Rishabh R

Yeah I am trying to . Maybe there is a misunderstanding between us. This whole post was defeating of a long held beleif of mine that nobody loves or likes me. I just generalised that beleif by putting all men instead of me.

First of all thanks for clarifying.Some women do like us and will like us in the future - I have made this statement based on the reality of very few events during which some girls( I mean very few) kept a continuous eye contact with me and were smiling. They repeatedly touched me in a funny manner. Laughed at my humor.

@Princess Arabia But I have been on years of antidepressants, antipsychotics. While others around me who face symptoms of mental health smoke and drink. Why can't I give advice to men if my advice is positive and based on ground reality.

@Princess Arabia I know as I have been abused , bullied women and men alike. Rejected by women, ignored by them. Yeah you are right. I have lost my mother at the age of 22. Few years ago. But this post is different.

@Princess Arabia Haha but I was trying to help/give message to males from my post.

@Princess Arabia So you mean that anyone who disagree to you or is hurt by your response has a trauma. Other people commented too on the post but I wasn't hurt by their responses even though I disagree with them a bit.

@Princess Arabia Okay but I in my response I told that I also don't know you and everyone present here in real life. Why your response feels blunt and hurting.I don't understand. As per the worksheet part it's easy to see limitations outside your worldview but not in your own. Yup I agree that that worksheet is limited but the two extremes of beleifs -Nobody loves me and I am loved by everyone both are inaccurate.

@Princess Arabia Whatever you may label it. But this is the conclusion I drew from doing a self-improvement worksheet based on CBT. I am not loved by anyone and nobody loves me are both extreme thinking. You don't know me, I don't know you and everyone. I was writing for helping others and sharing the conclusion I came to.

@Princess Arabia 👍. I don't need to prove who exists in my world. Thank you.

@Princess Arabia Yup . I said it.

Okay so by this you mean that only I have to face reality while not all other struggling males ? And also isn't it a reality that all men are loved regardless of the fact weather they have a partner or not ? I asked Claude Ai to rate this perspective out of 10 and it rated it 9/10.

@EternalForest I have felt that sting and moved on, also I have found some women do liked me. Even though they were few.

@Norbert Somogyi Thanks for the feedback.

This is a great post . Also @Carl-Richard one can apply growth mindset by Carol dweck .

@Whitney Edwards ok. Yeah it's not an overnight process as for me I am doing self-development since 8 years.

Congratulations. @Whitney Edwards by the way how many years have been on self improvement journey. And I also want to ask weather Emotional intelligence book by Daniel Goleman is a practical book on emotional mastery ? I have it .

@integral Best thing is to walk away from those who don't respect you.

@Leo Gura I talked to him over discord and I told that I was reading a popular self-help book. He told that all those books are garbage and find someone else to help me. Secondly, his approach to game felt narcissistic with only focus on oneself. Dear Leo I respect you , even though I have been hurt by you occassionally in the past but I was wondering why you didn't take him down as a mod.

But I despite being mentally ill don't live on street but rather in my hostel and sometimes I go home to meet my parents. I don't do drugs but am on medication prescribed by my doctor. 😁

No. I have tried acceptance. Incidents from my life - When I am suffering I try accepting my suffering and it paradoxically stops the suffering . I have tried it more than 25 times and as per my experience even though positive thinking is important but acceptance is a more advanced way to overcome suffering.

Realized answers are of high quality , are love connected whereas thrust upon answers are of non- acceptance of what is . - Which is force. Love contemplating with both of you . Let's continue. As per the list - Because it is not understanding and to understand is to love.

Thanks. I am contemplating while writing the answers.

As per last question. Answer - Because teachings must be realized not thrust upon. If one realized the teaching them it would be brute force memorization not learning.

@gambler If Leo beats us while we memorize his stuff then there would be no learning but rather forcing the teachings on us. It is true but people are at different levels of development, some people realize the teachings earlier in life while some a little later in life.

@RendHeaven Because something forced is not authentic. As per truth - It's either accepted or forced by nature onto us.