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He's just saying throw away all your fantasies of what you think Truth is, cuz it's not what you think it is. When you say truth is spiritual, that implies certain thoughts and/or emotions that you are associating with Truth as if Truth could not exist without them. Notice these thoughts and emotions, and throw them in the garbage. They are not Truth, but rather an invention of the mind/body.

Good judgement comes from wisdom. And wisdom comes from: 1) knowledge (theory) and 2) experience (practice). Generally, the older you get, the wiser you become. If that's not the case for you, then you're probably doing something wrong. Young people are naïve and poor judges because they don't have enough knowledge about life nor much experience of it, which is why dating life sucks the younger you are. To have knowledge, you have to read books, listen to other, more experienced, and typically older people, contemplate for yourself, etc. And to have experience, you have to socialize a lot, get into tough situations, be risky and fearless, etc. You simply can't expect to just sit alone at home and become wise. Life just doesn't work like that. Nobody is going to deliver knowledge for you or spoon-feed it to you unless you ask for it at least. The good news is that all the knowledge in the world is available for you mostly for free in our time, thanks to the internet. The bad news is that it takes time and might lead you down certain toxic rabbit holes if you're not careful enough. As for earning more experience, there's really no other option than going out and socializing. No amount of books or smart advice could replace that. That being said, men tend to be generally more wiser than women (at least they used to be), mostly because they have more knowledge and experience, although that seems to be declining as equality is improving and as a lot of boys replace real life experience with video games. But even before video games, the convention is that men should look for younger women than them, because women mature earlier both physically and mentally. Turns out, I'm not sure which gender is wiser, after all. We need statistics.

There's a difference between witty communication and cryptic communication. You can do one without the other. But unfortunately, that doesn't seem the case for some people. When more than a few people complain about not being able to understand what you're saying time and time again, the least you could do to clarify your good intentions is to try to "level down" your language to something that an ordinary person could understand, not to double down and get even more cryptic. That just shows inflated ego and/or lack of humility.

Where?

As friends, yes.

I don't know if it's completely true, but some people suggest that older women, unlike the younger ones, are more mature and tend to be looking for stability over charisma. So with that in mind, it's probably a charisma problem. If you had more charisma, you would attract younger girls. But there's also the desperation factor. The older a woman gets while still single, the more desperate she becomes, so that she will not have high standards anymore and basically anyone will work. That is a known fact and it makes perfect sense when you think about it, but you will be called misogynistic if you say it out loud. There's also the social circle factor. For a cougar, locking down a stable younger man is like the holy grail in dating. She will have validation that she's still hot and "got it", her family will think she's socially valuable, and her female friends will be jealous. I once dated an older woman (33-34), I was naïve and thought she liked me and that it was all natural and authentic. I used to have a certain amount of social status so that's what she was after for the most part. Later I realized she was both desperate and manipulating me mainly for social show off => Quickly into the dumpster.

She can have self-respect, just not mine nor the tribe's.

The market is filled with assholes and simps, but not the perfect combination of each. Assholes are exciting but abusive, and simps are safe but boring. It's hard to be a good judge when all you have to pick from is mostly garbage. Sorry, but great guys are ultra rare. And this is coming from a garbage guy.

@Someone here

Happiness is awesome, and a great goal in the beginning, but it's not everything nor the end of the line. It's just one mode of being. There's more to life than just being happy.

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@playdoh Feeling your emotions could be done unconsciously. In fact, that's the default mode for most people. Most people are not really aware of their emotions. They just happen and they react to them in accordance to their default cultural programming. In which case, I would question even the term "feeling", cuz really it's mostly just thinking. But typically, in spirituality/shadow work/self-help, feeling your emotions refers to a different thing from the above. It refers to a practice or a set of practices that assume that you have a blockage in the heart chakra and that you are too numb to feel your emotions. So it's mostly about clearing blockages, finding emotional clarity, bringing forth the right energy when needed, knowing what you want, overcoming fear and developing courage, trusting the guts, connecting with intuition, integrating the feminine, etc. Watching your emotions, on the other hand, is done mainly by taking the previous and actively applying awareness to it. Possibly through the labeling technique or some other technique(s). It's mostly about observing the thoughts that accompany the various emotions that you're already feeling. So watching emotions is the next level of just feeling them. You can't watch your emotions without feeling them, but you can feel your emotions without watching them.

@Danioover9000 Dude, I think you just gave me a stroke. I thought it's Yarco the apolitical commenting.

Who is doing that? Can you name them in person? Personally, I want a pure girlfriend. I don't care if she's too picky. In fact, the more the better (to a reasonable extent, of course), because that means she has high standards and I pass all of them, which confirms to me that I'm high value. Now, if she's only too picky with me, but would quickly jump into bed with another man, then we have a red flag problem and we are not compatible and I would filter her out immediately if not even before.

I agree, feminism surely is a patriarchal trap. I agree, but this time for real.

The answer doesn't have to be definitive. You can say that it's an area that you relate to and find interesting and have been spending some time lately on discovering. This way, you will remain truthful and you won't provide false information or appear delusional or brainwashed by a cult. In fact, you will likely appear very mature and aware to most people unless they're incredibly dogmatic and closed-minded.

@Tyler Robinson Yes, we can't know for sure. There will always be a leap of faith at some point. But there are general rules and guidelines that are laid out for us by other men and women. Naivety comes from ignoring these guidelines, and the only person to get hurt will be the naive person themselves and nobody else.

This is where it gets tricky. It could be the fault of either genders or both. But generally speaking if a woman has a lot of sexual history with different dudes, that means one of two things, or sometimes both. She's either poorly vetting them in the first place (naive person), or she's actually a bad partner (horrible person), or both at the same time. In the first case, it's both her fault and the guys' fault, which doesn't excuse anyone. But if I am to ignore this, that will make me naive like her. It's just a good filter for vetting good women for long term partnership and family. Obviously, this is not the case in all cases, and clearly some women might be just unlucky. But like I said, it's a useful filtering technique. Maybe other men will, but I'm not going to take my chances with them on the offshoot that this one girl could be an exception. Cheating or sleeping around while in a committed relationship is a different topic and I have different views on it. My general rule of thumb there is that it's okay as long as it's a secret. I understand that women can crave different tastes of men sometimes, and vice-versa. But if she is doing it publicly, then she's disrespectful and I'm not going to take that. I'm just not going to be the enlightened postmodern cuck that is okay with open relationships. Do whatever you like undercovers, just don't let me and/or others know.

@Tyler Robinson It's not being naughty that's the problem. I myself like a naughty woman. But if that woman is incapable of being in a long term relationship with one dude, then we have a problem. It means that she can't keep company with one person for too long, for whatever reasons, and that makes her an unsafe environment for my children. She's just not family material.

The analogy solely represents the supply and demand aspect that is highly skewed towards women/employers and against men/employees.

Right, cuz I'm INFP and my comment is Fi.

I agree. If a company keeps firing employees, and/or if too many employees are quitting, then there's definitely something wrong with the head of that company.

Pun intended