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And someone might pull out a gun if you talk to him. You can't have a 100% risk free life. That train of thought is paranoid. For talking to women? Not really. You'd have to do really crazy/weird stuff for that to happen. Like when a woman tells you "I'm not interested" if you then stick around and then say something like "oh come on baby, no one will know, don't be ashamed" or similar bullshit. No. If you don't do something that is defined as sexual harassment then you won't unintentionally harrass anyone. Look up the definition of sexual harassment. Then you know what not to do. Of course there are irrational people out there and anyone can claim that they're feeling sexually harassed by someone, but that doesn't mean your behaviour was sexual harassment. I can feel any way about anything. Still make sure to avoid obvious mistakes, like don't follow a girl in a dark alley to approach her there. You can be conscious of common safety issues women usually have. But don't be paranoid about being seen as the sexual harasser because you say to a girl "hey, I felt attracted to you, so I wanted to come and say 'hi'". If she then doesn't participate after 20 seconds have passed you simply leave.

Interesting. Yeah it looks like the biggest "danger" is already a weakening effect from other substances and if that's the case I'm not really concerned. I just wanted to exclude anything that could fuck up my brain.

Do you know if any supplements should be avoided when having a trip with LSD? From what I've seen LSD works on the Serotonin system, so could there be any kind of problematic interaction if you also take supplements like 5HTP or anything for that matter? The last thing I'd want to happen during a trip is when the effects of the substance come up and feel a bit weird physically, that I go into some negative thought loop of "but what if there is some dangerous interaction of substances?!! What if my brain gets destroyed?!!?" or similar bs ? Thanks!

@Emotionalmosquito just talk to your 2 friends until you hopefully get some good vibes going. You don't have to cold approach anyone, so just chill out. 90% of your negative expectations are just neurotic thoughts in your head. Most other people are also concerned about doing social mistakes. It's not like there is some spotlight constantly shining on you because you're the extra weird one (though there is a so called'spotlight effect'), most people don't even give a fuck about you and are worried what you think of them. Maybe it'll help you to drink 2 beers or so to become a little less stifled.

Whatever traits you want to have in a man. It depends on what you value

Hahaha you're the best Leo! High consciousness porn. No, I think here you are being a bit ignorant right now. There is already a good amount of research on the effects of porn on brain health. And trust me, my former porn sessions were intimate acts of self love, I even used some oil and lit a candle bro! ?

For some people it is and for others it's not. It's not a matter of knowing to appreciate something. For some people it simply has detrimental effects on the function of their brain, like it promotes social anxieties and other weird emotional disturbances. It's not perfectly understood yet, but these problems seem to be more common for people who started watching porn very early. I haven't watched porn for about 6 months now and I'm more well than ever before.

@UpperMaster you probably really need to invest some money to get some serious help. Like some course specifically designed to help with this issue, like what Dr. Trish Leigh (porn brain rewire) offers, maybe combined with the possibility of talking to someone 1on1. You really need to know what kind of life you want and what kind of misery awaits you if you keep going down that route. Without a clear goal in mind you won't find the motivation to change your habits. You need a community of like-minded people who support you (morally) and offer help/advice. And there are likely other emotional issues linked to your porn addiction which need to be addressed too, because they can contribute to the perpetuation of the cycle.

"Absolutely ?". Maybe because it felt good to get a positive response, so you preferred taking the validation over risking losing the validation later on?

I see your point, but I'm not dealing with that kind of problem, as I'm aware that there are a million things that can get in the way. I was just trying to inform the op that he's going to get these kinds of reactions, so he doesn't create false expectations.

When the girl doesn't like you back/just ignores you/tells you to fuck off/leaves the interaction (maybe with an excuse) etc.

@The Mystical Man puh, there's so much you could do. First and foremost you must go to where people are, REGULARLY. So ideally you go to bars every weekend and maybe find another social activity during the week so it becomes inevitable you talk to people (language course e.g.). In the beginning you probably have to forget about the mystery method theory because it's just gonna put you in your head way too much. You are now at the beginning of stage 1. Stage 1 is about overcoming fears. Any attempt at talking to other people is good enough. Even if you just walk through a bar and make eye contact with people it's good enough. If you just look at some people in a friendly way and say 'hi' or 'hey man' or whatever (while walking), that's already progress. Don't worry about looking 'high value', that will just increase the anxiety. You can also do some social challenges. These are little awkward tasks in which you have to expose yourself in some way, like asking a group a weird question. There's an app called 'IdareTo' specifically designed for that kind of challenges. Find a wing if you can and learn from him. Once you've somewhat overcome your approach anxiety and awkwardness you can start to worry about doing 'good game', like saying more polarizing and sexual things etc. There are many resources, the naturals lifestyle, Todd V, RSD to an extend (more inner game by now). Also you should be aware that there's absolutely no way around getting rejected and sometimes feeling really embarrassed. Everybody gets blown out, including Mystery. Have fun!

Hi all, Has anyone of you made experiences with psychedelics while dealing with the chronic health condition "chronic fatigue syndrome" (CFS), also known as ME? I'm diagnosed with this condition and contemplating the use of psychedelics. Now I have to say that chronic fatigue or low tolerance to exertion is just the surface level symptom. I know for sure that there is a significant emotional component to my condition, including some kind of trauma. I also know from medical examinations that there is a dysfunction in my autonomic nervous system (strong imbalance between sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system) and also far below optimal energy supply in the neocortex which can be demonstrated in a quantitative EEG. I believe psychedelics could at least help me with my emotional work, but maybe even have a more profound positive effect on the wiring of my brain (if done carefully/correctly). Anyway, just spit out what you know, if you know something ? Thanks guys and gals!

I found some interesting reports from someone supposedly struggling with CFS, who claims that his/her symptoms completely disappeared during a Ayahuasca trip. That's intriguing...

It's really not all that complicated. You will have to reject him because otherwise you're forcing yourself to do something you don't want to do. So just think about how you can soften the blow as much as possible. "Hey, you seem like a good person and I don't want to be rude or hurt you, but there is no possibility of us being in any kind of romantic or sexual relationship. I simply feel like there is no chemistry for that kind of relationship and I'd prefer if we could just continue as acquaintances/friends within the context of the meet-up group. Sorry if that's not the outcome you were looking for, but I have to take the decision for myself that feels best to me. I hope you understand." And then you see what happens next. If he then still wants to "negotiate " ("but maybe we should still try because things could change you know") then you have to make it clear that there's no room for negotiation. It can be tough to do this, but you just have to deal with the awkwardness and fear of doing this and potentially with the awkwardness of going to more meet-ups with that guy after rejecting him. That's just life.

I'm considering buying some course about psychedelics that goes into a lot of depth about safe use of psychedelics, set and setting, different substances, integration and consciousness work with psychedelics and you also get a 30 minute coaching session. Though somewhere in the "for whom this course is not" section, next to obvious things like pregnant or breastfeeding women, people with certain mental illnesses and severe chronic pain it also says "people with red green colour blindness", without explaining why. I didn't really find anything about it online, can you make sense of this?

Ok, thank you. That's good to know ?

Where do you have these numbers from? I thought it was 226.007,66$ and 25.038,38$ in income or am I wrong?

If what you're struggling with is typical masculine traits (assertiveness, getting shit done, being very goal oriented, being non-agreeable etc.) then I think some masculine role model can definitely help. But hopefully you choose one of the healthier ones

Just squeeze the "snooze" button when the alarm rings and sleep a little bit more. Always works.

@mr_engineer If you're a cool and confident guy, being yourself is what gets you good results. If you're a shy and insecure guy, being yourself is what makes you invisible to women, so get no results. That's why I recommend "become whoever you want to be".

@Tyler Robinson ok, fair enough. I hope you understand that at this point I'm not motivated to waste more of my time discussing Andrew Tate and I'm gonna move on. Best wishes! ?

You probably have the best chances by becoming a fitness freak who has status within the fitness industry, like a yt channel, a lot of stuff on Instagram etc.

Correct. Possible. But neither I nor you know how internally confident he is. From the little bit of "research" I've done about Tate I only know that he must have had a father who was strict and emphasized the importance of discipline and thus Tate became disciplined. It just seems unlikely to me that he's sitting there in these interviews and is on the inside worried about what people think of him, or about whether he has value for women or in society. This would actually be extremely hard to maintain and people tend to burn out quickly when they do that. It seems more likely to me that he is confident but still fucked up in another way for some reasons. Just like there are seriel killers with high self esteem (!). Contrary to popular belief, not all seriel killers have low self esteem, some actually have high self esteem and they also believe that they're doing the right thing when they murder people. Something in their brain works differently. I totally understand that people who are fucked up in some way get heavily criticised, but I don't like it when people then also attribute still more negative qualities to that person, than he/she has (or that we can know). Because that's just ego gratification (you make yourself feel better by unconsciously contrasting how good you are against how bad the other person is). And that's why I still disagreed with some points like "low iq" and "insecure", Tate might actually be an evil genius, he's not dumb, just morally fucked up.

Yeah. That might be the power of status that makes some women blind, but yeah there shouldn't be any excuse. So? Remember...we don't reduce anyone on their looks ? I didn't say he's a good role model. I said there's a need for masculine role models. I'm not a fan of him either. Agreed on shallow. Weak would be hard to defend because he is simply a hustler and he gets what he wants, is not afraid of any confrontation, expresses his views without any inhibition. Insecure is kinda the same thing as weak. He does use aggression and intimidation of some kind, but I don't think that he does it to overplay insecurities, but rather because he simply knows that it works to get what he wants (manipulation). It's more like he is in a negative way smart and knows how to affect people. Yep. I highly doubt that. Even if he uses trickery and manipulation, you don't get what he's gotten when you're dumb. And if you carefully read my last post you should without any doubt be able to tell that this is not what I meant, right? You could contemplate whether you are projecting more negative traits on Tate than he has (even though he certainly has negative traits as I pointed out). I understand that this guy is triggering and upsetting, but it's a typical mechanic of our mind to project still more negative traits on someone if we don't like him in order to make it still easier to bash him (called "pathologizing"). Maybe you can learn something interesting about your mind.