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@Jannes No I haven't tried it yet, but I'm curious. I'm actually just now starting with the 1V- LSD that I got when it was still legal. But what they say about the properties of 1D LSD sounds intriguing, the fast onset and rather short duration and high reproducibility. Also, the substance is being made by actual lizards (see below), which also sparks my interest.

That's funny that you post this here I watched it a few days ago. It's neat!

@Sempiternity this basically is all "pick up artistry" (PUA) or "game" knowledge. There are different teachers/coaches and different people on here would recommend different coaches to you, because tastes differ a bit. If you're generally ok (like there are no major insecuries due trauma or other negative past experiences) then you can indeed learn "technical game" and it will probably benefit you. I like Todd V because he explains things in a very structured, technical way like an engineer who's dissecting social interactions. So check out his YouTube channel.

@Max_V that's what vulnerability is about. What is the alternative? You never show your girlfriend all of what you "are" ("are" because your identity is just a mental construct anyway), and keep hiding all kinds of things so she keeps liking you? Don't forget one thing: all these red pill self proclaimed "alphas" are actually insecure. They just learn how to have a tough looking facade. To whom do you want to open up, if not to a girlfriend? Of course there are certain limits. If you've only been on 4 dates with a girl and already consider each other bf/gf then it would be over the top to share all of your struggles immediately. As time goes by you share something and then a little bit more, and hopefully this also encourages her to open up a little bit more easily herself. Simultaneously you keep working on yourself (including your struggles). And as others have mentioned, there's a difference between sharing some of your issues or just sitting there completely destroyed by life, sad and depressed and hopeless and complaining. Don't do the latter.

@StarStruck Now my question to you would be what you actually want to make out of this information? Do you now want to work hard for many years until you've achieved a lot of success so that eventually you'll feel like you have value in society? I mean of course you can do that, it's probably beneficial. But you could also just start to feel like you have value now and act like it and a lot of people will probably find you valuable in some way. And then if you demonstrated some level of confidence women would also like you and become attracted and you'd get relationships or get laid and all of that, but can still also work towards more material success along the way.

Neither can I, nor most other men (if they're honest with themselves). Got it. I've simply accepted the fact that I'm superficial to an extent. There is some threshold level of outer attractiveness that I need to see so I can feel sexual attraction to a girl, it's superficial but I can't help it. Once that threshold is reached, her personality is still very important and the girl that's a bit less physically attractive would still win over a better looking girl if she has the cooler personality or more of a sexual/flirtatious vibe. Sure. It's always interesting to become aware of our own hypocrisy. Keep working on yourself and you'll become more confident and then this kind of superficiality won't bother you anymore.

Alright. So now it's only about not getting a bad feeling when you do that, right? Well your feeling is linked to your beliefs around rejecting them, so change your attitude as discussed above. If you are indirect and discrete you're already doing what you can. "Hey I gotta go back to my friends, (might see you later)". You're not being a bad human for not being attracted to them, so don't worry. Let the emotion come up, feel it, breath into it and move on.

@puporing Awesome! Thanks ?

By "emotions" I mean the habituated emotional patterns that run us, like insecurities, anxieties, anger issues or even trauma. And I'm referring to substances like LSD, with a long trip duration. Should you have an intention like "I'm going to investigate in this insecurity X"? And if you choose to do that, what are good ways to actually investigate the issue? Do you just wonder things like: - what's the origin of this insecurity? - can I find a new perspective that helps me to overcome this insecurity? - can I just let go of this insecurity? Or is it more like you try to bring this emotion up, to then feel it, so it can be released? Basically, how do you do psychotherapy with yourself while tripping? Thanks guys and gals!

Oh, here you are again Is this also how you ago about a trip in general? Like, you just sit/lay down and observe what comes up and surrender or should you rather have a clear intention like investigating in some specific topic, that you write down beforehand?

@StarStruck Then the important realisation here is, that you can't avoid rejecting girls, unless you are ok with staying in (or getting in) relationships with girls you're not really attracted to. Be as much of a gentleman about any rejection as possible. Always frame it in a "we are not sufficiently compatible, but you're a cool girl" way as opposed to a "you don't have X, that's why I'm not attracted to you" way. Also realise that girls have a responsibility for their own emotions too, it's also part of their maturing process to deal with rejection. You can only soften the blow. And probably a lot of girls will get over it faster than you'd think. They usually have options. As for the emotion itself, you just feel it and allow it to be for a while. Then you reassure yourself "it doesn't feel nice, but it's necessary...".

Contemplate what exactly you feel bad about. Then share it here and we'll see.

I neither judge it, nor do I believe that they are the better solution for everybody. It really depends on what you want. You might want to make a lot of sexual experiences with several or many women simply to explore all kinds of tastes and learn more about what turns you on etc. You might also connect as deeply as possible with one girl and be madly in love and thus you need to choose monogamy. You could also have an open relationship (both ways), in which your gf is your nr. 1 girl and then you still sometimes have sex with other people or have a threesome. I don't know how well this last option works in practice, but just explore whatever you want.

You could start with what you know that you don't want. Then think about what the opposite of that is. And what kind of relationship you want, which will only be compatible with certain types of girls. Seems like narcissism. An attitude born out if insecurity in the disguise of alphaness. It's very possessive and kind of extortionary. Same kind of thing. If you think about how fucked up it is to ask of her that you should be allowed to fuck around while she has to be loyal... it's just absurd. This is where relationships become this purely transactional thing where someone provides all the resources (the man), to buy all kinds of liberties with it.

Then just phrase it in a more diplomatic way. Say that you've come to the conclusion that the two of you are not compatible. You don't need to tell her that she's the problem (because she actually isn't, she just doesn't align with what you're looking for). There's no way around telling her that it won't work out. You also can't completely avoid heartbreaks, they will happen. Don't simply block her, lol. You need to become comfortable with people being upset about your decisions. You shouldn't try to upset them, but realize that you can't avoid it either. If this leads to endless drama and accusations and blaming and shaming, you could still block her soon enough. And you should actually call her instead of texting her this, which of course is still more uncomfortable, but the right thing to do. So man up! ?

@Antor8188 Your question should be "do I get turned off by her if she expects me to pay the entire bill?". Do you see why?

In the book "you are the placebo" Dr. Joe Dispenza at some point talks about that some study was conducted in which participants were instructed to visualize some heavy lift, I think it was a biceps curl. And the results were that after some weeks of daily practice the bicepses of the participants had grown indeed (and participants were obviously not allowed to do some actual physical work out in the same time).

Not RSD anymore, but his stuff works.

I've already replied to a bunch of these performance anxiety threads. Read what I posted in a similar thread: You basically need to stop stressing about "failing" and relax. Don't beat yourself up about it, don't worry beforehand and if necessary work with more in depth techniques (as described in the thread I linked). Train your brain to love Sex by visualising sexual scenarios. Work on deeper self esteem issues if necessary. And don't watch porn because it might desensitize you and set the bar very high for what you think you need to be able to do (which can cause porn induced ed). Awaken the inner stud Maybe consider taking a supplement like maca for some time to increase your baseline libido. Have fun!

@amanen Thanks man! That sounds fascinating. Yeah, I can see how one would simply transcend a lot of these limitations, once she/he reaches states where these limitations don't make sense anymore and they get cured by love. Awesome approach!

Ok. My perception is that I already know the story behind a lot of these emotions, like "I'm afraid of how other people judge this specific aspect of my life, that they might see me as [negative judgement] and this makes me feel like I'm inadequate (or some other negative quality)." Though it does seem like it's hard for me to just tell myself another story (a more positive one), as it just feels like I'm kidding myself. Kind of like if you tried to destroy a solid brick wall by throwing a tennis ball against it, it won't do a lot.

@puporing @amanen @OBEler @Leo GuraG Surely you guys know something about this, don't you? ?

You know how most of the ancient (or even current) tribes, but also civilizations like the Maya, Inka or Egypts had their own type of spirituality and also some mystics or shamans etc. and as far as I know many of them had access to very potent psychedelics too. All of these folks used to believe in a whole array of different gods and deities and spirits, like a god of the sun, the god of wine etc. But I guess all of this is just nonsense thought up by humans who needed to make sense of their existence and their environment and thus they came up with these god's. But then I'm wondering, if these folks had actual mystics wouldn't you assume that these guys had the ability to access very heightened states of consciousness, have transcendental, spiritual experiences, which would have enabled them to make realizations about the nature of reality and thus see through the illusion of all of their made gods and deities? Or do you think I'm expecting too much of them here and their spiritual experiences would rather deepen their already existing beliefs about deities/gods/spirits etc.?

@Vibroverse ok, got it. ?

@Loba oh damn, you've gone very far down into this rabbit hole. That truly sounds like many years of practice! So thanks for your detailed post, it's very insightful! Are you here coming from this realization of "everything is imaginary", as in even if we understand the laws of nature and all the phenomena in painstaking detail in the relative sense, it's all still imaginary and therefore just like an projection of our mind?