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Good trick, though I've stopped using Bumble now. Shame this doesn't work for Tinder web version How do you find it compared to Tinder out of curiosity?

Yes. Anything they teach you at home you can find online for free. They thrive on their marketing as the best pickup company. If it was an in person course I could almost imagine that price being reasonable because you get practical and tailored advice

For some people this works, but if you're naturally quite skinny then you petty much need to force yourself to eat a whole bunch more than you would normally no matter how much you work out

If a program can afford to give a 50% off deal that's a good indicator that it's not worth the money

Yea I'd say 27.5% is definitely a tiny majority

Buying a hooker is a terrible solution, especially to lose your virginity. There is a middle ground between buying a hooker and true love, surely you must see that??? You want someone who finds you attractive and wants to fuck you instead of someone who is forced by contract The actual solution is learn to socialise, especially with girls. Maybe a hooker is a good solution for some but it is not sustainable and I suspect many who opt to lose their virginity to one regret it

You can blow this out of the water by asking yourself if you would still have this mindset if you had an abundance of attractive women wanting to have sex with you. If that were the case, you would not have this position. You only hold this position because you believe or feel women are scarce and so you need coping mechanisms to deal with this fact It's a classic defence mechanism for guys who get rejected or don't get as much sex as they'd like, you see it over and over. I was full into this mindset when I was a nerdy school kid and I knew several others who did too. And now I know it's incredibly toxic. "Women aren't that great anyway", "I'm just not that sexual, I prioritise the important things in life", "All this socialising and partying is beneath me", "Sex isn't a big deal for me", "She wasn't that attractive anyway" – These are all lies you tell yourself to cope with the lack of sex and they are toxic to your existence and this kind of thinking is the basis for your position here. It assumes women are scarce This^ I can't think of a much worse thing for a man than being a lonely virgin until death This is nothing to do with uncontrolled cravings, this is to do with bad partner choice. Plenty of male celebrities do not have this problem and enjoy the life of abundant sex and partying that they lead, then transcend it at some point. Take Russel Brand for example. Follow the positive examples and not the negative ones It's much easier to control your desires if you've lived them out healthily already. Beating them though raw self-control is not very effective and leads to coping, defence mechanisms, repression and inceldom. In fact, the only way to truly exercise self-control in this matter is to have access to tons of sex and reject it. That is true self-control. If you can't even get laid, what are you exercising self-control over in the first place??

Because bigger and stronger is better for survival because you can kill smaller things more easily Women evolved an attraction to strong and dominant men and being tall makes you visually appear far more dominant

I can tolerate a Friday Saturday night at a club right now, sometimes I only manage a Saturday. As long as you have a day of recovery afterwards (usually Sunday) to reset your sleep pattern and rest then it's not that hard to manage and in my opinion the benefits outweigh the cost In your early twenties you can handle an occasional all-nighter here and there, I've worked after an all-nighter of drinking and it's not pleasant but it's not the end of the world I also don't really get hungover which is fucking amazing lol. I know it won't last but hey, use that to my advantage while I can May as well do this kinda shit that's super taxing on the body when you're young rather than waiting until later in life when your body can't handle it nearly as well If you can learn to go to a club sober and you have a schedule that allows you to reset your sleep schedule afterwards then there really isn't that much potential for damage to health. Your biggest risk is probably getting fucked up by a raging drunk maniac

I would say as a rule anyone who presents to you an all-encompasing, 100% success rate, too good to be true kinda system like this is just outright full of shit. It has that "one simple trick" kinda vibe There is no simple trick and no shortcut. Anything that refers to a 'system' or a complete 'theory' you should follow is probably total horseshit. At least any time I've seen that kind of 'system' or 'theory' mindset from pickup people it's just sounded really dumb Even if he could get this to work, chances are you can't because you don't have whatever he had that made it work, and so you should focus on just doing your own thing, pushing your own boundaries, finding out what you can do and what you can get away with Then throw in some basic technical/theoretical advice on top from various different sources as well, places like this that discuss and compile a lot of attraction theory in a (mostly) pretty ethical way are good. But the focus should always be on the practical side and learning by experience instead of looking for handbooks and systems

You're never gonna control it. It's about as hardwired into your biology as it's possible for something to be This is too simplistic. Most women are attracted to a subset of alpha traits to different degrees e.g. confidence, humour, leadership, masculine appearance and so on. Sure, if a girl is extremely superficial about these traits then that's probably not gonna go so well but pretty much every girl is attracted to at least some of these things, so you need to develop them instead of becoming celibate from women until you meet 'the one'. As a hypothetical, imagine a guy who has no excitement in his life, no leadership, is super serious, is anxious and barely leaves the house, never chases girls, how exactly is he going to meet a high value girl and when he does what value is he offering her at all? Why would she stick around when she will have so many other options? The solution is learning the social game, not avoiding it Better to build as many guys up with alpha traits as possible instead of trying to knock 99% of guys down into celibate, inexperienced dudes waiting for the one

This dude on reddit is not a healthy role model, stop listening to him or consuming any content written by him

I'd say the problem is you're not gonna learn what you really like in a long term relationship unless you have tons of experience with girls and it's hard to get that if you only have one to three serious long term relationships over the course of your life like would be traditional. You want a mix of flings, casual relationships and serious committed relationships over the course of your life so you can actually work out what you want from a relationship when you do decide to settle down a bit Another problem is that most attractive girls are gonna want guys who have some sexual experience, because they'll almost certainly have been with guys who know what they're doing before you. And if you're some virgin dude or someone who's only had sex a handful of times you're not gonna be a particularly appealing option

They do say girls like bad boys

Yea this is what gives away how toxic the dude is. If he said something like 'tease her a little bit' then that's just funny and playful and everyone enjoys it, when you start talking about punishing girls for not adhering to your frame then you've gone off the pickup deep end

Is it? It can also be a really really quick way to kill the vibe and evaporate attraction from both parties. You don't want to be having the 'what are we' conversation on your first date, at least I fucking don't. I'd take that as a red flag if a girl was asking that on a first date and I certainly wouldn't ask it, I want it to be chill It should be kinda obvious from the setup/sub-communication going on anyway

This is the kinda pickup shit you should avoid This is the toxic part of it The way he talks/writes and the fact he has pending sexual assault charges tells you everything you need to know

Funny you mention it, on Saturday I approached a 29 year old on the lonely walk back from the club (I'm 22 and I've never been with anyone more than 6mths older than me) and pulled her in an empty office building at 4am 20 minutes later I'd had a really really shit night for various reasons and I felt terrible, which gave me this 'fuck it' attitude that creates a really bizarre kind of confidence that can be very magnetic. I actually thought she was closer to 25 but she was clearly at least several years older than me But bragging over, lol. This was genuinely a really good experience for dropping any expectations/beliefs about how women behave. I would have never thought that a late 20s women would fuck a 22 year old for the exact same reasons you gave but all sorts of weird and unexpected things will happen if you just try new things and drop your expectations You are right that as a general rule girls will go for guys more mature than them but there are totally exceptions and you should really just go for it and see what you can do rather than get stuck in your head worrying too much about this stuff

In my opinion, using escorts only becomes acceptable if you have so much money the payment doesn't even make a dent in you, the investment is so low on your part that it doesn't matter. And if you're that wealthy you're probably capable of meeting girls through other means anyway If you're just a regular dude with average or even above average income, consistently splurging on prostitutes/escorts will destroy your self esteem in myriad of ways

He's a DJ from Scotland (where I live), which is the only reason I recognise the name Never listened to or seen him anywhere though

The girls don't pay these prices, lol

Holy fuck The table price doesn't surprise me, not even the cover charge that much. But $25+ for a drink??? Now I see why you learnt sober game

Clubs in the UK usually have entry fees, but the places I've been to are usually £5-10 ($8-15) which seems pretty reasonable In the UK clubs technically aren't allowed to let girls in for free if they are charging guys which I've heard is common practice elsewhere in the world Probably not actually a good thing from the guys perspective but hey at least it feels fair @Leo Gura Are those high end clubs in Vegas then? Out of curiosity what's the experience typically like in those places compared to lower end clubs?

I either go to clubs in the medium sized city I live (100k people) or the bigger city nearby (1mil people) and the bouncers at clubs in the bigger city did not give a fuck that I was on my own In the smaller town, I did have this problem once, went round the corner, found some girls going to the same place and went in with them. However there's another club in the smaller town that also doesn't give a shit that I go alone sometimes If you're reasonably good at chatting to new people, befriending other people in the line at the club is a good thing to do regardless of if you can get in alone or not. If it's long enough you might be waiting 5-10 mins (or more) so if you strike up a chat when you get to the front you're no longer there alone. Chances are they'll all be drunker than you and happy to chat anyway lol Honestly I'd be surprised if the bouncers care that much if you're on your own in most places if you show up reasonably early. I would just try it out before you worry too much about a problem you don't know if you have yet. I was pretty anxious about this exact thing when I started going to clubs but it's been a non-issue really

I don't know, but sure, why not? I didn't really want to do the whole 'this is spiritual and this isn't spiritual' thing but I was caught up in writing so it flowed out. Do whatever works for you. It wouldn't be my strategy for approaching the problem though Seems like there's a realllly fine line between overcoming cravings and repression, but then again there are monks who make it work. Just look at how much effort and commitment it takes from them though