Harlen Kelly

My point is the following: your take is incredibly naïve and unwise. If implemented, it would lead to more suffering and less consciousness.

What is wrong with enjoying a hobby in moderation (video games in this case)? Is it objectively wrong to enjoy something you like that is not creating collateral damage to other people? Being conscious and partaking in a hobby of yours are not mutually exclusive, you actually enjoy your hobbies more when you are conscious.

I have bad news for you, most hetero men judge women based on their looks automatically, unconsciously and that will not change just because it makes you feel insecure. That is biologically ingrained on men to get the healthiest woman possible to reproduce with. The ''value'' you think you will lose is a complete fiction, you don't have any value because value does not exist, it is not an inherent, observable property of reality in other words, you have infinite value. The actual solution to your problem is to stop deriving your sense of self from your appearance and instead ground your sense of self on the entirety of reality, that is the long-term solution to your issue. Any skin care or other procedure you part take in will not work because your appearance will keep deteriorating exponentially as you grow older, that's part of being a human being.

Don't you think you might be dumbing down a phenomenon that the best scientist don't fully understand yet?

@DreamScape Lol. What you cannot see is how your position would counterintuitively lead to more suffering and pain instead of less. That is not very ''high-conscious'' in my opinion.

@DreamScape That was a laughably naïve comment.

@Vzdoh That example (the chick who slept with 11 guys after break up) obviously entails a woman who is emotionally wounded. This is actually more simple to comprehend than you think. Let's use weed as an example. There are people who use weed to escape from their emotions, and there are people psychologically developed who smoke weed out of an innate and genuine desire without getting attached to the substance. There are people who eat in order to escape from their emotions and stuff down trauma, and there are other people who genuinely enjoy a variety of food without using it as some type of mechanism to escape reality. Analogously, there are people who indeed use sex to escape and run away from their emotions while there are others who do it out of a genuine desire for connection and sex with multiple people. Saying ''ALL'' human beings share x,y,z characteristic because of a specific behavioral pattern is and will always be a fallacy because humans are complex. You are projecting your ineptitudes on other women.

@Lucas-fgm Be careful not to develop animosity towards women, that will only reduce the quality of your life. I am not saying you are, just a warning.

My claim is that everything you stated are merely unsounded beliefs. Those are not factual, observable, empirical statements.

@MatteO22 Not everybody who has regular sex is engaging in escapism. That is not a factual, observable, scientific statement. That is simply an unsounded belief. There are people who use sex ( or any other activity ) mainly to escape but that is not the case with everybody. ''Can people slut shame ? For sure, but is ultimately sleeping around healthy and sustainable ? Nope. Not really. Is me saying this slut shaming ? Nope.'' That is a very unsophisticated and dull-witted conclusion. Human behavior cannot be so simplified like you just did. To accurately and thoroughly determine the psychological health of a person one needs to do a deep analysis because human behavior is complex.

@Vzdoh You are extrapolating your ineptitudes on other people. I don't mean to attack you or anything, but not every woman who enjoys sex with multiple people is doing it out of desire to cope with a negative emotion. That is a fallacy. Usually people who are that judgmental about sex have a neurotic relationship with their sexuality.

@Vzdoh Are all women with a high body count psychologically damaged from your point of view? Maybe the percentage is higher but they don't want to share that information because then they will be judged, sort of like what you are doing right now.

@Bando Yup, the average woman has waay more sex than you can possibly imagine, which is not necessarily a negative thing. That chick when asked how many partners she's had, will answer something like 8. That's what women typically do.

@John Iverson This is a very good example. Observe his behavior.

I thought you as a woman would defend women who were open sexually instead of shaming them. I could understand that behavior coming from an unexperienced guy but not from a woman. Open your mind to the possibility that there are women who simply like having sex with multiple people and have no issues expressing that desire. And that doesn't imply that they are psychologically behindert in any way.

@kever There are ''nice'' and ''not so nice'' people from every possible level of psychological development.

That's not an argument. That's a silly, nonsensical comment.

@StarStruck @StarStruck Your mind will concoct all types of stories to make sure you don't go out of your comfort zone. Just observe the thoughts and don't give them too much importance. Don't believe your thoughts, observe them.

@Preety_India Fatuous take.

@StarStruck Just pull her for god's sake. Whatever happens, happens. You might have a great time with her and if you don't, who cares.

@StarStruck Not necessarily, but I want you to pull her to your apartment after vibing with her and kissing her the next time you meet her. This should be your goal. You must get on the habit of pulling chicks as soon as you can to your apartment. This is easier when the date takes place close to your apartment which is ideal for logistics.

@StarStruck I will also highly advise you to choose carefully which advise you are going to take, because if you take every advise on this thread about this situation seriously, you will have paralysis by analysis and will end up not pulling the trigger with the chick. Focus on the advise that will help you accomplish what you want to accomplish with her and disregard the rest. This is an excuse, pull her to wherever you plan to have sex with her even if you don't plan to have sex with her, just pull her.

@StarStruck NO. Dude, you will blow this. Vibe with her, talk about topics that elevate your and her emotional state, kiss her on a high emotional state, move her around, pull her and nail her. Your focus should be fun and having a good time. You can get into serious stuff after you nail her, not before.

@Shin It's not that simple when you haven't met or interacted with women for a long time like OP.

Relax, as I said already there is an almost unlimited amount of beautiful women. You must understand and embody this reality in order to calm down if it doesn't work out with her for whatever reason. NOTE: Next date try to go for the lay, I am confident you can pull that off with that chick. How? Meet her as close from your apartment or wherever you plan to have sex with her as possible. Meet her, vibe with her, get in closer, kiss her, move her around the area, pull her, nail her.