Harlen Kelly

She might friendzone you if you just met her and are becoming needy.

@StarStruck Lol, it's ok, don't beat yourself up. Go for the kiss (preferably for the lay) next time you meet her. If this event affects your emotions negatively and she notices that, your chances of getting her will be slim to none. Something else, there are 100s of millions of blondes, if it does not work out with her then meet somebody else.

@assx95 What about having a healthy relationship with your sexuality? Ejaculating in moderation instead of total repression on one end of the spectrum or jerking off 4 times a day on the other end of the spectrum.

So, are you consciously choosing who you are attracted to or is the entire process unconscious and automatic like the beat of your heart? If your answer is yes, where is the agent that is taking the decision located?

The process of attraction is unconscious, automatic and irrational. It is done for you, there is not a free agent that is deciding what to feel attracted to, just like your heart is beating automatically without any input from you. You (and most people) value how attractive you are to other people for the same reason that you value water of food, it's a basic survival need. It's just survival. Sure, you don't have to participate in the game if you don't want to. I agree 110% with this. Most guys who do that are insecure and sexually repressed.

@mivafofa A bit of makeup is ok. Too much makeup is a big no. Attraction in general is ruthless and harsh for both men and women.

@MatteO22 Lol. That was indeed funny.

@Raptorsin7 There is definitely an element of subjectivity to what most males are attracted to but most of the traits that most males from different cultures find attractive are traits that can and could guarantee survival more efficiently during the caveman days such as: fit, wide hips, large breast, etc.. In regards to unattractive women, they will simply have a smaller pool of men to choose from.

@Raptorsin7 Trigger

@Raptorsin7 Most men are primarily attracted to how a woman looks, given that you are a man is completely normal and expected.

@tatsumaru Anyways, self amusement is an essential part of behaving charismatically and confidently. You can and should laugh at your own jokes, just don't over do it.

You are seriously asking your mom your dating advice, how old are you?

@tatsumaru According to who is it a turn off?

@Parththakkar12 That's not an answer to the very simple question I asked.

@Parththakkar12 Are you a trumper by any chance?

@Windappreciator You might want to watch the video again. If you can't see the difference between an average conspiracy theorist / dullard and Leo, I can't help you.

@Parththakkar12 Credibility is a subjective notion, some sources are more credible than others. Joe the dullard is not credible nor trustworthy, which you cannot comprehend yet. The scientific establishment is infinitely more credible than dullards on youtube or facebook which is right now your main source of information. Notice how you are using joe the dullard as a source of information.

@Windappreciator That leo is not disseminating conspiracy theories and denigrating the importance of science unlike joe the imbecile.

@Windappreciator Leo is not disseminating misinformation about conspiracy theories, leo is mainly talking about spirituality.

There is truth to that but dullards tend to place more credibility on joe in his basement or fringe sources than regular mainstream media. Which does not mean that mainstream media is always correct but it is more credible than joe in his basement. That's how dull-witted ideologies such as qanon spread, when not very bright people place more credibility on joe the pseudointellectual than regular media or scientists.

@Parththakkar12 What makes you think joe the pseudointellectual on YouTube is more credible than the scientific establishment? Can you not see the level of dull-wittedness and brainlessness of your position?

There is nothing to worry about, it's a braindead conspiracy theory entertained by dullards. What makes you think Joe in his basement or a ''fringe'' source is more credible than mainstream media? Do you understand that trumpers think exactly like you, and trumpers are not the most brilliant people as everybody already knows. Believing conspiracy theories does not make you special, it makes you gullible and unscientific.

@4201 For a person that is having issues with socializing like hardkill as an example and has been having those issues for their entire life, the advice ''follow your intuition'', ''follow feeling'', ''be yourself'' is correct in theory, in practice it does not help that person at all. What you are saying is not necessarily incorrect but it does not, at all, help somebody who is unable to connect with others because for them ''be yourself'' means doing what they have been doing and what they have been doing is not working. Letting go is a behavioral pattern that can help you connect faster with others, not analyzing too much is another one, etc.

@4201 Do you understand that some behavioral patterns are more effective at eliciting attraction or creating friendships than others? If a set of behavioral patterns were sabotaging your ability to connect with other people, shouldn't you strive to replace them for better behavioral patterns?

@4201 If you have a certain behavioral pattern that is pushing people away but you believe it is a good behavioral pattern, does the behavioral pattern become a ''good'' behavioral pattern just because you believe is good? Personalities are not good or bad, certain behavioral patterns are more effective than others when interacting with people. The statement ''your personality is never bad'' does not make any sense simply because some behavioral patterns can be detrimental for your growth and your ability to interact with others. Being emotionally attached to a behavioral pattern that is detrimental for you is not very rational.