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I can't tell you how the word infinity is understood all around the world. In German the most common translation is "Unendlichkeit" which basically says "endlessness" and this is probably what most people envision when they hear the word. Something that continues forever in all directions with no end to it.

That's totally normal and it's also ok in the beginning if you a have some canned things that you can throw in in a lot of these situations so you don't have to be so damn clever and creative in this moment of pressure, and btw most good pick up guys have things they say very regularly too, just with minor adjustments to fit the specific situation a bit better. Exactly, that's all you need, like this you will reduce anxiety and increase your competence and both things contribute to each other. For having had 0 socialization you're doing really well, just keep going.

You don't need to label these things as "low consciousness desires", they are completely normal desires and there's nothing wrong about them. As I know from your other posts you are taking action in certain areas of life in which you probably were still inactive some time ago. This leads to new experiences and a lot for the brain to process, it is exciting and stimulating and this is completely normal. I don't think you need another technique, just be accepting of this thought activity, it would probably be like this independently of the type of meditation you do. As time passes your activities in life probably won't stimulate as much thought activity in you anymore and you'll be able to focus better. It is still worth to meditate, probably especially now. If you live in a monastery and can meditate all day long of course you'll have less mind activity, but the art is to develop a calm mind and focus in spite of having certain things going on in your life that are thought stimulating.

@Illusory Self This sounds all really good, you're crushing it! It's much more important that you take action than what exact results you get, so congratulate yourself, this is a success. Regarding the keeping the convo going part it can be tricky for sure, especially if anxiety is present too. But I think a few things are possible: - after the opener you can follow up with an assumption or observation, something you can notice about her or what you can conclude from her appearance like "you look really studentish, I would say you're a student of psychology" or "you look like a creative person, I'd assume you study arts or something like that" This is more interesting because it's relevant for a person how other people perceive them. - if the first reaction was good it's also a good follow up to introduce yourself and ask for her name, like this a few seconds pass and you have escalated things a tiny bit (from stranger/stranger to potential acquaintances), only do this if the first reaction was not very reserved or a shit test - if you don't know anything you can also ask her what she's doing or where she's heading etc to get in information that you can work with, but you can make that question sound more interesting by saying something like "So what's your story?!" or "what kinda mission you're on right now?" - if you immediately want to add to the flirtation you could also follow up the opener with a tease about an observation like "[compliment opener] + you also look like trouble though...so I'm intrigued but also a little bit scared ;)" and work with what ever comes back after that - if she tells you something unique like "I study mathematics" you can also tease about that like "ok, cool...so if we hang out would you constantly be talking about equations and telling me that I'm doing things inefficiently from a mathematical point of view and stuff like that?"

It doesn't have to be inauthentic. It's inauthentic if you don't believe your frame, but this is why there is a necessity for inner work that you do at home, so you can actually believe your positive frames and don't have to be limited by your old beliefs (which constitute your frame) anymore.

Well said!

The problem here is that this is simply a little bit too lame. Because you could very well be perceived as serious and then it can come off as creepy, kind of like you are evaluating whether she'll become your friend with benefits. I think if you're gonna make a sexual joke in that kind of situation then you have to go all the way and playfully exaggerate (but even this can still go wrong and be perceived as creepy). Like she says: "...so what brings you here?" You: "oh nothing all too extraordinary, I'm just looking for a bunch of new sex slaves for my underground BDSM dungeon, you seem sweet btw!"

This one here is a bit tricky though. I agree that this is how you "should" view things, though all the outside world basically tells you the opposite, so you have to establish these beliefs against the resistance of society. Because for an employer my value is whichever job related qualities I have, for girls my value is all kinds of things that make me attractive, for others my value is my knowledge and so on. Getting to that point where you feel like you always just have some innate value independently of what I can offer to others is a challenge (for me at least).

That absolutely was an answer. Thanks for writing it! ♥️

I'm wondering similar things too. In my understanding a field doesn't consist of anything "material" and what they say is that a particle just appears (and disappears) out of nowhere. Though if the particle appears out of "nowhere" what is it made out of?

Actually it's precisely the stage orange goals I have that still make me feel what I described in my first post. So if I didn't care about any of these stage orange things I'd probably be liberated from these feelings, but it wouldn't feel true to myself and to where I'm at in life right now.

Yeah that's no alternative for sure. Maybe what I still need to learn is how to strive in an unattached way. Because in a sense this is all still just a comparison game, just that now I compare myself to some standard that exists in my mind.

First of all: great job! If you weren't anxious then what was so draining about it? If you sit down at home and then say "hi" 100 times to the wall will it be draining too? I'm just wondering if you might simply not have acknowledged your anxiety, maybe because it's hard to accept, but I could be completely wrong here. sounds like symptoms of anxiety, which btw is completely fine. Which is often the culmination of too much stress (or anxiety). When you get anxious or nervous or fearful or stressed or worried etc your body activates the stress response aka fight or flight response, so your sympathetic nervous system switches on, then when you get the panic attack this stress response goes into overload mode, so you get extreme amounts of sympathetic activity and produce great amounts of stress hormones which make your entire body feel different. It sounds like what you did is generally an appropriate course of action, but that you simply did a bit too much of it, thus overburdening some of the regulatory systems of your brain, nervous system and hormonal system. I would suggest doing a bit less, or maybe even just 15-20 "hi" but therefore doing it more regularly until you fully desensitize. Because what you want to avoid is that your nervous starts to associate the 100s "Hi's" challenge or similar things with panic attacks, that wouldn't be helpful for your purposes.

Which one is the best one, in your opinion?

Supposedly this is possible. There are theories derived from the findings of the fields of epigenetics and psychoneuroimmunology that claim that one can heal the body with the mind and that's also the mind that contributes a lot to the development of a chronic illness. In books related to this topic they also then mesh other stuff like consciousness and "the unified field" and energy and frequencies etc. on top of these other healing mechanisms on the aforementioned claims. Books are: - You are the placebo by Dr. Joe Dispensa - the biology of belief by Dr. Bruce Lipton - the Genie in your genes by Dawson Church I think this is also something that Deepak Chopra talks about a lot.

Are there any resources you recommend for attaining sex god status? Also what is this mostly about? Knowing how to "fuck" her mind or more like techniques or just everything?

Try to find the level that is just a little bit uncomfortable, but still doable without major awkwardness. For some this is just asking someone for the way. Maybe for you it could be asking a girl for directions, then just compliment on something like her style, then leaving. Basically think of a "desensitization ladder" with challenges that progressively get harder but with increments where the next challenge is not much harder than the last. Then consider going to a big city sometimes and approaching hardcore. Don't think about phone numbers, nor about instant dates, just approach + 2 minutes conversation + leave OR approach with compliment and leave, no pressure on having any kind of conversation. Also realize that all of these concerns are like 98% mental bullshit. Is someone gonna see your approach sometimes? Probably. Will they know what's going on? No, they themselves couldn't do it any better and most people won't even care and just think about their own life. One technique that is helpful for me personally to let go of unwanted emotions is called emotional freedom techniques (EFT = tapping), I've mentioned it here on the forum several times, but nobody ever seems to care, though I didn't want to leave it unmentioned because it can be so helpful for virtually anything (including approach anxiety).

No you don't. You just need to look for YouTube videos on "calisthenics" which is training with your own body weight. There are some guys who post videos where you really need absolutely no equipment, except for your body and maybe a chair or door or a wall.

Ok, cool. I think there can be a misconception that outlandish stuff is what gets results. The thing with seduction is that you must know how to play by the rules, but also how to break them a little bit. And for this it makes a bit of a difference if you approach in a Vegas night club or in a small town at day time. I do believe though that if you're approaches are friendly and of the nature of a compliment it's gonna be hard to get in trouble for that. I mean think about a charge in which it says "the accused gave the complainant the compliment 'I think you look adorable' and asked for her name". That's kind of ridiculous, but what do I know.

So what's your plan now, considering that cold approach is not a valid option because it can get you in jail?

If you're talking about building muscle I'd say: - Push ups - pull ups/chin ups or inverted rows (need a pull up bar for door frame) - squats - for hamstrings and glutes do hip thrusts (two or one legged) or lunges - calf raises Ideally you get some dumbbells or a barbell with weights, then you can also do deadlifts, shoulder press and dumbbell rows for example. So you could do: One day push ups (3-4 sets) Next day pull ups or rows Next day legs (or you do two leg days) Or you do one day upper body, next day lower body. Probably the most low budget version is to get a pull up bar and two gymnastic rings or a suspension trainer, then you can work out absolutely everything.

Bro. If 10% percent of these girls are good enough for you to approach them, then it'll take you 3 years to approach all of them, but it's probably more like 5k-8k you'd consider approaching. Once you've done your 3000 approaches come back here and post your results and then you can move to a bigger city ok? Anyway after you've approached all the girls of your city you can start again and the girls will have forgotten your first approach. The problem is not that there aren't enough girls, the problem is you don't want to approach.

If you play a bit more of a social circle game it should work. Meet people, make friends, do social activities (language, dancing class) and just network to know more and more people. Ideally you even become the leader of some kind of thing, like organising small events (if not impossible for now due to COVID) where people meet up. Then go out with the people you got to know and meet even more people. Get to know bartenders, bouncers, people who frequently go to the same clubs/bars as you do etc. When you then approach you can do approaches that are a little bit more "generally social" ("hey, you guys look like fun together").

But who really does that? I'm also not gonna express my intimate, deep emotions to people I only met 5 minutes ago.