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I understand. It's a shame you can't realise that each situation is relative to each individual, you have no idea the suffering I went through and you seem to be trying to make it a competition where being raped always comes out on top in terms of suffering but that's not an objective truth. Regardless, I respect your fight for justice, we should all work towards making this world a better place for everyone. Lots of love to you. I hope you one day see the severity of other people's problems as well as your own.

I understand that there is no comparison, but I wasn't the one who compared. I saw others comparing and downplaying false accusations as if they're nothing when that's not the reality. In fact, you are the one who literally just compared being falsely accused to losing your passport! The consequences of my false accusation did not come from going to jail, I did not even go to court because it was so unbelievably obvious that no rape occured. They came from having all of my possessions taken away from me for months and haaving no money to even buy a new phone or clothes. Because I had no phone, I had no contact with my friends, no social media, no ability to live my life like a normal person. I became addicted to substances to cope with the anguish of what had happened to me, the suffering my parents went through. Do you know my mum cried herself to sleep for weeks? I could hear her in the middle of the night crying every day. Do you know how that made me feel? Do you know how it felt to be constantly paranoid for months about the police going through my things and finding all of the evidence that I take psychedelics and using that against me in court? Do you know how it felt to spend a year working hard and saving up money to have to spend ALL OF IT and go into debt just to pay for a lawyer to prove my innocence and not be reinbursed in any way? No, you will never understand unless you experience it. I am not the one who made comparisons first, YOU DID. We can agree to disagree, but you should think hard about what you just wrote because I guarantee you if you lived through what I've lived, you wouldn't have written it.

How so? I'm happy to hear why. If Leo or a moderator feels this thread should be deleted/locked and my account banned, they can take action and do that. But I'm curious as to why you believe me sharing my side of the story is not okay?

Yet here we are, still together after having gone through this. Just because you haven't unified your soul on psychedelics with a partner of multiple years before and stuck together through incredible hardship doesn't mean it's not possible. But I understand your scepticism, I saw this on my main account and this thread triggered me too, reading these responses, especially yours, just brought back a lot of trauma and I may have impulsively vented a bit. I made a throwaway account because I don't want people to know my identity. No one here is trying to say rape is anything but horrific and terrible, but you fail to see the other side and that's why I posted here. To share my story so that maybe someone reading this considers the impact their selfishness has on others. Clearly you didn't, you checked out like most people will because they can't handle the threat to their ego. That's okay. We're all one in the end. If you want to give it one last shot, flip the script, if I was a girl who had been raped posting in the exact same way I am now, telling my story, how would your ego react compared to how it's reacted now?

How do you know, have you experienced both? Because I have. And I would rather be raped and beaten violently 10 times over being falsely accused of rape. I'm not downplaying being raped, it can be 10x worse than what I went through but that doesn't mean being falsely accused is no big deal. Neither is objectively worse than the other, each individual will have a different experience. Stop downplaying what I had to go through because it was by far the worst thing that has ever happened to me. Have you actually read or studied what happens to someone when they're falsely accused? Have you talked to people who were falsely accused? It was because of this mentality that I was on the brink of suicide, in fact, I would've done it if it weren't for my family. I suffered on my families behalf, I took all of their combined suffering and I grinded myself through it for THEIR sake, because I didn't want them to suffer. Every single day I woke up wanting to die, every single hour I thought about the joy of killing myself, the freedom from what the police did to me. They took everything that was mine and left me with nothing but trauma, existential anxiety and PTSD. No one helped me. No one supported me except my girlfriend and my parents. I'm still terrified of sex because I would rather be celibate for the rest of my life than be falsely accused again. There's nothing I can do about what happened to me other than empathise with others who have been through the same. It's very easy to just dismiss this issue like it's no big deal, but it destroyed me and I would rather be tortured for a day than go through what I went through again. You need to do research before you go spouting your ideology at people. You have NO idea how different a false rape accusation is vs a false theft accusation and whilst I forgive you, it's not your fault you don't understand, at least try to see just how much suffering you're downplaying because this issue doesn't concern you. You won't be falsely accused of rape, so your ego will ultimately be biased against that. I don't expect you to empathise with me, it's unlikely you will ever know the existential terror I went through for months. But at least try... People who are falsely accused of rape are victims too, and the fact that the justice system treats them as guilty until proven innocent disgusts me. No one should ever have to go through what I did. No one. No one should have to go through being raped either, but downplaying one side does nothing but harm both sides. I hope you one day realise this.