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I was going to answer, but then realized the question is pointed at Leo specifically.

It's literally the same thing if a girl is attracted to your looks, money, personality, charisma, status, and/or something else. These are all appearances that are perceived as value, but you ain't any, let alone all of 'em. They're just things that are attached to you by you attaching yourself to them. You may carry them with you or drop them off, but they still ain't you either way. Who/What you are is literally unlovable, because it is so out of reach and untouchable. Nobody could love you except you. And you, you also could not really love anyone except yourself. Though, you might deceive yourself into thinking that you love others, but that's just your coping mechanism to conceal your love for yourself, precisely because you love yourself so much that you can't allow any external love to ruin your own, including your own external love. See, there are two types of love, internal and external. The internal is ever present, but most of the time taken for granted and ignored. The external, which is illusory, is extremely valuable for survival. When you confuse one with the other, that's when you fuck up. Sometimes, external love can hurt. Other times, it can heal. But the internal is always healing. You can heal yourself with external love, but it's not always guaranteed, and it might even backfire in some cases. If you don't want to take risks, go for the internal directly, and let go of the external completely.

I don't use reddit, and I don't remember how it was here. Maybe someone else knows.

For those who don't know, there used to be a karma system a couple years ago. Then one day Leo announced that he's taking it down. You might be able to find the thread if you search, but I don't think it's coming back again.

Am I the only one here that avoids most featured/mega-threads like the plague?

@Leo Gura You'll get the chance to ban him again. Best comment of the month (Combo x2).

Your posts are often too long and return too little value.

Unban @Joseph Maynor.

I've spent a lot of time in the past couple days trying to take some rest from programming. Most of it was here on the forum, and the rest I could not help but watch some tutorials and write some code. I've learned about Svelte and SvelteKit. And they're really interesting, it's not fair that React and other libraries/frameworks are way more popular. I think I need to rest for real this time. That means no forum and no programming. Not sure why I would want to do that, though. The momentum I have now might decrease if I stop moving. Anyway,

@Leo Gura ?

@eos_nyxia I see what you're saying, and I agree with all of it. I would even dare say that many men are way more emotional than some women. I've also met some really cold and logical women, and some really irritatingly emotional men, at least on the surface. However, there is a part that you don't seem to be taking into account in your perspective. The difference is that women, unlike men, act mainly based on emotion. The decision-making process for men is mostly a logical one with a clear goal in mind, while for women it's mostly aesthetic and socially aware, i.e. For guys, the new IPhone has a 13megapixel dual camera (my phone info are a bit outdated, but that's not the point), etc. For women, it's mostly just the pink color that matters. My friend is a doctor, he told me that his girlfriend once made him a crafty thing of wooden tongue holders that doctors use. She thought that would impress him. He facepalmed and told me it's the silliest thing he'd ever seen.

@Majed Habits take time to build and stick, and they also take time to dissolve and go away. Whatever you keep doing regularly will turn into a habit after a certain period of time. Precisely, 66 days (on average, of course). Once it becomes a habit, the re-wiring of your neural connections will settle, and the habit will become effortless. But until then you will have to exercise some will power in order to make it stick. The brain does not distinguish between good habits and bad habits. Whatever you input, it will then output after a period of time.

Lol. Okay. Hell is paved with good intentions. Just because you're a surgeon with good intentions does not automatically make you a great surgeon. Which can both great and dangerous at the same time, which is why they need to be kept in check more than normal people. Narcissists are also known for their ability to "sense" some things that you would not ordinarily be able to.

Like a broken record.

Both spiritual teachers and their teachings are illusions. But they don't tell you this, even if they seemingly do. Nahm doesn't even call himself a teacher, which allows him to maintain a stronger teacher façade, at least with certain people. Don't look at what people communicate with their words, look at their actions and what those communicate. Hippies preach and talk about love and selflessness all the time, but most of them are of the most selfish and narcissistic people you could meet. They will only preach love and selflessness as long as it serves them first and puts them above of you. But once you try to level the playing field, they will increase and focus their usage of gaslighting techniques on you in order to triangulate you and paint you as a bad actor even if you're not. You're an enemy for questioning their authority.

@Thought Art Really? I don't remember consciousness as a component of Jed McKenna's teachings. In fact, I think he would say that consciousness is just another human invention.

They're allowed to leave, and some of them do, eventually. But leaving probably sucks even more than staying, so the majority stays. I don't know if it's better or worse. The entire concept seems flawed and unmaintainable in this modern era.

Though, ironically, conservative societies/arranged marriages are way less prone to divorce.

He's just saying throw away all your fantasies of what you think Truth is, cuz it's not what you think it is. When you say truth is spiritual, that implies certain thoughts and/or emotions that you are associating with Truth as if Truth could not exist without them. Notice these thoughts and emotions, and throw them in the garbage. They are not Truth, but rather an invention of the mind/body.

Good judgement comes from wisdom. And wisdom comes from: 1) knowledge (theory) and 2) experience (practice). Generally, the older you get, the wiser you become. If that's not the case for you, then you're probably doing something wrong. Young people are naïve and poor judges because they don't have enough knowledge about life nor much experience of it, which is why dating life sucks the younger you are. To have knowledge, you have to read books, listen to other, more experienced, and typically older people, contemplate for yourself, etc. And to have experience, you have to socialize a lot, get into tough situations, be risky and fearless, etc. You simply can't expect to just sit alone at home and become wise. Life just doesn't work like that. Nobody is going to deliver knowledge for you or spoon-feed it to you unless you ask for it at least. The good news is that all the knowledge in the world is available for you mostly for free in our time, thanks to the internet. The bad news is that it takes time and might lead you down certain toxic rabbit holes if you're not careful enough. As for earning more experience, there's really no other option than going out and socializing. No amount of books or smart advice could replace that. That being said, men tend to be generally more wiser than women (at least they used to be), mostly because they have more knowledge and experience, although that seems to be declining as equality is improving and as a lot of boys replace real life experience with video games. But even before video games, the convention is that men should look for younger women than them, because women mature earlier both physically and mentally. Turns out, I'm not sure which gender is wiser, after all. We need statistics.

There's a difference between witty communication and cryptic communication. You can do one without the other. But unfortunately, that doesn't seem the case for some people. When more than a few people complain about not being able to understand what you're saying time and time again, the least you could do to clarify your good intentions is to try to "level down" your language to something that an ordinary person could understand, not to double down and get even more cryptic. That just shows inflated ego and/or lack of humility.

Where?