Rishabh R

@Leo Gura Honestly speaking I am thinking of restarting my contemplation. So sitting in a room with a diary and writing at top the following questions : 1.What is success ? 2. How do I become successful ? 3. How do I stop chasing success desparately ? 4. How do I improve in the things that I do ? And thinking through each of these on my own or using direct experience for each of these ? Another good episodes of your are: How to contemplate using a journal. The power of asking questions.

@Leo Gura And the remaining 5%? 😂

@Leo Gura Your episode -- What is actuality ? pulled me out of intense suffering in 2018 December. Thanks.

@Leo Gura Yeah action is important in every domain of life. Otherwise thoughts remain just mental gymnastics. Even in career massive action is important.

NoSelfSelf abused me few months ago. Here is the screenshot of whole conversation. I once started talking to him about game so that he could help me. However, regarding his approach to game it felt like narcissism. Thanks.

I used to beleive that no girl will be my girlfriend and I am a failure in this domain of life but after I took this perspective -- I am already successful. I went out to eat something in my college campus , a girl looked at me. I didn't pay attention to girls with boyfriends but a girl sitting with her friend who was another girl. Could you all give your opinion on this. I also had a conversation regarding this perspective with Claude.Ai.

@Hojo Thanks. It's great advice.

@Leo Gura No difference. Thanks.

@Leo Gura Ok. Did you mean it for being present or for meditation ? As per meditation I am already meditating since, 5 years.

@Leo Gura Right now I listened to one of his YouTube videos and he said that to be present we must be aware of surroundings rather than interpreting them.

@Leo Gura What about reading books like Meditations by Marcus Aurelius and What the Buddha taught by Walpola Rahula ? Is reading them a waste of time ? But they have helped me. By the way I am struggling to remain in the present moment which is sabotaging my tranquility. Could you give advice to me of how to stay present even though thinking is important ?

Guys, maybe I'm wrong. He tried to help me. If anyone is feeling bad due to my post then I'm sorry.

@Chadders Thanks.

@Chadders You are right. By the way I was not trying to learn game but rather fixing an issue with him such as negative emotions. Till then I didn't know to how to deal with it. Later I came to know , I mean during last year or more precisely August 2024 to overcome suffering I have to accept it. It was based on Acceptance and Commitment therapy. Before that I used to suffer a lot , still I suffer but the suffering is relatively reduced since, I began accepting my negative emotions. I don't have problem with most of his interaction with me on discord only the last line and that's it. Initially when I noticed it I became anxious but later those feelings faded away. As per Leo's series I fed notes of his videos from the YouTube comment section into AI and it said that it is more about casual encounters. However, later I bought the book Models by Mark Manson and read it more than twice. And that book helped me. Even though I still get ignored , rejected but that's ok.

@Asia P Sorry to say but suffering will always be there in life. The only thing you can do is reduce it because eliminating it is impossible and backfires.

@NewKidOnTheBlock Nope. But he told that he teaches something.

@Schizophonia Isn't setting boundaries a constructive thing ? Is hiding abuse a form of inauthenticity ? I didn't have the intention to create drama but being honest.

I don't know why people think that I am crying when I tell that they are hurting me. I am not taking advantage of someone who is not around here but just delivering the message here regarding his behaviour. As per my weakness I have completely owned my weakness by getting bullied , abused in the past by both men and women or more precisely boys and girls. Thanks.

One the one hand, I feel like I should finish my studies absolutely clean, pass all my subjects in the proper way and just prove to myself that I can do whatever I want.--- This is a better way. The solution of your problem lies in your hand and you have already answered your question in this post.Time has proved to me again and again that negative situations lead to positive outcomes. Since, life is counterintuitive.

@manuel bon You are doing good by accepting the emotion of anger. Let it flow through you by feeling through it and later act in a way that would be better for you and others. Hope your dad is well.

@manuel bon Accepting anger is the best way I have found to deal with it. I knew w it's tough but you can do it.

@Sugarcoat Yeah . @Schizophonia Detachment is also great . Also if one is in the present moment that person is detached from outcome and flowing like smooth stream of water. The ability to create gaps between the stream of thoughts either by questioning your thoughts or being present is a great skill.

@Letho Thanks.

@Letho Question -- How to think ? By thinking through When I was contemplating this question , I came up with a more interesting question-- How do I act in the best way possible ? Thanks.

My mind has a habit of suffering due to romantic rejections, bullying , hurtful interactions that happened in the past. However, when I meditate my suffering lessens. Could anyone explain why this happens ? Thanks.