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@Never_give_up Yup acceptance is the key to reduce suffering . I noticed in my experience that whoever I accepted and took action anyway such as in my career, approaching women that it's a superpower . Giving you an example from an interview which I had - everyone was nervous before the interview including me , I accepted my anxiety which cause me to smile . Then I have the interview anyway - it went good .

@Monster Energy What's the update . Are you there ?

@Leo Gura A suggestion from my side . You can take it or let the suggestion fuck off 😁. We already love you . You are loved by a lot of people . Actualized.org is one of the most beautiful things built on earth . It isn't an institution but rather a representation of transformation from basic self-help to advanced philosophy and beyond . Heck, I have observed many people don't do self-help properly leave philosophy and spirituality apart. But you did them not only that you reached us to how to do them properly . So whenever you feel am urge to reply on this forum anywhere in an arrogant way, keep the device aside ,accept the feeling for 3-4 minutes and then reply . Just my 2 cents.

@Ramanujan But bro success is counterintuitive. Getting it won't feel like success . I have experienced this - After making to work I didn't felt like I had a grand success . For sure few days felt good but they faded quickly than I expected . So yeah ,I don't know what you're conditions are but if you're willing to struggle then it will determine the magnitude of your triumph . The further you chase things like Success , happiness the further they move away from you . Realized this after I was miserable in my class 12th and further but when I learned about the counterintuitive nature of life from Leo's video and when I began applying it I made progress , not only that the more I accepted my suffering happier I became , it was true back then and it's true now . The more I just focussed on taking action more I progressed and succeeded . Life is counterintuitive dude . Understand it , watch Leo's video on it and then try to apply it over and over again.

@Ramanujan Bro what are you talking about . Many things have been discovered - before self-help there was philosophy which has since time immemorial .

Words of wisdom.

But I think that not only spiritual people but philosophers , even scientists need skepticism in order to you know doing better science ,better philosophy , also I didn't know this one - even better self-help. Questioning not only changed my life by giving me better jobs but also it helped me look at reality carefully like in case I can admit that when I was in college and was getting rejected by girls - I didn't looked at the fact that other girls were attracted to me but also I was exclusively focussing on rejections ,posting my suffering from rejections on this forum whereas you know as attraction is counterintuitive - The girl who was crush of whole batch approached me ( I didn't had a crush on her ). Multiple women have me signals due to my vulnerability and authenticity . Do you think that even though you shot - How to get laid series but your episodes - Assumption is the mother of all Fuckups and the counterintuitive nature of life are far more valuable for guys trying to get laid or trying find a girlfriend?

@Leo Gura Leo your recent blog post is great . Particularly I liked the part of skepticism , questioning assumptions , direct experience is the closest thing to truth, also the philosophy of self-doubt . I discovered Actualized.org when I was 17 , now I am 26 and you know what people hate philosophy in real life . I am talking about people in real life . I talked about a person of my own age, that person asked that who is your idol and I told Socrates . It was mind blowing or per say surprising to me that they didn't knew Socrates . Hello that person couldn't even pronounce Socrates . That's how deluded people are in their own culture and religion . I am also deluded but not only that the main point is that I am wrong . You may not reply to my post but here is the thing - I have discovered that challenging your own mental assumptions is one of the worthwhile journeys that one's mind can take rather than seeling the comfort of living in a positive or negative beleifs . Life has proven to me again and again - I don't know is truer than any positive or negative certainity of an event happening in the future . Questions - Am I going in the right direction when I choose questioning my thoughts ,assumptions instead of choosing to be confident in self-belief ? Is self-belief is better or self-questioning better ? ( I assume self-questioning is better ) Is direct experience questionable ? ( Since direct experience exists until we are experiencing things or is it a dream ?) Thank you much appreciation from a long time subscriber to your videos since 2017.

It's awesome to me due to it's action orientation and it challenges you in a healthy way. For me personally it was good since I never trusted the evidence reality gave me be it in career , dating etc. I viewed it through the negative lens. When I used to post on this forum's dating section - I would only post that how girl at college rejected me ( back then I was studying engineering at college ) . I didn't posted that few girls were attracted to me . Such as a girl who was the crush of our whole batch approached me , a few another approached me . Also when I posted that I was threatened by other guys for talking to girls that too was an evidence of my attractiveness- I fell into classic negativity bias trap. As per action orientation I am already a massive action taker the problem was I didn't recognized myself as it and you know as Leo talks about it was not an issue of action it was an issue of self-belief .

@Olaf You can read Models by Mark Manson. The key here is honest expression of yourself to women despite inner anxiety and also to men in general. 2 things happen when you express yourself despite anxiety - you either make a woman receptive or you repel her . By either outcome you will feel more fulfilled . As per me I have been approached by women over the years and you know what vulnerability is a gift in itself - saying this not from theory but from lived experience .

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius . I have read it earlier 2 times. Now is the 3rd time.

Can't agree more with this.

I was thinking about this a few days before. I am already complete without a relationship.

@Natasha Tori Maru I admit to you that I lived for years under the misogynistic assumption that I love to see women suffering but 2 years ago and also recently I saw 2 distinct women cry in real life . 1 was a stranger at college walking with her boyfriend whereas other was my relative . And you know I feel anxious when I see women cry and I don't want them to cry (honestly ). Also I consoled one of them ( my relative ). So yeah my assumption got inverted , I am not a misogynist and I am already succesful with women even though I am currently single .I don't need a relationship to prove my worth . Thanks for this vulnerable post since vulnerability is power, courage and attractive .

@pablo_aka_god Yup it's right and the point is not to eliminate it but act despite it and that's what confidence is which women are attracted to.

@Ramanujan Accept your suffering and take action that's all.

@Majed It's an overgeneralization. Man you said that you have approached 1000s of women but still didn't get laid but what if you took the attitude of refining your strategy or for the love of God just keep going despite pain for the sake of being resilient. Just focus on action and counting it as your achievement . I am also a single virgin and never had a relationship my whole life while people around me have gone from relationship to relationship but maybe it's time to stop chasing women but still continue being vulnerable with them which is the point. It's far more helpful to assume - I don't know . Hold this high quality assumption in your mind and then approach dating .

@Never_give_up It's hard wired in us to care about other people's opinions but you can use it to your favour. Care about opinions of people who are respectful to you.

@Monster Energy You will win this battle. I Hope for your speedy recovery.

@Olaf Ok done I will continue approaching women. You never know what you can do unless you do it - Kung fu panda 4. Thanks for inspiring me.

@Olaf 🙂 I am not jealous of you but I love seeing your progress.

@Olaf Ok.

@Olaf Nope dude. I approach people at work and now is holiday.

I have observed that my anxiety is significantly reduced and the key was - taking action despite anxiety . Be it in social situations or at work.

@Monster Energy Yup especially Oogway's wisdom .