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Same here @Leo Gura

@MarkKol that's a great experience.

People and @Leo Gura could you all tell me ?

@Benton ok.

@Benton yeah.

Sorry , tried remembering it but can't successfully recall which video was it maybe it is Implicit vs Explicit understanding - Not sure .

Hi, a 22 year old engineering student here . I have been mistreated by girls a lot since, my school days . Even emotionally bullied .Any idea people as I have been rejected a lot and they treat me like bullshit . However , I have worked on my dating life , got abused both by girls and boys , got threatened girls. How do I move on ? How do I get over the trauma of being rejected by girls in the past ?By the way I am thinking that after bad good comes in life and I am responsible for getting jealous of those girls who are dating guys. Yesterday , I consulted my psychiatrist and he said that I am being succeding in my life beyond his imagination . And also a final note - Am I making an assumption that good things won't come in my life ? Is cognitive behavioral therapy suitable for this situation ?

@meta_male yeah thank you.

You could either focus on quality of relationships rather than quantity of relationships like most people do . However, as @integral said each relationship is a learning experience there is a lot to learn from even from simple day to day relationship like ( non romantic) most of the relationships in life end however there would be some relationships that would last throughout your life .

@integral Yeah I never had a gf but I attracted many girls . I said -I love you to 3 girls in my life and all those 3 girls are with somebody else . I approached many girls that is more than 50 girls in my college campus and in one case I was kicked out of campus abusingly by a girl whom was I was talking to . Once I remember that I was near to sex with a married maid of mine however , I said sorry to her cause I knew that she was married and she said ok. By the way I don't want to have sex with a married or already committed person . Majority of girls in my college batch call me brother as they are committed. I also feel jealous of girls die to the fact that they are dating and I have nobody ( sorry to all the females present here).However, this is a good solution .

Maybe by cognitive behavioural therapy , letting go etc.

@Princess Arabia sorry but I was not talking about that. I think that Leo's video -Assumption is the mother of all --- ups will be helpful .

@Princess Arabia thank you . So, it is good for me to question assumptions about myself.

@Chives99 thank you .

@Something Funny thank you . This is a good way of thinking .

@Leo Gura So I must be optimistic that a girl will accept me one day ?

@Leo Gura thank you.

@Chives99 great. I am glad to see your progress.

@Leo Gura also I am waiting for the courses and hoping that I would take the mind course if it will be not costly. By the way I was just curious to know that will there be any actualized.org video tomorrow as I am eager to grow along with you on this self actualization journey that started in 2017 when I discovered your channel and started doing the work.

@Leo Gura I loved your clips channel the second most after the main channel.

@Moksha Great. Thank you .

What truth am I avoiding facing ? -That I don't know -That I need to question assumptions -That truth is not as bad as I think -That people are not as great as they seem -That people don't have good life as it seems -That truth will have a huge impact on my life -That truth has huge recontextualization capacity -Things which I don't consider have huge impact on my life -That I am not facing the truth Where am I avoiding facing the truth ? Dating life : those girls are not for me Life purpose: that need of myself to daily remind me of my life purpose Career: that my marks does not matter as much as I think Emotions: that my emotions matter more than I think Human interactions: they have a huge impact on the quality of my life

I contemplated this question a lot for many days during the starting of my contemplation journey - What is the most wisest way to live life ?(Mentioned in Leo's video what is wisdom ) Some of the recent insights when I came back to same question from different questions are : -There is no one wisest way to live life -I am beautiful with life -I am imagining life -I am imagining difficulties -I am imagining everything -Reality is counterintuitive -Things that do us bad in short term do us good in long term -Inner world and outer world pierce each other -Everybody's full aspect of life is same -Way already implies that I am behind -Perceptions are self fulfilling Thank you @Leo Gura

Happy Birthday @Leo Gura

I think it is given in the comments.