Rishabh R

By the way this has happened to me over the context of 1 month were I have approached more than 50 girls .

Contemplated the above question for days : -Non negative thinking -Expecting the situation to turn anytime -Looking forward -Having a forthsight plan -Going despite failure -Recognizing that setbacks are small -Knowing that anything can change -Working -Recognizing the transient nature of setbacks -Fixing the variables which are not working -Drive -Understanding which is working which is not working -Recognizing which is forwarding the result and which is reversing the result

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Hey , @Leo Gura must I set huge expectations or low expectations for success in any domain of life ?

Any help is appreciated .

@Leo Gura ok thank you.

-By recognising that life is a game -By recognising that I am in a play -By recognising that everything has long-term consequences -By recognising that people are leading off a cliff By recognising that I am playing -By moving ahead -By recognising the effects of 3-5 step ahead Any thoughts @Leo Gura and guys?

@Eternal Unity not quite sure ?

@Eternal Unity and @theleelajoker thanks.

What beliefs of mine am I unwilling to question or change ? 1-I will not get a girlfriend 2-People are bad 3-Beleiving that I can get 8 cgpa is futile 4-Changing beliefs won't have any significant effect on my life 5-This exercise is useless 6-That girls are evil 7-That I don't hold beliefs What are the alternative perspective on them to which I can experiment on ? 1- I will get a girlfriend but I don't know her type I don't know I will get a girlfriend or not I will get a girlfriend if I talk to girls long enough 2- People's mood changes for time to time People are complex People act according to the effect of circumstance on them 3-Getting an 8 cgpa is not under my control I can get upto 8cgpa in internals Less than 8 cgpa is not that bad 4-Beliefs influence actions which in turn produces results It can influence my mood Recognising the belief is different from reality is good 5-This exercise can level up my life This exercise can increase my understanding of life This exercise is one of the most worthwhile things I can do 6-Girls are loving people, caring people Girls are normal beings Girls are like me 7- I hold tons of beliefs Approximately 80-90% of my beliefs are wrong I function based on beliefs Any thoughts @Leo Gura and fellow forum folks ?

-Imagination -Isness -Being -Nowhere

Contemplation : -Increasing my understanding -Making me know life -Making me see a situation unbiased -Making me interesting -Aligning me with truth

@Thought Art I have a diary in which I write my insights.

-More emphasis on updated knowledge -No access to previous knowledge -Unholistic revelation of thing -Discarding of previous dimension -Unacknowledgement of other dimension of life -Overestimating one dimension -Underestimating other dimensions of life -Ungreatful of previous experiences -It is different from understanding the sutuation

Ya it's a great book I have read this book and heard the summary of Manson's second book. Also I am currently reading models.

I was contemplating that - How do I overcome heartbreaks ?and following answers came to my mind . - They are not as special as I think -It will be ok -They have chosen the wrong guy over me -It is not me it is their short mindeness -By moving on - By ignoring them -By recognising that I am attached to many people I hope the message was delivered.

Yeah @Roy that's true cause in the midst of heartbreak we assume that it is the last person whom I got attracted to which is an illusion.

-Understanding -Change in form -To go through evolution -To move forward -To pass from evolution -To experience different perspectives

So there was this girl whom I liked and I proposed her on telegram by saying - I love you. She first said - Are you crazy man.I said - I like you . She asked why? I said cuz you're beautiful. She then said shut up . And then said I will slap you in the face . I said- please reply . She said - that's the reply . Next day I got a threat call from her friend. After an year I told about her to my classmates even a senior. Then I had a conversation with her on WhatsApp where she abused me but I didn't abuse her cause it's my authenticity not to abuse. I told her friend who threatened me that I was hurt by him . He told me to stop crying (I don't know why he told me this cause I wasn't crying ). Then I came to know that that guy's girlfriend was laughing at me saying that how fearful am I how juvenile am I . When my college opened I saw her making a guy her best friend.And this memory is lingering in my mind even though time has passed. Maybe I need to move. After watching Leo's how to get laid series I daily talk to atleast 2-3 girls.So how do I deal with this situation?- Maybe I need to contemplate it . Anyways thank you @Leo Gura for your life transfoing content even though I am feeling bad right now .Also I have a question that must I be an optimist that good days and good girls are coming in the future ?

Hey @Leo Gura and guys I contemplated that how do I deal with this situation? .She was hurt by me .That situation is no longer true . I have attracted many girls after her .Stop thinking about it .People act according to their emotions .That is only in my head .There are other better girls

Thank you guys

Ya I watched it. Thank you . Basically we must operate on implicit understanding in life .

If we accumulate large amounts of fictions then it lowers our productivity as we would be stuck in dreaming instead of taking action.

As we go through life the fiction makes our life productive as to act we have to make sense of the world in short time but accumulating more fiction decreases productivity as it is easy to be stuck in thinking that our fantasy is real. And after death our fiction in mind ends as death is end of identity. Any thought guys ?

Answers : -By questioning -By focussing on positive and also taking into account the negative that I have to work upon -By recognising my mistakes -By moving forward no matter what -By recognising that I can live the best life possible -By commuting that I will live the best life possible from now onwards -By getting rejected Any thought guys ?