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I didn't say anything about London in my post I said I live in the UK. I live in Scotland, near Glasgow. Many cities in the rest of the UK (excluding the obvious like London) have a similar setup where moving a few miles out of the town centre will half your rent. I managed just fine in a city with 1/15th the population of London. Any major city in the UK will be fine. Obviously being in a small town is a big problem but London is likely not the solution unless you are rich or you need to live there for work. Sounds like the middle of nowhere The stat I can find is that around 15% of people aged 25-34 still live at home in the US. That's a lot, but it's not crazy. That means that for 85%+ of people in that age range it was possible to move out of their parents house. Like I said, if you don't have a decent job that should be your focus. In an ideal world any job would net you enough income to move out, but that's not the world we live in unfortunately. If you are working a crappy service job, yea, it's probably gonna be pretty hard to move out. I'm sure there are places where rent is cheaper, even in big cities. And you can also get a roommate. There are ways to make it more manageable with some planning. However I admit I don't know what the exact situation is in the US and it's possible I'm missing something.

Another argument is that responding with overkill is good practice for when a virus comes along that is significantly more deadly. I mean, I was 21 when I got covid and I got it really bad. I was reasonably healthy too. It wasn't so bad that I was near death or even hospitalised, but certainly worse than almost any other cold or illness I've had. My dad who is also reasonably healthy and only in his 50s has permanently lost his smell from covid. It might not be life or death for most people, but it's certainly much worse than regular flu or colds. It also spread around the world exceptionally quickly. It deserved humanities' full attention.

IIRC you live in the UK, right? It’s pretty doable here if you have the skills to land any job that makes you over £25k a year and choose to live somewhere cheap. If you can’t currently get a job which earns that then that’s what you should be focusing all your effort on. When I moved out 2.5yrs ago all my bills each month (including food) came to around £1000/month. If you were on 20k a year that would net you around £500 disposable income each month, which is pretty decent if you are young and single in the UK. Could get tight if you have a car to be fair, and cost of living crisis sucks too. That’s why I said £25k is prob where you can start to save a decent chunk each month. £25k could net you around £700 disposable income per month which is def enough to start saving. Like I said, the key is to live somewhere mildly inconvenient where rent is something like £500 per month instead of the more popular central places where it would be double that or more.

No, it really isn't.

No, I'm not. Maybe I misunderstood your point. I interpreted your post as meaning that you believe most wonderful things in life can only be handed out to you, and not earned.

Why are you just expecting wonderful things to be handed out to you? That's not a good way to view life, especially as a guy.

Moving out of my parents house was probably the single biggest improvement to my dating life that I ever made. You can always live in cheaper parts of the city in the outskirts that have good public transport connection or are in driving distance from the city centre. That's what I did and it worked well. And 15-20% of your salary going to savings is pretty good.

I didn't say man bad woman good, I said that you are living in a delusion. I think that delusion comes from trauma, so I do sympathise with you. But maybe you should consider that your worldview is being heavily affected by a trauma that the majority of people have not experienced in their lives.

You're lost in the clouds, fighting a phantom.

If your defining characteristic as a guy is that you’re “nice” it says almost nothing unique about you, it’s just so god damn boring. Women typically want men who fit interesting, well-defined archetypes. Those men can be nice, but ‘nice’ just isn’t their defining characteristic. Thats not even getting started on the fact that if you have to tell people you’re nice, it means you are probably insecure about how nice you really are deep down.

I was in a club at the weekend that gave you unlimited free soft drinks if you showed your car keys at the bar lol

The people who run these events use psychological tactics and (basically) hypnosis to 'cure' people. Sometimes the effects are strong enough to actually work because hypnotic effects can cure certain things, but don't be fooled that you got healed by Jesus or god.

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I saw this today, it’s from a while ago but it gives you a good insight into how narcissistically he views charity and donations so I think it’s good context here. And also shows just what a delusional dick he is. If you want a TLDR; a guy posted a crowdfund thing on twitter for his sick son and Tate asked if he felt like a failure because he was begging for money for a surgery that cost less than a quarter of one of his cars. He then offered to pay for the surgery but only if the dad ‘asked him nicely’ https://www.thelondoneconomic.com/news/ask-nicely-and-ill-save-your-son-vile-andrew-tate-tweet-resurfaces-341311/

I got the sub-communication, the dude clearly feels happy that he's made some good progress and you were a bit of a dick about it by implying to him that it doesn't matter. I don't mean this to be insulting to you, but smashing other people's progress is a such a dick move that I felt I had to comment on it.

How is that relevant?

This was very inspiring to read, and somewhat similar to me right now. I'm quitting my cushy programming job to travel for 6+ months at the end of this year. I also notice that my favourite part of my job is getting to build and design UI because it's far more visual.

If you’re in a busy bar no one is going to notice or care if you don’t buy anything. One of the keys to going out solo is going to the absolute busiest place you can get into. But you could also just order sparkling water or soft drinks or something if you’re worried about it, they’ll probably assume you are driving.

It sounds simple, but the line has to be drawn somewhere. It’s really really bad if we have people confidently projecting their ideas on how cancer can be cured with salt mixtures and sugar pills. People die from this advice being handed out. It’s a tough job to decide where to draw the line but it does have to be drawn somewhere. If you want to find sources of alternative medicine you will always be able to do that, but it makes sense ethically (and from a PR perspective for a site like YT) not to heavily promote health advice that is not rigorously confirmed to work.

When I was younger my hair would get horribly greasy so I would shampoo it every day religiously to solve the problem, and then I realised that was actually what was causing the problem in the first place. Now I wash it once per week or twice if I’m doing physical activity and my scalp and hair are much healthier. I don’t know if this will apply to you, but I remember it being quite a big problem for me so thought I’d share. It took about 2 weeks of time with less regular washes for my hair to adjust and stop overproducing oil.

I think people react to caffeine differently. I can drink a cup of coffee before bed and it can even make me sleepier. You aren’t gonna get hooked if you drink coffee occasionally. One cup a day is pretty easy habit to get into and also to kick. Though another issue with caffeine is that it’s hard to gauge dosage unless you buy caffeine pills. A cup of coffee can be anywhere from 20mg to 500mg of caffeine. Even most of the big coffee chains vary wildly in the amount of caffeine in their coffee.

You tried to insult my appearance in a discussion before. Frankly it's so bizarre that your mind even goes in this direction when you portray yourself as a psychologically hardened masculine man. It's bullying, it's a sign of a deep seated insecurity, and it's exceptionally immature. My guess is you couldn't come up with any decent responses but you also feel that you can't back down, so you need to come up with something and the best your mind can do is to ignore everything relevant and respond with insults and jabs. If you wanna know what I look like so badly, my face is on the 'show your face' thread, you can go and find it there yourself since you seem to care so much.

@StarStruck 's response has a name, it's called the chad-hominem fallacy people have been making fun of it for ages

There's a reason the UFC and almost every martial art fighting championship in existence have strict weight classes. If you are bigger than someone else, you have an enormous advantage that takes a lot of skill to overcome. So while I agree with you that skill compensates for a lot, your viewpoint that skill always beats size lacks nuance I think. It is not so simple. In BJJ there was a common idea people held that one belt level worth of skill is equivalent to about 20lbs (10kg) of bulk. And weight difference is actually LESS noticeable in martial arts with lots of rules like boxing and BJJ because someone who weighs a lot more is not able to take full advantage of that weight and strength. In a real fight with no rules, bulk is a stupidly big advantage.

This is a safety thing. It is nothing to do with man hating. You avoid large groups of men on the street too because they pose a potential threat to your safety. Why do you think that it is OK for you to say hateful stuff like this about women, but you find it unacceptable for women to say hateful stuff about men? This is very wishful thinking. The issue is not nearly this simple and there are many things that contribute far more to male loneliness than women online with extreme views.