Gesundheit2

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@samijiben Yeah. I think resilience under all circumstances is a core feature of enlightened people. Otherwise, every stage Green hippy person would be enlightened, and we would be wasting our time with all the spiritual work. Because without that metric, the answer would be very simple: Just adopt stage Green lofty ideals, and you will be enlightened; no sweat. Jesus said when his people tortured him: "Father, forgive them. For they know not what they do."

@Gabith The path often includes suffering at some point, but that's kinda irrelevant, because suffering in this case is false/self-inflicted. I am talking about suffering that's forced upon you. How are you gonna handle that? That's the real test. The point is to put the "currently enlightened" person in a stressful situation and see how they are gonna hold up. If they fail and regress, that means they're not really enlightened. You don't necessarily have to put them in actually dangerous situations - merely a situation where their ego might get hurt or their freedom might be a little bit threatened. Any threat to a personal preference would probably be ideal. Like a situation where a normal person would feel angry and flip out in total ego mode. If they're the real deal, they should not be reacting mindlessly. Even though, I'll accept an apparently similar reaction. If an enlightened person shouts, that's okay for me. As long as they're not suffering on the inside. But of course, I can't tell what their inner experience is. But from my experience, I can tell that that's not an easy goal to achieve, even with decades of spiritual practice, and I will always be skeptical of anyone claiming enlightenment.

Powerful stuff! Thanks for sharing.

The most absurd conspiracy theory I've ever heard.

She probably didn't do much. She was born in such good conditions that most likely created a false sense of enlightenment. Put her in some third world country without psychedelics and without women rights and then you will know for sure whether she's real or fake. It's easy to be enlightened when are on the top of the world. It's a whole different story to be enlightened in the midst of a shit-hole.

Unenlightened/Normal people are full of shit. Enlightened people are made of shit. Hippies are the shit itself. Okay, the first two statements may be negotiable, but the third is an absolute truth.

Yeah, man! Bring it on! Let it all out. Make all the demons burn.

The world is upside down. Ill people think they can heal the healthy ones. And Blue hippies thinking they are Yellow. Pfffft! Please! I'll just laugh in silence. LMAO! I play coy, and go along. They show their hands. Fully exposed. Say no more. I see you. In vulgar Arabic, we have a saying that goes like: Bloat them with compliments and see how much of a donkey they are. It means that people who think they're smart are actually stupid, and the way you confirm that is by going along with them and giving them the space to express themselves fully. Then you will likely see the real donkey underneath the Einstein mask. Ancient Arabs were wise, not at all like the recent ones. So, anyway, what the hell is a "trauma"? And what is "healing" for God's sake? If I am fully functional and feeling good, why would I need healing? And healing from what exactly? From feeling good? Or from living the good life? Or do you simply just want me to conform to your stupid "mental health" standards, which you mindlessly picked from your culture without contemplation or questioning? Okay, buddy. Here, play with this pin cushion. I'll take you seriously in a hundred years, but not really, because the gap then would be even wider, by orders of magnitude. And btw, why don't you heal yourself from your dogmas first? Why is it others that need the healing but not you? If it isn't all just a big projection on your part, then I don't know anything. Feeling triggered now. Consider it trauma, if you want. I consider it material for more growth and integration. You stay with your standards. Stay stuck. And low. As you're supposed to. And people wonder why I hate hippies.

No, thanks. With the way you initiated contact (patronizing, sarcastic, and judgemental) I don't think you're in a place to heal others. I am good on my own, and would be better if you would take the second route I offered.

Father, forgive them. For they are just a bunch of hippies. Children. Not ready for my wisdom.

It is actually pretty good. And I don't feel bad about myself. Watch your closed-mindedness and projections.

I am traumatized. Heal me or shut up.

@Vzdoh The thing is that intimacy is 100% imaginary. Consider this; a human can form an intimate relationship with an animal, or even with inanimate objects. For example, one can intimately love their job, or coffee, or a tree, or anything else. Does that mean that the objects are reciprocating? Of course not. It's all in our heads. And really, intimacy is just another word for attachment or neediness. And btw, I wasn't talking about emotional unavailability. I, as a man, don't resonate with intimacy like women do. I used to, but not anymore. So, I can be available for the girl if I want to, it's all an act after all, but I won't be feeling anything. My experience will be devoid of any emotions. At the same time, she will be feeling all sorts of emotions with me, and when she's alone she will be fantasizing about how I make her feel. Little does she know, but why wake her up and ruin everything?

Sure, me too, as I stated earlier. I was just deconstructing the belief related to intimacy.

You don't have to take that as a dogma. Addiction is not a way to escape anything. That's just a definition/story you're addicted to In simple terms, addiction is a complex of reoccurring patterns of behaviors that tend to be compulsive. That's an objective definition prior to personal interpretations. How you interpret it is up to you, i.e. subjective. I used to have many addictions and have been working on them since January 2021. A lot of them were a way to escape the harsh reality that I'm living in. But none of them had anything to do with intimacy. In fact, intimacy was one of them. If anything, I was escaping my full masculinity with intimacy, thanks to cultural upbringing. As a man, intimacy doesn't even show on my radar anymore. And when I contemplate it, I only see it as childish desire/behavior, like a child attached to his mommy because he can't live on his own, because he's weak and immature. I wasn't able to completely let go of intimacy until recently. And I have to say, this is definitely a superior way of being. Have you heard of co-dependent relationships? Attractive men are not co-dependent, and that's what makes them attractive, because a woman can be needy and co-dependent around them. You said you're at Yellow, so there's a good chance you're just overthinking this.

No. Absolutely not. Being social is like the natural state of humans, because it's necessary for survival. It rather takes work to be able to detach from the crowd and go it alone. People who struggle socially do not struggle by choice. Anyone would choose a successful social life over a miserable one if given the choice without a second thought. Not necessarily a rich social life, but most definitely a successful one. Now, to my story... I come from a rather large family; 8 uncles and 2 aunts from my father's side, and only 2 aunts from my mother's side. So that's a 2 to 1 male to female ancestors ratio. I grew up in the same building as 5 of my uncles and their families. And they all have boys (some older, and most younger), except one uncle who only has girls. And on top of that, I used to play in the streets with lots of other kids. I was social, good-looking, masculine, and always the top student in elementary school. But with no luck with girls, at all. Zero. The charismatic kid always won, regardless of everything else. I went to an all-male school for secondary school. It was one of my favorite times. All males, total freedom lol. Then, in high school and first few years of college, I was a super nerdy kind of guy. I avoided girls in general and used Islamic beliefs and other ideologies that I used to have to justify that behavior. A GF was something that I always wanted but couldn't get and couldn't even be honest with myself about, because I used to have a big ego and a lot of self-image issues, let alone my huge lack of emotional intelligence back then. Then, I started learning about the social cues, and through a lot of trial and error, my results started getting better. But that's only because I was successful at high-school and the first few years of college, and because I was good-looking, because I would successfully attract the girl at first but then she would quickly lose the attraction. I could not maintain a relationship for longer than a couple of weeks. I was insecure and always lacked charisma. I could tell that many girls had crushes on me when I first got into high school and college. Unfortunately, I didn't know how to take advantage of my looks and that reoccurring scenario. At one point, I was approached by a girl; she was obsessed with me for more than a year, and I had a crush on her, she was a friend of a friend of mine; my friend arranged a date with her for me, but I was super anxious and shy around girls I fucked up rather quickly. The rest of my story up until now is the usual grind, and trial and error you hear about from PUAs, even though I wasn't particularly doing pickup, just going about life while working on my inner game. That process took a lot of my mental resources that I now suck in college. So I can see how that's not an option for everyone. Now, I ,as a person, am a lot more charismatic and capable of attraction (on cue); I got my first GF last year or so. Yay! But not so much. She was my last GF, too. We had such a deep connection, but in the end she also left me because I didn't know how to maintain attraction. Learned my lesson. And now I know better. Right now, and after all the work and struggling, reality comes kicking me in the ass, because I am super poor (not my fault, though). I may be able to attract a girl, but I could not have a relationship with her. I don't think it's fair for the girl to be with me currently (don't worry, my self-esteem is intact), therefore I try to make it clear that I'm just fooling around, but not really, because then I would probably have zero success. It's a tricky situation, but usually they find out very quickly and move on. They're not that many, anyway. Just enough for me to get by. Moral of the story: Not everyone is suited for social life, even though everyone wants to be so, and that's rather for understandable reasons. And of course, the charismatic boy always wins.

@Vzdoh What makes you think he's actively trying to escape intimacy? It doesn't seem like that to me. Being a workaholic is a separate condition. I don't think it has to do with you or the relationship. Perhaps a better approach would be to address the workaholism problem, and discuss it with him directly instead of going into guessing mode. In any case, communication is key in relationships. If something is bothering you, the other person should know about it, and that's an absolute condition. Otherwise, you're not really in a relationship to begin with.

@intotheblack Exactly my point! I think it is that counterintuitive. Law of Attraction in action, so to speak.

Yeah, demographics is likely a crucial factor to consider here. Sources? I don't see any people dying on the streets here. And we don't even have to wear masks anymore, rarely anyone does, even inside governmental agencies. The government is kinda chill about covid now. Maybe.

Is it a pattern? That's kind of strange, though. Because India is a large, rich country. And as far as I know, you even have nuclear programs. Your politicians must be really hungry lol. Tell that to Wikipedia: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Second_World That's not the only criterion.

India is a second world country, same as Brazil. I meant that the media here doesn't focus too much on covid (or health in general) like first world media. It almost seems like a paranoia over there.

Ironically, first world countries are still somehow the most affected by the virus. I know some people are going to deny that and say that it's due to poor screening/testing in third world countries, but I live in a third world country, and it's not as bad as you'd imagine. In many ways, it's even better than in first world countries, even after they got vaccinated. I think the psychological factor (media) is the most important one. As well, it might be the case that hard circumstances make stronger immune systems. Besides, we're closer to nature than industrial countries. I don't know, maybe I'm just rambling.

Obviously, you're not emotionally numb to begin with, because you can feel frustrated. And most likely, you're feeling a range of similar emotions on a regular basis. Otherwise, you wouldn't be reaching the boiling point (frustration), let alone asking questions and actively seeking change. You're trying to change the frequency of your emotional state, which will allow you to feel a different range of emotions than you're currently experiencing. And that's probably reasonable, because the frequency you're currently at doesn't feel great. The ultimate answer is lifestyle changes. If you can't change your inner state, change your outer state, and then it will reflect back on the inner and transform you from the inside. Start experimenting with your lifestyle. Add a few things, remove a few things, and more importantly, keep a record or a journal where you write down all the changes you notice and whether you should or shouldn't keep going down a certain path. It might seem like a very simple concept, but it really is life-changing. Sometimes, the most powerful results come from the simplest action steps. Generally, and on that note, you want to stay away from the modern lifestyle as much as possible. Return back to nature, or at least include nature in your daily routine. Keep the air fresh wherever you are; no AC, but fresh air, preferably directly from natural sources . Get sun exposure. Go on a retreat or a vacation. Meet new people. Spend more time with family. Challenge your comfort zone. Limit your internet usage, especially YouTube and other toxic sites. Exercise, preferably go and run outside. Start a meditation habit if you don't have already. Change your diet; if you're vegan, go in the opposite direction, and vice-versa. I'd also give up on any therapies and instead just trust in the wisdom of my mind/body. Whatever you're currently feeling is what's best for you in the current settings. I wouldn't try to force change if it isn't coming smoothly. Hope you'll soon find what you're looking for.

@Raphael You're awesome! Apparently, there's something called TypeScript that I need to learn as well. It's basically a superset of JavaScript that's more modern and has more features. Also, there's a difference between Vue and Vue.js, between Angular and Angular.js, and so on. I don't know if the difference is important, but at least now I know that there is a distinction. Anyway, I'm halfway through my first Node.js course. It seems a bit complicated, but it isn't hard to learn. Two and a half more hours to go.