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Yup absolutely . I have experienced in my life that authenticity/vulnerability is like a filter . It does both - attracts and repels.@Olaf puts it more nicely .

@felixk_priv Great !

@Judy2 Reach out to him. If things don't work then move on. It's simple.

@Natasha Tori Maru Yup feeling of fulfillment is a side effect of acting with healthy values. Giving a recent example : I acted in alignment with my values of resilience and guess what conquering that obstacle generated a feeling of fulfillment in me from inside which no self-help technique can manufacture.

It indicated me that connection is your value. It can be highly volatile depending on how you define it for example connection on your terms of based on other's judgement of you. As per this post Authenticity is underrated since if you look up the pick up material most of them have a deep root problem inability to be authentic or honest in the moment .There are literally videos on YouTube telling desperate guys - Say this , text this to a woman as if you can control a woman by manufacturing attraction. Also pickup has a problem with itself - Treating getting a laid as a controllable outcome but rather letting go of trying to be loved , trying to get laid yields more happiness than even having a multitude of hot women cannot provide . Your posts seem to me wiser. This is progression towards maturity .

@Natasha Tori Maru Ok I just want to know what did you do after that dissonance ,I mean did you align your actions with your values or let the dissonance persist . Since dissonance is a signal of weather you can change your values or realign with your values.

@Natasha Tori Maru In my experience authenticity is honest expression of your thoughts , emotions and your actual day to day actions. However , you're definition has an interesting caveat . Acting in alignment with our healthy values makes us more authentic so that explains pretty much of it . Values change , we change our authenticity changed that's a normal progression. Yup authenticity has been being thrown around a lot in self -help literature especially in dating and attraction.As if authenticity is the key that makes you the Ladies man. But as per attraction it is subjective , I mean - Some women will like you , some will hate you for your true self. But it's better to be single and hated for your own choices rather than putting a cool persona of authenticity in order to liked by others.

@Monster Energy I have experienced that women are attracted to I mean in most of the cases to personality.Confidence which signals outcome independence rather than the confidence of getting her is highly counterintuitive. They choose partners based on their interactions with men not appearance per say . For most women it's like this I don't know about the rest. Attraction is Subtle and highly deceptive as well as follows reverse psychology .

Stand in I don't know , stand in it bask in it. See places where it leads you ,it will lead you to places you would not even have anticipated ,I promise you that .

Got a job after resigning from an underpaying job. Acted in alignment with my values for the 64th day. Also observed a significant or meaningful reduction in my anxiety by taking action despite being anxious .

@Vido Imagination that a thing is better than what you already have.

@Joseph Maynor Nope I don't think so. Without them this community would be a more stinkier mess. I have experienced it in other communities.

To obsess over a thing which you can't have. Opposite of gratitude .

I feel like what's appropriate from my life experience is - Comparison is the theif of Joy . I have experienced that everytime when I compare myself to others I feel like a failure ,miserable but when I see my own progress I feel good.

@Joshe I would frame the question as - How can we detoxify the forum ?

This post is great .

Life is suffering- Buddha.😂

@Leo Gura Now replace it with 8 breakups. What a pain.

Hope he does .

@TheGod Man you spoke words of wisdom.

@Inliytened1 Ok that came to my mind but I have seen many players chasing girls and ending up nowhere . I was also a sort of player very earlier in life and I noticed that it's a pathway of hurt. Rather screen women according to alignment ,talk to many of them but settle for one of them.

This is gold .

Nope relationships are like investments. If you scatter your investment in different domains you may get or master nothing . But if you put a single targeted investment then you get really cool dividends . Watch Leo's video - Why valuable things take development over time.

@YIDIRYIDIR Great post . I never thought about meaning and I rarely or almost never felt a lack of meaning . What I painfully realized that during negative circumstances if I don't take action or execute them nothing will change. Circumstances rarely change themselves .

@Mellowmarsh Yup it's fake. Studies have shown that it's highly exaggerated version of what happens in real life .