraction trigger for the vast majority of men (particularly men with access to attractive women) is looks and younger women tend to look better than older women. To believe otherwise is denial and deception.

@Onecirrus Let's assume you are objectively ugly as a thought experiment, what is fundamentally wrong with being ''ugly'' if you stop deriving your sense of self from your appearance?

@ivankissBeing prejudiced about someone's sexual preferences is not the best strategy to understand that sexual preference or to help the person who has a ''perverted'' or ''nasty'' sexual preference.

OP has an aversion to masculinity.

@Heart of Space Don't you think you might be overreacting? Also, shouldn't we strive to be respectful and not use foul language to raise the standards of the forum?

@ivankiss How is it damaging?

@ivankiss Being her daddy, or playing out any kink for that matter is not a sign of ''desperation'', it's a sign of sexual openness and lack of judgement towards sexual activities, as long as that kink does not create collateral damage.

@ivankiss Just be her daddy dude, no big deal.

Welcome to the forum! There is no easy way to do this, you must expose yourself and interact with women in order to get good at interacting with women. Try doing visualization everyday for 10 minutes, that can help you a lot. What happens after you get good at reliably and consistently attracting beautiful women is that the almost fantastical idea you had of dating beautiful women disappears, it becomes normalized in your brain and it's not a big deal anymore.

@Javfly33 So human beings don't cause emotional and physical suffering to other human beings, is that what you are implying?

@fopylo It's a lot easier to get friends and form deep meaningful connections when you are at peace internally and exude positive energy.

@knakoo Vaush did a video about it.

@Max Green She needs to get a job and get out as soon as possible. The sooner the better. You don't owe her free rent or anything for that matter, and living together in that situation will just create a very toxic dynamic. By the way, besides your performance in the bedroom, what really turned her off about you was your lack of respect for yourself and neediness. Take that in consideration for your next relationship.

@RendHeaven Without the usage of foul language, how could you infer that I am overacting? Your perspective on what women go through because of men is childish and juvenile. The reality is that both men and women cause each other tremendous suffering.

@Max Green Let me get this straight, you are waiting until she finds another partner who she can move in with and in the meantime you are allowing her to stay at your apartment?

That's not the reason why that person commented ''grow some fucking walls''. That person got triggered due to they way the topic frames women as commodities. Getting triggered and neurotically overreacting is not what particularly smart people do. That's a dull-witted attitude.

@WaveInTheOcean You did not engage intellectually with the post.

@Emerald Suggesting ''just build your own friend group/network'' it's easy to say from my point of view or your point of view. But what about the people who lack the skills to socialize and are starting from zero. There is a fundamental dynamic you are missing in the behavioral patterns of a man with no sex appeal or friends. For such a man, he would have to come in contact with or interact with people in order to form connections with them and he would have to develop basic social skills not to drive those people away. This is obvious.

So, your thesis is that it will basically autocorrect itself as society moves to a more communal stage of consciousness.

@Etherial Cat Sure.

1 - I joined the forum not too long ago, like a month ago. So, I don't understand what you are alluding to. 2 - Discussing what attracts women with women is a complete waste of time and I will not be engaging in that discussion, simply because there is not benefit to it. Unless you are interested in attracting women, in that case it would be different.

@Etherial Cat Most women are in denial of what attracts them because they are unaware and sugarcoat the qualities in men that turns them on. That applies to you and most unaware women. It's in their best interest to be in denial about what attracts them for survival reasons. What makes me an expert with women? The same thing that makes an architect an expert in construction or a professor an expert in teaching: a large amount of experience with a significant amount of women.

@fopylo Why do you care? Would you care if you were present to the moment experiencing peace?