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I'm really not into politics and don't know much about it at all, but I was curious: @Leo GuraIn the stage red video, you mentioned that people wished for Sadam Hussein to no longer be leader of Iraq, but him no longer being a leader actually turned out to be worse, because once he was no longer leader there was no longer anyone to stand up to bullies. Is this dynamic the same with Trump, whereby having him re-elected as president could change the situation in Ukraine, and could keep other countries in check?

@mmKay thank you, I really liked your answer and I fully agree. As i've been exploring this, i've realised that it's better for me to just work during my dedicated hours, and not try to work during the spare hours. With the caveat that there are some times when i'm intrinsically able to work in spare hours, but it comes very naturally. I've become a big believer in doing things that come very naturally in that moment, it could be tidying room, wriitng emails, working on business, introspection etc. What I often find in my life is, if i'm having a moment where i'm introspecting on something and great ideas are coming to me, it's important to do it in that moment. If I take a shower and then try to do that introspection 20 minutes later, my mind isn't in that same zone it was in before.

For the next 4-6 weeks, I’m putting all of my focus into a personal development project that is really important to me, so i'll be working in time blocks throughout the day, sitting down at my desk doing deliberate practice. I’m always conflicted on whether I should spend any spare time I have outside of my normal time blocks doing extra contemplating about my project and trying to come up with solutions to the problems, like when i've got an hour to kill on the train for example, or whether it’s best to strictly work in my time blocks and then any time outside of those time blocks I should relax. On one hand: it’s so important to me that I do everything I can over the next 4-6 weeks to hopefully succeed in this project, so I’m wondering if spending these spare hours contemplating on the project could be a good idea. On the other hand: these spare hours I spend on the train contemplating won’t be the same quality as if I’m in my room doing the work, which isn’t a problem itself, since this time was only an added bonus anyway, so i'm technically not losing out on anything even if I achieve little during these spare hours, but the issue i'm really wondering about is whether spending these spare hours in this grey zone where I’m kinda doing work but it's low grade work, will just lead to frustration, and actually develop limiting beliefs because i'll be trying to focus but it's not gonna be as successful as sitting down at my desk to focus, i'm not sure if that's going to create limiting beliefs so that when I sit down to do my focused work at my desk, i've got all these experiences of struggling to contemplate and figure out answers on the train? What do you guys think? Just to reiterate, this project is really important to me, so I do have that mindset of 'i wanna go all out on this thing, and give it everything' but at the same time, I don't want to cause any potential limiting beliefs in the pursuit of trying to get as much done as possible.

@Leo Gura Interesting point about energy, I'm glad you bought that up. Within high energy, would you say there's different strands of high energy? For example, a loud and joking high energy might be someone like Kevin Hart. But i'm guessing there's different types of high energy, what would the other kinds of high energy be?

Yeah in reality people have 1000s of aspects that make up their game, but what i'm looking for is 8-10 categories or archetypes of people when it comes to dropping game on girls. For example, one category/archetype might be the joker who's always cracking jokes and amusing girls? I'm interested in what the other main categories/archetypes would be

I'm curious what the different styles of game are: I don't really know much at all about all the specific PUA terminology, my version of pick up is just going into clubs and having conversations with girls, I don't use any specific strategies. So 'negging' might be seen as a teasing or bantering style of game. So if teasing or bantering is one style of game, curious what other styles are?

In the stage red actualized video, it talks about 'violence/control/submission-domination dynamics' as a separate point, it first mentions strippers and pornstars, generally speaking, are stage red. So I get how all of the violent porn is stage red, but I don't understand how normal pornstars / strippers would be stage red

what makes you conclude they're red?

Was just curious what makes female pornstars stage red, I thought they would be stage orange because they're chasing money and sometimes fame. The overall impression I get of stage red is that it's revolved around violence, overpowering others etc, which doesn't seem to fit the category of pornstars, especially female ones.

I have different categories of hobbies like sports hobbies, self improvement hobbies, and I have a category of hobbies which is about connecting to life, but i'm looking for more in this latter category. When I say 'activities that allow me to connect to life' they're activities where i'm not physically doing anything like reading or cooking, i'm just sitting there and absorbing life in some way, and feeling this amazing connection with life. My current activities that allow me to connect to life are as follows, looking for some more similar activities? Going for walks Listening to music while watching the sunset Visualising Star gazing (although it's diffcult where I live) Btw i'm looking for things I can do everyday, not things like travelling. While travelling feeds the soul, it's an occasional hobby not an everyday thing. And Meditation isn't really my thing

@NoSelfSelf Examples of typical problems would be: i'm dealing with some issues with my family, i'm having some difficulties growing my business, dealing with a foot injury that's stopping me from being out walking, and being hit with loads of extra costs to pay out for, when already struggling financially. So it's the combination of all these problems going on simultaneously. But as I said previously, if I initiate it by saying 'hey I wanted to let you know i'm going through all these issues right now' it feels unmasculine because it feels like i'm asking for emotional support. Btw, my motive in all of this is: I don't talk to anyone about my problems, I just deal with them myself, and i'm perfectly capable of doing that. But I feel it's not good to keep things to myself the entire time, i'm sure there must be a healthy way of expressing to others what i'm going through without it feeling like i'm asking them for emotional support.

I don't currently have a girlfriend, but just curious about something for when i'm next in a relationship. This is more a question for guys who have studied a lot about masculinity/dating/attracting women etc rather than a question for girls. Question: Do you think it's unattractive to a girl, if a guy initiates talking about the problems and the difficulties he's going through? (what I mean by 'initiating' is where the girl hasn't asked what's wrong, the guy just openly comes out and says 'i wanted to let you know, i'm having a difficult time going through x right now' Is it instead better to vent to close friends or family instead? I know open communication is of course very important. But if I start initiating conversations to a girlfriend about what i'm going through, to me it would feel like i'm asking her for support, asking her to console me, and it just feels very unmasculine. Maybe there's a way to communicate where it doesn't feel like i'm asking the girl to do anything for me, but instead it's just me being open about what i'm going through? Btw I don't wanna make this sound like i'm one of these fake macho people who can never be vulnerable with a girl, I'm perfectly happy for a girl to console me. But at least in my mind, there feels like a difference between a girlfriend seeing that you're feeling down and going through a lot and naturally coming to console you, vs me coming to her with my problems where it feels like i'm almost asking/hinting that I want to be consoled. The former feels very natural and something i'd like, whereas the latter feels very unmasculine to me, but i'm really interested to hear you guys' thoughts?

thanks guys, non-alcoholic wine is a great idea, i'm going to use that! I'm going to look carefully at the labels as I hear some of them are just glorified cherry juice, but does anyone know if there's any unhealthy ingredients to look out for? Presumably in alcoholic wine, there's no bad ingredients per se, it's the process that makes it unhealthy because it turns the grape into alcohol? Hopefully non alcoholic wine is just the same minus the alcohol.

I don't like alcohol and don't drink at all in order to maximise my health. I don't currently cook with wine, but I love the taste of wed wine in food. Red wine vinegar is just not the same. I was thinking about starting to use red wine in dishes, because whenever I try someone else's cooking, I love the flavour, but I don't really want to start if it's gonna be unhealthy. From my understanding, the alcohol doens't completely burn off, unless cooked for many hours. and i'm not sure if there's also other things beside the alcohol that make these drinks bad? thank you

Going for walks, and listenign to music are good, but if I finish working on my business or finish working on personal development stuff at 5pm, but i'm not gonna listen to music or go for a walk for 7 hours until I go to bed. What other things can I do to relax and recharge? Things that I can do each night, kind of like a hobby that allows me to relax and recharge? When I think of things like introspecting, visualising, reading - these are all just acitivites that are still using my brain, i don't feel like they allow me to relax and recharge, they just feel like more of what i've been doing all day. And things like gym and cooking, I do these things, but I don't really consider this my 'free time'. thank you