Rishabh R

Here is the link to my story. https://medium.com/@rishabhritvik5/when-improving-yourself-starts-backfiring-and-how-to-make-the-counterintuitive-move-e4294190a4dc

@Hojo Ok fine dude.

@Hojo Thanks for clarifying . By the way I have written a glimpse of my book on The medium.

By the way I have a little difficulty understanding that why this mail was sent to me .I am also ready for giving away one free chapter of my ebook . If anyone interested kindly PM.

@Leo Gura Ok , so here is the information. I questioned myself earlier -What are all the ways I am wrong ? I wrote all these in my diary. - That everyone is happy except me -Those who are in a relationship are in a state of bliss - That I cannot overcome adversity in the future -That being present has no practical application -That more effort produces better outcomes -That I am not fooling myself -That I am completely honest -That no improvement is possible in the present condition So these are the things that I came up with when I contemplated the above question . And finally I want to ask you about the power of Intention in improving anything in life ?

Hey , @Leo Gura I watched and contemplated your episode - The psychology of being wrong multiple times and here are the answers to how will my behaviour change going forward ? Even though I am asking you that itself implies that I am wrong. But could you provide feedback on my answers ? Question - How will my behaviour change going forward ? Answers -I will focus on myself -When I will see somebody I will think that I don't know that person and assume that that person is equally happy in life as me. - I will be present and regard anything except that as an illusion -Whenever I will see a couple I will re-direct my focus and attention to myself and assume that their life is either normal or worse than me -I will adopt the mindset in social situations that I am not less than anyone. Please provide feedback. And others are welcome too.

Hey , @Leo Gura could you make the forum premium or could would you prefer to keep it open as anybody , preferably a troll can come and cause disruption in self actualization , which is mostly our aim here . And finally a question : What are the benefits of journaling ( writing about your day and whatever comes to your mind ) with a pen and diary ?

@Leo Gura Can the things you teach be applied to succeed in a science career or succeed in becoming a scientist ?

@Leo Gura What do you think on radical acceptance of failure and then action. Sorry to bug you but Love you @Leo Gura I want you to be happy even though I don't know you personally and my self help journey began with you in 2017 January.

I had a breakup from a formative relationship and it's been 5 years since that. It caused me social anxiety and since , 2019 I am on antidepressants, antipsychotics till the present and when I entered my college I didn't got a single girlfriend rather I was constantly getting heartbroken seeing the girls whom I liked entering into relationships with other men. I am also jealous of other peoples relationships. What I have learnt that it all depends on you , the reframing of the negative situations is very important.

Like right now , I am suffering for the fact that everyone around me in my college has a girlfriend but I don't and I am trying to accept that. 😂

@ChrisZoZo Yeah acceptance during suffering is especially important.

Acceptance is the thing that we all struggle with. I discovered a method of meditating which is very powerful for building one's self acceptance capacity. Sitting in a meditative posture and accepting everything in your experience. I recently did this and I was smiling during my meditation for most of the time. The length can vary from 5-20 minutes but not more than that as it can make you tired of smiling. 😂

@Cireeric Sorry , I didn't understand that it was a feedback. Thanks for the clarification.

@Princess Arabia ok thanks. All the best to you too.