Harlen Kelly

@bejapuskas There is a considerable amount of assuming on your comment. If you want to know my stance on a particular topic, ask me concisely.

@assx95 You are not the first nor the last guy to have issues dating women, but fortunately you are still very young and you definitely can turn things around. Are you interested in improving this area of your life? If yes, what are you actively doing to improve this area of your life?

If your dating life is holding you back in terms of your self-esteem, move a to a city with a highly dense population. Since you are already successful in other facets of your life as you mentioned, this should be easy. Get on the habit of interacting regularly with other people and go out at least 3 times a week, preferably with a social circle of friends who have similar goals. Habits that can considerably increase your chances of behaving confidently and exuding positive energy: meditation, clean up your diet and exercise. Your life and your predominant emotional state outside of the dating scene is just as important as your life inside the dating scene which is the reason why it's advisable to perform daily activities that put you in a happy/positive emotional state (such as the activities I already mentioned). It will be challenging to go out regularly if you don't have a social circle or a couple of wingmen. You don't necessarily need to become very proficient with women to overcome your self-esteem issues, but if you feel like you have to get this part of your life sorted out, by all means do it.

Women particularly despise needy or weak behavior. I understand your situation and trust me when I tell you that it can get a lot better, crazy levels of better but you had to continue developing your social skills. Why did you stop? Did you have a wingman?

@Epikur I would have never thought in a million years this was the case. Very strange

@Raptorsin7 Safe spaces.

@Etherial Cat My comment was directed at her take, not the person. Her comment was directed at me, interesting that you don't find her comment offensive isn't it? There is no reason to suffer, just use the hide button.

@MatteO22 There is a hide option, if you don't like the way I state my opinions you already know what to do. Send me a private message and I'll teach how to do it.

@Etherial Cat Which one of these statements is more ''aggressive'' or offensive, one is directed at an opinion (take) and the other is directed at a person? You are indeed impartial, aren't you.

You are indeed a very rare and aware female. Most women would not admit that in a thousand years.

@Vzdoh I have noticed that most women on the forum unfortunately romanticize dating too much and don't admit this reality. You are an exception for sure. - Sugarcoating what they are attracted to (which most women do), very predictable. - Giving advice about a fantastical ideal of dating instead of the actual interaction women and men usually have.

Very thought-provoking.

@MatteO22 What specifically is aggressive about that statement? Be specific

Fatuous, dull-witted take.

In the real world, not in a fantasy, not taking the lead and not being assertive is a turn off for women.

You are definitely a keeper. Good girl! *I am teasing.

@mivafofa Read my response to your message again. My point was that you should be as interested in pleasing your man as the man should be interested in pleasing you. If you don't agree with that statement, you are biased towards women, which is totally understandable but does not necessarily lead to an interdependent relationship or holistic understanding.

I agree, that's the point I was trying to make. Not men prioritizing the needs of a woman over his own as @mivafofa suggested, or the other way around, but both working cooperatively and synergistically.

@Preety_India Of course, we are not going to brush away the false allegations and how detrimental they can be, but the real issue statistically speaking is women getting brutally raped. We shouldn't lose sight of this fact. Focusing on the statistical minority as opposed to the statistical majority would create more suffering.

@mivafofa I know, I was trying to highlight that your perspective is highly biased towards women. My response was mimicking yours.

Quick question, why do you exhibit more compassion for the statistical minority of men who get falsely accused than for the statistical majority of women whose brutal rape goes unpunished? Don't you think that's flawed thinking?

I perfectly understand what you are trying to convey but those cases are the minority. If you study the statistics you will soon realize that the real issue is rapes going unpunished and not women making false allegations. There are women who falsely accuse men of rape but statistically and factually speaking, those are the exceptions. Focusing on those cases to delegitimize the veracity of an accusation is doing a disservice to real victims of rape and it's not based on facts or statistical studies.

The issue is that this is not a balanced take at all, did you know that approximately 80% of rapes go unpunished? I mean brutal rapes, not misunderstandings or confusions. Due diligence has to to be done to determine the veracity of a rape accusation, but it also has to be taken into account the sheer amount of women who get brutally raped and never get justice, which is the majority unfortunately.

Are you just going to care about your pleasure as a woman? If you are able to tune in to his desires before yours is a good way to make a man feel wanted. How else do you think a man would want to have sex with you? Your perspective is highly biased towards women, which is understandable.

I understand the sentiment and the balanced view, but the vast majority of brutal rapes ( knifes, beating, kidnapping, etc.. ) go unpunished. A balanced view would take this fact into consideration.