Rishabh R

@Leo Gura how can I become a more optimistic person ? Could you release a video this Sunday of how to become optimistic in general ?

Ya the same thing is frustrating and traumatising to me . It fills me with extreme anger. By the way I can consider the possibility that I am deluding myself with anger and also I am deluding myself by making an assumption that nobody will love me .

Ok.

@Leo Gura ok and so must I return to watching how to get laid series and heal trauma besides doing it, right ?

@Yimpa I didn't blame any women but I was just describing my situation. And also like if you are talking about responsibility then one must take healthy responsibility like I am responsible for my feelings, actions , thoughts and not others. And also you don't know what I am going through. @Princess Arabia that was a great advice .

So , @Leo Gura approaching is more powerful than eye contact but a few girls were constantly looking in me in eyes and we were making eye contact. When I approached a girl in college besides 55 girls she first talked to me nicely but from behind her boyfriend came and abused me , threatened me and told me to leave that campus so what can I do to prevent this from happening again ?

@Leo Eckl sorry by mistake I tagged you. @Leo Gura But I am already seeing a therapist and she told me to do focussed breathing . As per trauma she told me to write a letter to those girls in which you express your emotions to her and at the end forgive them . And then either burn or throw the letter in the dustbin . By the way how can I be optimistic that I will get get a girlfriend cause I try to make eye contact with girls every time I go out and few girls look me in eyes. Also I talk to girls?

@ItsNick thank you both but I don't have psychedelics available to me. @DefinitelyNotARobot

Is there any drug or psychedelic legal in India . By the way I am already on antidepressants.

@OBEler sorry but psychedelics are banned in my country (India).

@StarStruck ok.

No @Princess Arabia I have suffered from girls rejection in the past and also their ugly character. Also other girls behave badly with me. ?

@StarStruck ok but how were other therapies to you ?

I want that person to be not only beautiful in look but more important than that in character.

No I don't think so because if a human tells a thing then it is based on their interpretation about things . And all human interpretations are partial and relativistic.

And like the people who are dating in college , smoking cigerette, being abusive are wasting their precious time as I am the one of few people's in college who is single and is not smoking , also I had a junk food and jerking off addiction which I am working on and haven't done these addictions since 11 days(I am not boasting ). And my friends troll me , laugh at me for watching Actualized.org and they tell that I am doing a fraud by refusing to eat junk food and they are calling you a psychedelic addict . Could you explain me in relation to the episode that what kind of avoidance of truth mechanism is within them? And also me which is causing me to feel bad ? Will facing truth make me happy ? By the way how can I be hopeful that I can get a girlfriend ? And also I don't smoke cigerette , generally don't abuse others.

So I am doing right by seeing a therapist ?

Is it true guys cause I wonder ? My therapist also said me to do so.

So , I was playing caroom board game with my younger brother. I used to lose a lot in this game against my brother. This time instead of focussing on winning the game I I focussed on knowledge of the game - like how to use the striker efficiently to get the points. I mean it was an actual physical game. And I won 2 subsequent games. As counterintuitive it sounds , is it true? So I am wondering that is the same things applicable in academia and exams?

By the way later I lost to my brother by 3 -10. So I am really confused.

@Danioover9000 haha .Even though I am a virgin I can feel it . Ok thank you

Do let me know your thoughts about it and also others.

Sorry @Leo Gura to disturb you here but could you tell me that how are the results like are they incredible or bad or neutral? And also like is it key that being optimistic/realistically optimistic in negative situations can improve it and make you thrive ? As there are tons of research on this therapy out there.

So @Leo Gura how have been the results . Like are you able to overcome adversities ? And do negative situations have the potential to fuel positive outcomes ?

@Swarnim yeah absolutely.