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Lol.

I may have been way too careless and insensitive. Thanks for the friendly note. I will work on improving that in the future. Although, I still won't take back what I said.

No need to suppose. I confirm this to be the case. Everyone wants to have sex. It just so happens that women control the market these days. So women have become the bosses and men the employees. So of course from a woman's perspective it seems like desperation to hold on to every chance for sex because they have all the sex. But from a man's perspective it very much seems like getting a promotion and only a fool would throw that away. In fact, you can see how an employee can get crazy and make parties if they got a very little promotion after years of hard work, while bosses can lose millions in a minute and not care. It's the same thing here. Not much rocket science. But of course no woman has empathy or understanding of the male struggle, because they're too selfish to care, so that's why they're judgemental and insensitive and cutthroat. And that's fine by me. I accept the game as it is. And I don't care about the labels.

Fine by me. Oh wait, she's playing footsie with me in my bed. Kids play innocent footsie too, right?

It doesn't make any difference to me why women play their games. Some play hard to get simply for attention, some for selection, others for God knows why. For me, I still can't go up to a girl and ask for sex directly, which I sure would love to. And what's up with the judgemental/misogynistic terminology? Should I report this or is it acceptable if a woman uses it?

Oh yeah? Well, that doesn't convince me as a judge. I'm imitating a courtroom setting where she would have to defend her case against a lawyer. I can sympathize with her, but in the courtroom facts weigh more than feelings. Let's look at the facts again: She went home with a dude, which means she trusted him at first. Then she changed her mind and withdrew the trust when she was alone with him. Suddenly she became afraid. However, she didn't act like that. She didn't stand up to leave. Rather, she stayed. So he pushed until she gave up. I'm not saying that's perfectly fine. For example, I haven't and wouldn't push that far. But it's also not rape. And that should be made clear to her and everyone, because anyone could be in her or his shoes. The lesson for me is that I should not push too far when the woman is not receptive, but if I did and she consented, then it's not rape. At best it's a grey area case and I could easily get myself out of it. The lesson for women would be to be decisive and clear that no intercourse is happening under any circumstances, and you communicate that by getting up and leaving. Now if the guy stopped you and forced you into sex, that would be rape. It's as clear as day.

@Etherial Cat I'm just playing that dude's lawyer in case you chose to file a report at the time. If you have no answer, then the case is closed.

So you're at that dude's apartment and you just want to stay the night, but you're not willing to get up and leave if he's disturbing you. Doesn't seem like a firm no to me. It seems like you chose to exchange sex for sleeping there instead of going back home because it's easier.

One firm no would have been enough. See, lots of women say no in a nilly willy way just to test a man's perseverance, so how should a man distinguish between a test and an actual rejection? I am all for that. And I am for women developing their boundaries and communication, too.

I'm sorry but it's not that obvious to me. How exactly was it rape if you consented? You didn't say no. How should he know to stop? Had you said no, then yeah I am 100% with you.

On what basis?

You can't become a grown-up if your child needs aren't met. Like, you can't buy stuff if you don't have enough money. But also don't get stuck on getting your needs met like Peter Pan, or like Elon Musk. There's a fine line between addiction and satisfying unmet needs. Don't try to kill the child, and always keep looking up to becoming a more responsible person. Return to the real world. Find the right balance for you. It's a simple concept, but it's not always easy to actualize.

At the very least she understands the fact that he's a virgin and she's not repelled by it. Such a great chance for a starter. Telling him to develop a better game and giving him the time to do that.

Of course he will. Nobody wants to start a world war, and Putin knows that very well, so he will push that limit as far as he can.

Start by reading a book or two about logical fallacies. I don't have any suggestions in English, but I don't think finding a high quality book will be hard.

The public/central park. My favorite meditation spot.

Nah. I'm too happy to entertain such thoughts.

If we consider work suffering, then life is about 30-40% suffering. Add as much for sleep, and consider random events that can cause you suffering, and you're left with about 10% precious gift. I think most humans experience about only that.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_Pan_syndrome

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Whether in the east or the west, you see a girl, you like her physical appearance, then you go through a certain route to gain access to sex. There are various routes, although currently easier in the west, but they're essentially the same. These categories you're creating are irrelevant. Nobody in the more traditional societies cares about compatibility. They care about physical appearance, money, status/family/personal relations, religion/faith, and things like that. Personal compatibility is not one of those things because eastern societies are not individualistic. At best the concept of compatibility is not as sophisticated as you would imagine since the man has the dominant role in the relationship. So either the woman submits to her husband, or she gets divorced, which is a bad reputation, so most women submit eventually because the last word is for the man and he doesn't have to split anything with the woman except what they agreed to beforehand. Or if he doesn't have options and/or she's really smart and manipulative, the dynamic is reversed. But there's not even the thought or discussion about compatibility for most people, even in the west I doubt most people care about anything more than their pragmatic needs of the other person, but at least in the west it's easier and more possible to actualize it, unlike in the east. I live in the middle-east, btw.

I don't think you get it. But that's fine, you can read my posts again. I'm done here.

It depends on where this is happening. If it's in your imagination, then it's because I'm a sick manipulative bastard. Otherwise, in reality, it's because that's the truth and/or right thing to say.

@Preety_India Not true, because I might like her, and might not. The two scenarios are possible, so I'm only being truthful. A lot of women understand that having a vagina does not automatically grant a man's companionship.

@Preety_India Sure.