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How relieving does it feel to know that you fit into coca's standards for a datable woman? Be honest

Nice delusion.

It isn't about the gender per se. It's about the structure of society; Government and laws are feminine structures, enforced by masculine structures such as the army and the police, which are nowadays almost obsolete in comparison to the legal system. Education is a feminine structure. A lot of the western jobs nowadays are feminine as well. YouTube is feminine. TV shows are feminine. etc. Yes, exactly. That's what women do. Nice guys pick those subtle behaviors subconsciously from their mothers and teachers at school. They don't go to the farm (or whatever masculine job) with their fathers.

@Striving for more Get her out of your head and go meet other women.

Western society is largely matriarchal. That's super obvious considering the "nice guy" phenomenon.

@coca Your view is absurd because it doesn't come from direct experience with thousands of women. It's just a story you're telling yourself and you're clinging to it like an ideology. Imagine a sophisticated writer who has written dozens, and read hundreds of books. And then you come and read one page and think you've figured everything out. This is what you're doing here. Go and make thousands of approaches, then come here and tell us about it. By that time, I promise you you will have gotten laid several times.

Illusions keep existing until you stop looking at them. That applies to absolutely anything; including both (free will and no free will) illusions.

@hamedsf @Nos7algiK A nice guy is a child, not a man. He just needs to grow up.

@Tangerinedream Can you give some examples? I may have unknowingly said something in the past and would like to become a better person.

The only way I truly and absolutely got over my ex was by realizing how selfish I was for loving her. Turns out love is really nothing but pure fantastical selfishness. I am pretty sure I did not really love her, only loved myself, even though I thought and acted as if I did love her and not me. I even cried a lot when we broke up. It's crazy how genius and sneaky the mind is and how capable it is at creating any illusion it wants. Eventually, the selfishness realization occured (during a solo retreat) and I got over her immediately. I realized that it was my devilry that's causing me all the pain, and so with that realization I was able to let go. Now, I feel completely neutral about her, as if I'd never even known her to begin with. If we were to meet again, I would most definitely not fall in love again. Love is now an obsolete concept for me. It's the work of the devil, and I'm not a fan of his work. Sometimes, I look back and wonder who that jackass who fell in love was lol. It sure was a growth experience, but I think I've learned everything I needed to learn. Love thyself.

Who cares about consensus? What would consensus give you that you don't already have or you don't think that you already have? Say we've reached a consensus and a conclusion, how would that feel? Grounding? Reassuring? Would you say that feeling is what you're seeking ultimately? The map is not the territory. I have been in states where I would inquire into similar thoughts and get this mocking answer: What are you even talking about?!

Well, one thing that people tend to take for granted is awareness. In the existence terminology, it's already assumed that whatever you're aware of right now is existence. So, since you're aware, it's assumed that you exist. This assumption is usually taken to be as truth rather than an assumption or learned knowledge. But what's the relationship between awareness and existence? After all, inanimate objects apparently don't have an awareness, and yet they somehow exist. And at the same time, countless other beings apparently have, and many of them claim to have an awareness, but I don't have any way to access them and confirm. How do we cope with this paradox? For me, I just surrender the whole inquiry, because apparently there's no way to answer it. I think people are overly confident about their insights regarding this topic. And I think the whole point of the inquiry is to surrender it rather than to arrive at an answer. But perhaps some people get way too enthusiastic and lose track of the original goal. For me, the original goal is not an intellectual insight. Rather, it's an emotional state that I was seeking. Once I get that state, really not much matters after that.

What I have been up to recently with JavaScript: ECMAScript 2015 (ES6). The Document Object Model (DOM). Asynchronous JavaScript and XML (AJAX). Object Oriented Programming (OOP). TypeScript. A bunch of miscellaneous stuff. Unfortunately, I'm not practicing properly yet. Focused mostly on the theoretical aspect of learning at the moment.

If there's one good thing about Islam, it's its practices. It's been three years since I last prayed to Allah from my heart. I did fake prayers in the meantime, out of pure peer pressure (last time, a few days ago). Right now, I feel like I need to return to it wholeheartedly. I feel ready. I particularly miss Ruku' and Sujud. They feel good, especially Ruku'. I never experienced back pain before I stopped praying. I did not stop fasting, though, until this year where I half-assed Ramadan. I don't want to return to fasting until I become rich. I feel malnourished. I can't do it. Sorry, Allah. Send some high quality food, or suck it. I'm not going to starve myself and hurt my body for you. Somehow, it was always hard for me to stop any of the practices. I kind of flow whenever I put my mind to something. I've always had troubles letting go of habits, whether good or bad. A very great practice in Islam is Wudu' (washing) before prayer. It's very refreshing and healthy, especially inhaling the water into the nostrils. There's something right about that particular practice, and everyone who doesn't do it does not know what they're missing.

I just realized I never touch the High Consciousness Resources subforum. Nor do I go near the books reviews and video requests subforums. Occasionally, I do check the health and career subforums. Other than that, I hang out around all the others pretty much regularly. But I don't open many threads, especially nowadays. Only what I find interesting, or if I see someone I know is high quality posting. .. Somehow, I was able to get the Life Purpose course for free. New reason to get banned lol.

Is the universe: Pre-rational; Meaningless nihilistic randomness of infinite complexity. Unconscious. Cruel. Heartless. Indifferent. Passive. Rational; Clockwork machine. Follows certain logical rules that can be discovered. Linear. Predictable. Yin-Yang. Post-rational; Infinite intelligence. Behaving in intelligent ways that we can never understand. Intelligent design. Conscious. Alive. Loving. Caring. Proactive. Irrational; Hippy. Made of emotions. Reactive. Moody. Narcissistic. Drama queen. Attention whore. A-rational; Infinite potential. No rules. No limits. Unpredictable. Unknowable. Or perhaps a mix of, or all the above? How do we know the answer without projecting our dominant human status? And are there other possibilities? I don't necessarily think that there has to be an answer. I just liked this meta view and wanted to share it with you in case it's of any use. But I'd like to know if there's a definitive answer.

And, of course, Weird Al's parody: https://youtu.be/ZcJjMnHoIBI (Couldn't be embedded). Also, And the parody:

Yeah, I've been there. And I still forget. I don't need to reply to everything. I can't argue if I'm not there. If I leave unapologetically, the argument will be over immediately.

When you call men pussies for not getting into fights, you are in a sense jumping on them (no pun intended). I don't care what rationalizations you might have for that. You want to state your opinions of other men's opinions on fights (you call them pussies for choosing to not getting into fights), but you don't want anyone to have an opinion on your opinions. How biased and self-serving is that? I saw you once getting sad when Leo didn't tell you where you are being biased, so here I am telling you exactly where and how.

Capitalism does not cause prices to fall. It's prosperity, you idiots! Capitalism merely hijacks prosperity and claims its benefits, just like communism hijacks the government and claims its benefits too.

The moments we spend thinking negatively about stuff that don't affect us are wasted moments and rather better be spent on creating our positive experiences. Ignore what you find disturbing. Your time is invaluable, and your moments are irreplaceable.

Contradiction?

Legendary?! Did you even watch the video?

I agree, but that's not what I meant. I meant, originally, we didn't have a concept/label of masculine and feminine, even though they existed as polarities in the universe and within us. We were completely ignorant of them, and therefore in a state of full expression and integration. There was no demonization or suppression of either, until our ancestors decided to. What created lack of expression and in result caused disintegration was the social construct. All of our problems began right there, with the birth of the mind. Right now, we're only trying to reintegrate the mess our ancestors created.

@Emerald I think masculine and feminine started out originally as social constructs, as a form of division of labor. But then disintegration happened later on because concepts cannot encapsulate God because God is larger than the concepts. And up until now it's been a snowball effect of disintegration. Chains of reactions going back and forth between men and women without an end. Men abusing women, and women abusing men. Furthermore, men started abusing men and women started abusing women as well. Who started all that? The social construct. Just like money, it isn't an inherent part of God. It started out as a way (idea/construct) to exchange value in an abstract way. But then later, people started accumulating it, and that caused disintegration, which snowballed into poverty and crime and all the other problems in society.