Gesundheit2

Masculinity.

Usually when I have enough free time and no notifications, I start by opening the general forums tabs that I visit the most all at once. Then I begin opening threads generally based on posting activity, member participation, and title. Then I start reading and see where that leads me. Tip: The middle mouse button opens links in one click.

Wrong. Trick question. I don't have any.

How long is my penis?

There's only like 130 members there overall, but many of them were active here including myself, so that's probably a huge component of it. I'm currently testing the waters there, and so far this forum is far better. Higher quality information and insights, and less victims and drama. However, if this incident taught me one thing, it's that you can never please all people no matter what you do. Some people will love you and others will hate no matter how good you are or try to be. And this applies to both sides. Exactly! Haha. Some of the comments there are disgusting to say the least.

The masculine actually works (Leo), and the feminine sits around, gossips, and judges (Nahm's forum in a nutshell).

I think what you're referring to here is the masculine side of realization. Most of Buddhism seems to point to the feminine side. I think both sides are important and need integration in order to produce a healthy person with healthy relationships with the world. As of this thread, these awake teachers seem to lack integration of the feminine side, which you seem to be doing a lot better at while struggling a little bit with it.

But you always suggest that awakening/higher consciousness is the same thing as selflessness, and vice-versa.

In my experience, Actualized.org is an incredibly great and useful platform in general because of Leo's content and the information shared on the forum. Everyone knows I'm no angel, but the worst thing about actualized is its moderation team. They can be and do a lot better, imo.

Finally cracked the code for why sexual attraction works the way it does. So, there are two sides for neediness: Actual neediness, caused by an excess of desire/starvation/etc. This applies to the needy person, but we're not concerned with this here. Perceived neediness, which manifests in the form of unusual (typically faster) escalation/development of a relationship to a certain thing(s). This applies to the supplier person, which is the secret to attraction. However, women perceive neediness in men in two opposite/contradictory ways: If a man is being nice and indirect about his attraction, she'll perceive him as needy in a negative way. She will think that he is treating her nice because he doesn't have any other choice so playing unnecessary games is his only option, which makes him look needy. The right way to treat someone you just met is not niceness, rather it's formal and polite. So being nice in this case is like seeking to develop the relationship beyond where it actually is and faster than it should. If a man is being tact while pushing towards sex early on, she'll perceive him as needy but in a positive way, a way that appeals to her deepest desire of being desired for herself. She will then go along and surrender and then fulfill her and his desires. So here it becomes obvious how the subconscious mind can dominate the conscious mind by affecting perception. The same ugly neediness in the abstract has become attractive for that reason.

You're absolutely right! And I am working on it.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCx9A9jvMm187aRwhnojUi1w LMFAO! WTF is this?! A bunch of masculine women conspiring against men. I can feel the wounds screaming, but I'll just LMFAO! If this proves one thing, it's that most of the sex goes to the shittiest guys, which means that shitty behavior actually physically and literally attracts women. Women love and reward scumbags the most, and they hate and get repelled by "nice guys", and then they wonder and complain why their relationships fail. What a joke! My thoughts are that these women who sound very hurt had (and still have) shitty personalities (obviously), so no sane man would commit to them. And because men won't commit, they kept jumping from one dude to another, so it's only logical that at some point they ended up with a psychopath who did actually hurt and ruin them forever, which I really don't have any sympathy for. You make poor decisions, you get poor results. End of discussion. But I've always been a stoic, keep your friends close and your enemies closer. This is only ammo for my arsenal. Not all women are like this (only a minority), there are wonderful women (also a minority), but it's good to know your enemy, especially at the extremes. It's especially good because it clears the confusion and cuts through the BS some women here say. At least these "women" are speaking the truth about how they think and manipulate and what sex means to them, or at least to the ideal "Queens" they wish to become. They call themselves "Queens". LMFAO! I'll be watching and taking notes. They don't show their faces, so I'm guessing they're fat/ugly.

Thanks! That is an excellent point. I think rarity in this case correlates positively with the presupposition. In other words, critiques from above are rare, and that's also the case for constructive, non-judgemental, etc. criticisms. And since both of the definitions are rare, then they must be the same thing.

I try to keep an open mind all the time, but still. In my whole life, I've never dealt with criticism as much as the criticism I've gotten from the Actualized forum, both from members and moderators. Most people in real life just deal with me normally, and my relationships with others are good overall, at least that's how it seems to me at the moment. Even when I was at my worst (psychotic, neurotic, delusional, religious, dogmatic dickhead), rarely did anyone tell me to change my behaviors, even though I literally used to ask my friends all the time to be brutally honest with me whenever they thought I needed to change. Although, some people did reduce or even cut contact with me at the time. And now, after getting rid of the dickhead I was before, I never get criticism anymore, literally none except from the Actualized forum, not even verbal fights or even tensions, unless of course someone steps on my boundaries, which is where I activate the chimp mode haha. But to be fair, I don't socialize as much as before so I may be wrong. But maybe it's hard to criticize someone directly in their face, maybe the way I carry myself prevents people from thinking about criticizing me, or maybe people talk about me behind my back, but anyway. None of us is perfect. Everyone is a work-in-progress. That's how I see the world and people around me. So now, how do you know if someone is actually bringing up a valid point about your behavior? I know I know, someone is going to say there aren't any right or wrong behaviors, but let's be practical for now. Morality is relative to society, not absolutely relative, as Jordan Peterson says. And I'm not even really concerned with the moral aspect of the question. I'm mostly asking about the practical aspect. When someone tells someone else to change, what is really the case there? And why doesn't that someone change themselves instead of telling others to change? There are two sides of the equation. Either I change my behavior, or the other person accepts it as normal. So, how do we decide who should be the one to change? Can we find a middle-ground?

How did the world change from "I fucked her" to "I got laid" directly without going through the "We had sex" phase?

Ahhhh! The Arrivals! It was my only contact with conspiracy theories, and since I was an Arab Muslim, I totally bought it. I was 15-16 years old at the time. Looking back, I just feel dumb for taking them seriously.

The cons of feminism outweigh the pros. It's a net loss for humanity. I see bitter, resentful, resisting, and worst of all masculine females all across the board. The more a woman is subscribed to that toxic ideology, often the worse she is as a person. It's an ideology made for tyrants and it creates more tyranny and misery for everyone. There's nothing empowering about feminism. Real power comes from within, it doesn't require an ideology. Powerful women exist, and they're not feminist in that sense. They simply know who they are and what they're worth.

If there's so much distance between you two, how can this "relationship" develop any further?

There's something sobering about owning one's ego instead of throwing it into the shadow.

I've written a long post about my spiritual journey throughout the last decade, but it was gone because I lost internet connection right when I pressed submit. Long story short, fuck God.

You guys still watch these click-bait videos?