Rishabh R

😂Haha , I can share the insights too as I have more than 150 insights on - What is the most wisest way to live life ?

@Buck Edwards maybe you are talking about self acceptance of negative emotions which feels after rejection/,heartbreaker, right ?

@UnbornTao @Sugarcoat I already started contemplating since 2021 and now a these days I have stopped as I have generated too many insights. And yes @UnbornTao some people are not gonna like me or accept me which is a fact of life as I learned this from Mark Manson's connection course. Thanks.

@NoSelfSelf I think that I am already growing as negative emotions are key to growth and the topic was how to develop non reactivity which means how to develop detachment . Sorry dude but maybe that's a part truth not whole truth of the matter.

@Sugarcoat Ok. But your psychoanalysis is perfect in this case that's why I compared you to Jung 😃.

@Sugarcoat yeah maybe it's an internal/inner game problem as women's reactions are like up and down cycle. Maybe I could consider your analysis as Carl Jung's analysis as he was also in psychoanalysis 😂.

@NoSelfSelf why you are so rude all the time huh?

@UnbornTao sorry I didn't understand ?

Yeah and Is this mindset correct that my goal is not to have a girlfriend but practice vulnerability?

No but when I see them with their girlfriends , I feel inferior .

@Sugarcoat You are pointing me to interesting questions which answers I myself don't know or am struggling to know while thinking right now 😂. Maybe for the fact that I am not a player like them who behave narcisistically with other guys if they see them talking to their girlfriends haha,😂

@Sugarcoat because they don't want me.

@Sugarcoat As they call me brother. But your perspective is also interesting.

@Yeah Yeah I am 23 , the same thing I am struggling with but I am not suicidal due to it. It is not worth giving away your life due to someone else's choice.

@UnbornTao you journal aligns well with the practices of ACT therapy and acceptance component of shadow work.

@manuel bon Cole Hasting's Ultimate self mastery course. Type in the Google for it.

I was feeling sad , angry , was jealous and suffering for a few days due to not a having a girlfriend and my friends having girlfriends. I then after filling the shadow work worksheet from a different course(sorry @Leo Gura )started accepting the negative emotions and it went away . So they key with negative emotions and thoughts is to accept them due to which conunterintutively they lose their power over you.

@El Zapato Yeah I feel that I have some control over my life but not everything as there would always be external circumstances which one cannot control, people who wouldn't like you etc. What I have been doing lately is accepting what I cannot control.

Is exploring other's perspectives and questioning one's perspective like for example - Is it true that she hurted me ? a key for healing from anger due to past traumas , rejections , hurtful actions of others ?

@Majed It would be better for you to follow through with your psychiatrist and combine it with self help material.

@El Zapato Haha. So yeah , what I have gone through in college is nothing compared to the real world , right ?

@El Zapato Sorry, I feel bad for you . The situations I have faced is nothing compared to what you have faced in your life. You are way stronger than me . Even tough I am strong too.

@El Zapato Even tough I didn't fully understand what you said but I think you are pointing to feeling through one's negative emotions , right ?

I am on antidepressants for 5 years (medication was Praxet 25 mg and Arpiprazole)and recently I am not on them. The Praxet became over on Saturday and now is Wednesday. I am also giving exam. My father has sent that Praxet and will come soon to my hostel. That being said , I am eating Arpiprazole regularly and still am on it . I was feeling extremely angry when my exam didn't went well but when I accepted my anger I felt normal . I am doing this approach as part of ACT therapy / Shadow work by researching them on my own. Additional info : I contacted my psychiatrist few days ago. I am feeling normal right now.

@Nilsi I was sad for a few days but as soon I accepted my sadness via shadow work it dissipated. Even tough there will be moments of suffering and sadness in the future but it can be reduced as some suffering is inevitable.