Rishabh R

Sorry @Asia P today I realized today that I lied to you regarding this . By the way I do apply this rule few times while facing disrespect from my relatives however I have made my values more important than their respect or disrespect .

@Rafael Thundercat Ok but I am already over it and what let me get over the rejection is that sitting with the sting of rejection rather than escaping it .I am antifragile.

Got rejected yesterday by a former girl classmate of mine after having a vulnerable conversation. I have been talking to her since 3 years. I expressed myself honestly to her despite nervousness. The rejection stinged but later it became ok. Yup @Leo Gura is right based on his avoidance of Truth episode . The seeking of truth will sting. However , I also realized that the sting lasted briefly . And also as I accepted it the sting reduced. @Miguel1 Yup you are right ,being vulnerable hurts but as per Leo's - How to get Laid series allowing your true to get rejected is better than putting a persona. Nope I was already vulnerable with her by expressing myself honestly to her multiple times. Like she asked questions about me . Even though she used to reply late but she responded with multiple messages to me even when I messaged her once on WhatsApp. In real life she waved hi to me multiple times. Pulled me by my arms to show a YouTube short and helped me stand against a guy bully. I expressed honest compliments to her.Told me to meet her before leaving the city but circumstances didn't allowed our meeting. Bye.

I underestimated my non-fuckery after a harsh rejection. I mean when I was rejected harshly by a girl , I stood up for myself - faced threats ,cruel pushback. But I moved on. Later I rarely paid attention to her and guess what she approached me twice asking questions each time. Later again I was worried that I will feel bad after seeing her with her make best friend but guess what - her make best friend engaged with me in a respectful manner and I didn't gave a Fuck about her and it's liberating.

@Inliytened1 You have unlocked this thread and started a chain of thread within the thread. 😂 @Mellowmarsh Yup I saw that you locked your DM. Hope you find someone on the forum or in real world .

@Asia P Same experience with my relatives. I apply a general rule by asking myself - Are their opinions worth giving a F--- about ? Most of the time answer is - No it doesn't matter.

@Joseph Maynor Rishabh . You follow me as a connection on this forum.

@Joseph Maynor Congratulations in advance for you.

This in the form of self-compassion is important. As per self- worth keeping it detached from self-worth is indeed the cornerstone of healthy dating .

But you can be with time and effort .

@LordFall Achievement part . I mean it lead me to a lot of dark places which included huge deal of emotional suffering ,eating antidepressants ,going to a psychiatrist when I understood getting a girlfriend as achievement . When I stopped treating it such my neediness dropped and I realized that I can't control weather someone will like me or not.I can only put myself out there and that's all .

Asper confrontation @LordFall I have noticed that it's better to engage in conflict and move on rather than avoid or supress it.

Ok that's maturity backing off is maturity. Since we are from the - Actualized.org team.

I don't agree with this. I agree with this . The confrontation part .

@Inliytened1 Ok ok even though I disagree with you but I appreciate the fact that you acknowledge me being virgin single in the begining and that's ok. @yetinetiI appreciate you too. Both these men are different they have different perspectives ,life and all.

@Ulax Nope I don't dislike sexual topics but I am concerned about confrontation. I mean people on this thread are trying to participate in a sexual arms race.

@Inliytened1 All the best man.

And guys I have noticed that this thread is getting more disrespectful not to women in general but also to men . I mean - Sex is not an achievement - it's alignment guys. Stop treating it as such.

Ok that's fair but even if you don't like someone atleast you talk to them in a respectful manner. I mean don't give them the feeling of disrespect .

@Inliytened1 But women complain about this place a lot . I mean not only that but you can engage in healthy dating / relationship discussion. Also I noticed something unusual about your behaviour earlier you used to be more active on other sections on the forum but why such as sudden shift lately . Are you ok ?

@Inliytened1 Read this man . I pasted this after copying it from forum guidelines .Read the point title hate speech ,racism , Sexism . What’s NOT Allowed: Self-promotion Coming here to start your teaching/coaching/guru business by leeching off this audience Multiple accounts. (If you are caught opening multiple accounts, both will be banned). Posting in any language other than English Sharing copyrighted material, including sharing of files, videos, music, etc. to which you do not have copyrights. Discussing group-buys or sharing of self-help products or courses. Discussing torrenting, warez, or cracks SPAM, including but not limited to: affiliate links, mass marketing, clandestine promotion, SEO, promotional PM Harvesting member contact information Links to pornography, graphic violence, religious/political propaganda, etc. Hacking the forum Viruses or malware of any kind Recruiting members for chat-groups outside of this forum, including Skype, Discord, chatrooms, etc. Starting new spiritual communities, private groups, or cults Mass messaging or abuse of the PM system PMing members with pitches or promotions or recruiting PMing members to share copyrighted material or do "group buys" of self-help products Duplicate-posting: posting the same thread in multiple locations Posting AI-generate content like text, images, or video without disclosing that it was sourced from AI Posting Deepfakes without disclosure Verbal abuse Verbally abusing moderators or administrators Threatening or blackmailing other members, moderators, or administrators Hijacking threads Hijacking the community, mass manipulation of the community, sabotaging the community, leeching off the community Excessive or repetitive creating of new threads or replies Hate speech: racism, sexism, homophobic slurs, threats, harassment, or excessive profanity Ganging up on other members, starting factions that splinter the community Sharing private logins to Actualized.org products or services with other users Reproducing or posting content from Actualized.org paid products Calling members names like: stupid, idiot, moron, asshole, retard, etc. Trash-talking, trolling, chronic criticism, blaming, and finger-pointing Political activism (this is NOT a political forum) Religious activism or dogmatic promotion of any religious belief system Threads about which religion is the best Debates about whether enlightenment is real. (If you doubt enlightenment this forum isn't for you.) Conspiracy theories (like Illuminati, Reptilians, 9/11 inside job, Flat Earth, Jews running the world, pedophilia rumors, etc) Spreading rumors and gossip Asking how to source drugs, psychedelics, or prescription pharmaceuticals Attempts to undermine or damage Actualized.org, staff, or employees Excessive thread bumping ALL-CAPS messages Impersonating Moderators, Administrators, Leo, or Actualized.org staff Threads about Actualized.org billing issues, refund request, bugs, or technical support. (Contact tech support for that.) Using images of Leo or the Actualized.org logo for your profile picture Offensive, grotesque, dirty, or sexual profile images or usernames Posting personal information such as address, phone number, or email Doxxing

@Inliytened1 Nope I'm not talking about that. You can talk about it privately , with your romantic partner , with your guy friend but not here in public . The forum is a casual chat room not a casual sex room.

Man , there are ladies on this forum too. Don't generalise your intimacy .

@Inliytened1 I hate to break it to you but regardless of the fact weather @Leo Gura is pro pickup or anti pickup . I have observed it in a huge number of guys. Guy reads pickup theory - then approaches a lot of women - then get's laid/relationship/sex whatever from the woman. Then breakups with her and again back to 0 still suffering like he will remain single his whole life. Again back to where he started .

@Leo Gura Sorry Leo if it goes against the forum guidelines if my comments feel off . @Mellowmarsh Yup vulnerability also includes apologizing when necessary . @yetineti I hope so. 😂