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I have found that the best way to minimize conflict with controlling people is to never answer them directly no matter what. It's like when you're not supposed to look at a snake directly in the eyes (not sure about that though). Generally, that can be done through distraction by telling seemingly relevant stories in order to maneuver around the original topic and make it seem like you're answering without really giving an answer. For example: Why do you wear the damned glasses all the time? Well, I was actually thinking of buying new shades, maybe they look better. Or what about contact lenses? What do you think? Notice that no clear answer was given to the original question, and now the topic has slightly changed and is dissolving. Do that a couple more times and you will find yourself and her talking about something else entirely. Why do you wear so much damned black? Really?! I didn't notice that! I guess I'll have to make some adjustments to my closet. The important thing here is to let her have being right and not fight over that. Do not argue or try to prove your point. You already know it's true to you, so what's the point of her agreement? This distraction technique is a skill, and it gets better with time and practice. I'm not an expert myself, but I know a couple people who never run out of red herrings. I learned a little from them.

@Someone here You don't need to know everything in order to make good decisions in life. Learning about the most common traps and pitfalls should be enough in most areas/cases. For example, you don't need to memorize all the rules for being a modern Indian citizen in order to live in India, but it is absolutely essential that you understand the general guidelines for what is considered a crime under the Indian law so that you don't get into trouble unknowingly (most people understand social norms subconsciously, but that's just one example). A better example would be electricity. You don't need to be an electrician in order to know not to go around touching live wires. You also don't go around popping pills and swallowing them. That's like the bare minimum knowledge that everyone should have. Any added knowledge on top of that is a plus and it will definitely help you, but it is not essential and you can move and play the game of life without it. Perfect understanding of anything is very rare, if at all existent, so be careful not to let that stop you from taking the necessary action/steps in whichever domain(s) in life you might be feeling stuck in. A certain reasonable level of knowledge is generally required about most stuff, which people refer to as common sense. The more informed you are, the more common sense you will have, and the easier you will be able to navigate through life. Generally, I think it's wise to aim to strike a balance between knowing and not-knowing in that we should seek to educate ourselves about the most common/relevant stuff in/to our lives, while neither going into overthinking mode and paralysis by analysis, nor at the same time coming at things without any clue about them at all. A little bit of research is always a good starting point, but the deepest insights and understanding come mostly from direct experience. Now, it seems you're also inquiring deeper into the nature of knowledge itself on an existential level, which is great! I can feel your love and enthusiasm for learning and understanding. These are probably ones of your highest values in life, so you could benefit from basing and designing your life around them. For example, you could start by making a YouTube channel where you share your insights about certain topics, just for fun. You could pick a niche if you're really serious about a certain topic, you could make reviews of popular books that you have read, you could make general philosophical content about a variety of topics, and so on. The possibilities are endless. You might be lucky as well to publish your own books, but the more modern digital game is probably easier, more profitable, and accessible for more people. You don't necessarily have to write physical books in order to get recognized, even though you can. If you have the content, you can share it through various mediums. You can publish your books and sell them both physically and digitally. And you can also utilize YouTube and other platforms to share yourself and insights with the world. At the end of the day, if you really have the desire and you are persistent, everything is possible. Anyway, here's a question for you to contemplate and ponder upon: Why is knowledge important (to you)?

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@Someone here Thanks dude. I'm fine. It was just the ban thing. I thought I was banned for good so I stopped logging in.

Not giving up, but giving away. You give away your power to someone that you respect that otherwise you would not. And you take it back when they lose your respect. It's all 100% sovereign.

If people with BPD knew the difference between truth and delusion we wouldn't be having this discussion in the first place.

Decency and respect are two different things. Unlike decency, you can't force respect, because it is an involuntary reflex and an innate experience that has emotions. Feminists and hippies are so confused about this. They can be decent all they want, but that will not express any respect. Giving away your power is what it means to respect someone. A leader is respected because people give away their power to him. A fool is not respected because people don't take him seriously.

Do not misunderstand the burning monk. Do not glorify it or idealize it, but also don't poo poo it. It is a feat that you cannot accomplish normally without drugs/anesthesia. It takes quite a lot of practice to be able to reach such states, but it's impractical to attempt to do so when you have cheap alternatives. It's not Buddhist psychology to just consume suffering mindlessly, but rather quite the opposite. But again, you don't need to work towards that in our modern age, because you're unlikely to experience massive pain. The alternative being putting your awareness to better use, not jerking off or playing video games.

It can be used for learning, but you have to be careful because it gives false information from time to time. Sometimes it's also stubborn and will not correct itself. I guess this partially has to do with the fact that it's fed old information that are not completely up-to-date, and also just pure dumb computer malfunctioning. I wouldn't take it as a primary source for information, especially with important topics. However, I think it can help boost your progress a lot. If you're a junior in a particular field, it can help you learn mid-level knowledge. And if you're mid-level, you could probably become an expert a lot quicker than you normally would. It's like a mentor that knows everything about everything, and with the right student, it can do wonders.

Women are inherently good, they don't have to work for it, unless/until they're poisoned with some toxic ideology.

I don't think I can be the same after the quake. Though, I wouldn't say it was traumatizing to me per se. The war was traumatizing, but this was not. When I woke up to the shaking of my bed, I didn't think it was an earthquake. I thought it was my building that is collapsing for some reason. The reason being the hits it took during the war that left some cracks in the walls. I thought the hits finally came back at us, and that the building is done in for this time. So, I shouted to wake my family up and then went downstairs to see what's going on. There was no time to think. And it was dark, cuz we don't have electric supply most of the time, and this was one of those times. I was not scared, but I was in a flight state. When I reached down, the building's main door was locked, so I came back up to get the keys. My family was still not ready to leave. The cat hurried and hid itself in a corner and my brother could not abandon it. Then I got down and opened the door and saw people running and screaming, while the quake was still on (~5 mins). It was tough. If you stay in, there's a chance the building will go down. If you go out, there's a chance the ruins from your building or otherwise will fall on you. I looked around to the nearby mosque, and saw that the tip fell to the ground destroying a nearby building (we live in a narrow alley). Women and children were screaming. There was nothing I could do. Then my family finally was ready, but they decided to stay with the rest of the larger family in the ground floor. We stayed there until the quake passed. One of my cousins who live in a different area, is now homeless. But at least she got out safe with her husband and kids, and they will be staying with us at least for a while. This is only the first 30 minutes or so. There were other major quakes that didn't last as long, but were as strong, and we were more prepared for them. Then when the sun came up, me and my brother checked on the basis of the building to make sure the columns were intact, and fortunately they still are. This building is one of the things that my grandfather did well. He built it with the best material available at his time, and added a supporting cement on top of the steeled-concrete. It's a rock solid building that survived many hits during the war. We don't have the luxurious anti-quake supporting equipment, though. It's not a high building, just three floors, and I live in the second floor with my family. I can't say I'm glad it's over, cuz it's not over yet, I felt a quake about 12 hours ago, and some buildings are still collapsing in other areas. This is yet another reason for me to move out of this country. I can't feel at rest knowing that this has happened once in my lifetime, it could very easily happen again. And I can't erase this memory. It's like a flashback of 5 years of war with all of its horrors and miseries, all compiled into one week. And this time it's not the doing of humans, but the doing of God. I don't know why I'm writing this. Definitely not to share my story with the heartless hippies and their selfish/fake emotions, but probably to integrate this experience and move on. I feel more at ease now with myself. I definitely lost track of my purpose after this experience. My building didn't collapse, but some part of me did. I am still not done building my ego, and then it took a new hit. It's like you're trying to build the 5th floor of your psyche, and then you get a hit that throws you back down to the ground floor. It sucks, but we'll see.

@flowboy Nonsense.

Quite an experience. Milder now, but still not over. Over 40 buildings collapsed in my city alone with hundreds of casualties. Could have been my building and my family. I'm just glad they're safe. Everyone woke up to the quake and hurried out of the buildings in the darkest of nights and the cold and the rain. Some people are still stuck under the ruins. Paramedics everywhere. It's not pleasant to be acutely aware that you could suddenly die or become homeless.

@flowboy That's still not valid because it disregards personal responsibility and takes it out of the equation. Imagine putting two people with BPD in the same room. Which one of them will be the victim? And which one the villain? You will probably say that I'm the villain for putting them in the same room, but in real life that's not an unlikely event. In real life you meet all sorts of people. And if you're going to be triggered by everything you can't control about other people, then maybe you should curl up in your bed and not socialize at all. You can't force people to fit your expectations. It just doesn't work like that. I know you don't have BPD. I'm talking about people in general, including and especially the ones with BPD. so pardon my usage of pronouns.

That's not a valid metaphor because my body is my personal property, but your thoughts and words are not. If my thoughts and words are hurting you, maybe that's on you. It could be on me, but when you're acting excessively sensitive, you can't deny you have some work to do.

Could be the class/level you're socializing with/at.

It's very tempting, but I will not get sucked into a debate with a feminist. To be more accurate, I like the person but dislike the ideology. And as taught by the great Leo Gura, debating is always a waste of time. It simply does not work.

One thing that might be effective and helpful in this case is to imagine Leo naked and swinging his dick round and round as his official celebration dance after clicking the ban button.

I have a very deep personal connection with this video song. It represents my awakening. It'd accompanied me all throughout it. It wasn't that obvious back then, but now I can see and appreciate the truth in death. I can accept death and comprehend its beauty. Death is not a bad horrific thing. Rather, it's a very beautiful thing. But life is still way more beautiful and appealing. You just learn after so much struggling that there is no escaping the truth. It is all so inherently beautiful!

Leo is the best teacher

What makes a man good in one context does not necessarily make him good in all contexts. For example, Tate is a good marketer and influencer, but he's also self-obsessed and psychopathic. Leo is a good teacher, but he likes his personal space more than people. A good man in bed is not necessarily a good man at work (or vice-versa). And so on. So, generally, the better a man is at a greater variety of contexts, the better he is as a man overall. The more contexts you're considered to be good in/at, the better you are as a man in general. You could still lack in some contexts, but a fair assessment is holistic, and so mostly it's a matter of degree and ratio between how many contexts you are good vs. bad at. Of course, numbers are not the only factor, numbers is just the masculine side of the assessment. The feminine assesses by quality and type of context as some contexts can be more important than others at different times and for different people, so the type and value/importance of contexts can also affect the assessment. For example, a poor man can be good in a lot of contexts, but poverty will still limit his ability to actualize his goodness/greatness, so becoming financially capable is what will make him a good man.

Wow! I can't believe I wrote this. It's very deep and profound. Somebody bookmarked it and it showed up in my notifications.