Rishabh R

It has been proven to me over and over again that my top value is:- 1.Resilience which involves engaging with challenges ,discomfort and difficulty of day to day life after accepting them . 2nd value is Tranquility which involves questioning the thoughts ,beleifs and assumptions behind the emotion when angry , hurt ,triggered or experiencing any negative emotion by - What if I'm wrong ?, What would it mean if I were wrong ? ,Would being wrong create a better problem than my current problem or worse problem for both myself and others? then arriving at a balanced conclusion. 3rd value is connection by expressing myself honestly to others . And I have experienced progress by acting in alignment with them.

@Yimpa Over time my values have changed from chasing happiness ,success ,getting a relationship to these values which I listed in my above post such as resilience , tranquility and connection. I mean I used to be outcome focussed but now I am more internally focussed after painful realizations like effort matters but you can't control the outcome, you will not get everything that you desire and that's good , more the struggle and pain more massive the victory will be .

@LordFall But resilience is not self-torture or self -harm. Thanks for sharing this video ,I watched it and found a lot of great lessons in it.As per the video this guy didn't tortured himself to prove to himself that he can take it but he rather overcame excruciatingly life threatening hardship. As per me I have survived great deal of hardships in my life up till now.

@Ramanujan Man, you are asking this for ages. Stop chasing success , success is a lie. No matter where you reach ,what you achieve your will still feel that you are short of something. Instead honour your own progress and reading about a self -help book is very different from applying that book. Focus more on taking action than on theory. By the way I appreciate your burning desire for success.

@Stick In my experience asking these questions is great. How do I live the best life possible ? What is the most wisest way to live life ? What if I'm wrong ?

Resilience and challenging my assumptions.

Only the hand that can erase can write what is right.

Ai prompt engineering , Biotechnology, resilience , emotional regulation skills.

This is a great advice @Judy2.

Be persistent despite failure. That's all you need to succeed . It takes practice to live in alignment with your values .

@Zenterus From your situation I think that having high standards and focussing on finding high quality of girl over chasing quantity is a ticket out . I have seen many guys falling into the trap of getting a hot girlfriend while completely ignoring her actions , standards only to found out that they break up in some time and the girl dating other guy. I found out that post rejection that rejection is a protection from girls who were wrong for me. Yes , I dodged several bullets in college by getting rejected over and over again. Which saved me a lot from those manipulative ,toxic relationships. All the best ,you got this man.

@jacknine119 Just take action since it is simpler than you think. As per impressing women -it doesn't matter.

@Miguel1 Vulnerability is a great thing. Thanks for this thread .

@Miguel1 Alignment is not something that one gets through one time reflection but rather using reflection as a starting point and then acting in alignment with your priorities over and over again. What I have noticed is that more I align myself with my values more I have the feeling of fullness. It must be practiced day to day . You can use Ai to create an alignment tracker too.

@Davino Ok.

@Davino I don't know what your perspective means could you clarify it further as it sounds harsh to me.

@Joseph Maynor Post it here kindly.😂

@Joseph Maynor Man why does it look so serene ? 😂I mean the pics you posted .

I give credit to this post since due to it I joined it's WhatsApp group based on Mumbai despite being from a far away city in India .

@Leo Gura Thanks but I have realized since doing it from 2 years that acceptance is like a muscle which can be trained just like observation. By the way do you create word documents or PDFs from Ai ? For example this was which I created and there are others too .Can you all provide a feedback on it ? socratic_method_guide.docx

@Joshe Reframing of pain is what I have been doing lately combined with acceptance .

@TruthFreedom Try, fail then learn. Rinse and repeat.

@Leo Gura These quotes are gold. However I have few questions. Is critical thinking by challenging one's own assumptions a wiser path and is it part of skepticism? Yesterday I was feeling sadness but when I stopped resisting it but rather accepted ,embraced it I smiled. So which is better acceptance or observation of your negative emotions and reminding yourself that it's hallucination ? I mean since both approaches are path to embracing pain but which is the better catalyst for transformation?

That's awesome progress bar that you have set yourself for .All the best.

Do you mean cold approach or social circle approach ?