Rishabh R

I contemplated this question a lot for many days during the starting of my contemplation journey - What is the most wisest way to live life ?(Mentioned in Leo's video what is wisdom ) Some of the recent insights when I came back to same question from different questions are : -There is no one wisest way to live life -I am beautiful with life -I am imagining life -I am imagining difficulties -I am imagining everything -Reality is counterintuitive -Things that do us bad in short term do us good in long term -Inner world and outer world pierce each other -Everybody's full aspect of life is same -Way already implies that I am behind -Perceptions are self fulfilling Thank you @Leo Gura

Happy Birthday @Leo Gura

I think it is given in the comments.

. By thinking about the situation .By rethinking every course of action

@Willie I agree with you but there were seniors in the room who called me and told that there is no garantee that he will not beat me in the future so to take the garantee he said that I have to write an apology letter.

One of my senior who has a habit of demotivating me called me in a room. He held his entire hand around me and was about to clutch my neck with his arms then I gave him a punch on his back then we were engaged in a physical fight and his shirt was torned.I apologised by tearing his shirt but he didn't listen . After that he went to talk to seniors of our curriculum . The senior told me to write an apology letter to the senior whom I engaged in fight with since, I raised hand on my senior. So I wrote an apology letter. Then he came to my room and told that to make his stitch his shirt by a tailor otherwise he threatened me to tell to other senior who is Don of our college to beat me along with his friends. All of this happened to me in the hostel of my college.What to do ? As a little background - I am a 22 year old engineering student in college in India . I am interested in biological aspect of science ( my stream is biotechnology engineering). I have my life purpose connected to it . @Leo Gura

How to fall in love with life .

@Leo Gura same to you.

Most of my peers are not doing any personal development work.They are engaging in jumping from relationship to relationship. Even though I have attracted many girls and was close to sex but realised that I doesn't have that much value in it as it is projected. They are busy insulting , abusing people. They laugh at philosophy and think that spirituality is not a risky thing even though they don't do it . Even they are not doing science properly. When I move out of my college environment for some work I see a different environment - people busy in their day to day work and I am not surrounded by kissing couples as in my campus. At the same time I had an insight - College is a stimulated environment. And there is another realisation of mine from years of heartbreaks ,rejections,attracting few girls that heartbreak is a saver of you from a low quality person in life . One of my seniors told me that you will never get a girlfriend but now I am greatful that I don't have a low quality person in my life . A friend of mine gave me advice that go study don't engage in relationship and I found out that he himself was engaged in a relationship and later I found that he had a break today recently I found out that a girl whom he was dating while giving me advice is getting intimate with someone else . Almost nobody is reading self help even practical advice from Bhagvad Gita which I have read a little and will read in the future cause I think that philosophical teachings have value. Am I right @Leo Gura ?

Thank you

They keep attacking me , telling me not to watch it. They say that see what other people see on the internet. This happened when I was watching the video -Avoidance of truth . How can I continue my self actualisation journey despite so much resistance from society ?

@Rigel thank you.

@LordFall Sorry but I have a life purpose.

-Cause I am assuming that I know the truth -Cause I am not seeing other's suffering -Because I don't understand that other suffer -Cause I think that I am the only one who suffers -Because I don't understand the irrationality of my emotions -Cause I think that everyone has reached the end point of success and I am in the starting point -Cause I don't know that success has no end point and failure is temporary -Cause I don't know that success is also temporary Any thought @Leo Gura and people ?

Guys could you point out the truth that I am avoiding cause I am suffering due to images of past such as threat , rejections, heartbreak coming to my mind .

Thank you for the reply guys by the way @Ayham I am not a teenager ?. I am 22. @Michal__ by seniors I mean college seniors. Recently as I was walking in my hostel I had an insight - All my struggles will seem insignificant in the future .

So I was suffering due to lack of girlfriend in my life . A senior told me that you will never get a girlfriend to which I replied that so I must commit suicide. Senior told that go and commit suicide as there is no meaning for existence of a boy like you and you are a disturbing element to girls. Also when I shared this with my friends that I am suffering they scolded me and told that others have their dating life and career handled and you are not like that . And also as I mentioned that I was kicked out of campus that senior told me that that girl abuses me and literally hates me . They also adviced me to not to watch the video of bald headed person - Actualized.org . They also told me that that is western culture and it is India those things won't work here . I am feeling very bad .

@flowboy I am already on antidepressants and been councilled before by psychologist .

-Mindless action -Not willing to change -Being stubborn about past strategies -Foxussing on what is not working -Not focussing on what is working -Not knowing the correct approach -Not changing the approach

@UnbornTao that shows us the counterintuitive nature of life .?

@UnbornTao I also contemplated what creates Success and made a topic on this forum but no one replied to it. ?

Most of the time our fears don't pan out . It is worthwhile questioning them .

You can question your thoughts and recognise that your thoughts are not you , your deep contemplative thoughts are you .

Past trauma is surfacing on my mind of how girls rejected me , how bad they treated me. I think that I will be never loved by a girl who is not my family number. A little background here - I am a 22 year old college student studying engineering. I am single . Never been in a relationship with a girl.

@Danioover9000 bullied by girls and boys in school . This month I have done 50+ approaches. Yesterday I cold approached a girl in the campus of different department and was kicked out from there by her boyfriend.