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@Etherial Cat When you're a dude and you do what girls tell you to do and it doesn't work... and then you do what guys tell you and it does work... what other conclusions can a guy come to? When it comes to 'men attracting women' you can only ever give theoretical advice to men about it because you've never actually experienced having to attract a women as a man. Not once in your entire life. Never. Zero times. Compare that to someone like Leo or some of the other experienced guys here who have done it thousands of times. Whose advice would you take? The equivalent is almost like men giving a woman makeup or dress style advice. We can tell you whether we like the end product but not really anything practical about how to achieve it, because it's not something we have any experience with at all. Yet somehow you girls think you're qualified to give guys attraction advice despite never having had to do any of it yourself Honestly, I'd say that's more arrogant

Welcome to the frustration of being rejected. Get used to it, it ain’t going away You gotta learn to not give a fuck. It’s easier said than done but it’s important to learn, for everything, not just getting laid

Have you ever been rejected for a job? It’s basically like that Of course you’ll find something else, but it might take a bit of work

I don't think it's overpopulation that's the problem... More exploitation of the planet and greed. The predicted peak population of the world right now is around 10 bil and coincidentally the estimated carrying capacity of Earth is also like 9-10 bil Obviously these are estimates But also, think about it: there isn't really anything about a larger population that's inherently problematic. We have an excess of food, water and space, it just so happens that these are not really distributed very fairly/evenly

I think this is the most annoying thing that girls do by a country mile. I've had this a couple times and it pisses me off so fucking much. Like I can keep my cool about most things, ghosting/flaking on the day or night before, sure. Even if they say they've changed their mind or they've now got other plans, frustrating but oh well, can handle it. But I seriously have to fight of pure rage when girls play the "oh I forgot" card In my past I would have been needy and tried to set up another date but now if a girl does this it's game over. I'm not dealing with that shit I'm not saying that's what you should do btw, this is my own very biased rage talking lol --- Rant over --- But yea, you should def be texting the day before the date to make sure she's coming. IMO you should be texting back and forth before the date a bit too, then you can kinda gauge whether you're on the same page. I disagree that texting a bit before the date is bad. Especially for us younger generations this is kind of expected It's possible she wanted more on that night. It's hard to tell though, maybe you have a better sense than me. Uni girls are often pretty ready to fuck on a first meeting. Her saying "it got weird" later on is possibly her referring to tension she was feeling about whether you were gonna fuck that night or not while you were walking her to the train That would be my interpretation, however it's hard to gauge with just a description Still, you did well by kissing her. As long as you're doing things that scare you on dates you're making progress and you should be happy, regardless of whether you get the girl

Emojis are a mixed bag. Sometimes they can make you seem super needy Direct, clear and logical texting is boring. That was my overall point. You want to text with ambiguity, mystery and playfulness. It's so easy for texting to become boring. Most of the girls I've met online and lost, I've lost because the texts become boring and way too logical and interview like

I recently started using a service called StitchFix, they send you 5 items of clothing each month and you choose which to keep/buy. Technically their service is free, but if you return everything they charge you £10. And obviously you pay for the clothes I've always really struggled to find clothes that fit because I'm tall and lanky. But I put my details into their site and they sent me some killer clothes that fit better than anything I've ever bought myself. I've kept 7/10 of the items they've sent me so far They weren't clothes that I'd see in a shop and buy myself, but the moment I put them on they fit perfectly and the style suited me way more than I expected They claim to have a real human stylist pick out clothes for you, I didn't believe them at first but I'm not really sure how else they could get such great results. Would seriously recommend

Better how?

Logical conversation is like an interview. You ask a question, I answer. I ask a question, you answer. Repeat That’a what a logical conversation looks like, and it is boring as hell. Dropping logic and letting your emotions speak is way better

I went to Egypt with my parents as a kid. We went to book camel/horse rides around the pyramids and they locked us in a back room and wouldn't let us leave until we paid for them. Don't ever follow merchants of any kind into back rooms or places where they can prevent your escape. Probably good tourism advice in general Other than that, we had an absolutely lovely time and all the people were great

Even if you’re rich, buying girls stuff early in a relationship would set up a very questionable dynamic

If it’s an even day of the month I watch porn, if it’s an odd day I don’t Honestly I don’t really see what’s so bad about porn, or why it should need to be cut out completely I think it is good to exercise some willpower over it and consume in moderation as with anything though

I actually ran into this issue recently too I started doing jiu-jitsu and I noticed that I got cuts and bled a significantly larger amount than most of the other dudes there, it's quite embarrassing to bleed all over the mats Same thing as you: I've never been very active before, never had many injuries, typically always been more of an at home dude. But I've noticed my skin callousing a lot in the places that tend to get cut/mat-burn when doing jiu-jitsu: elbows, palms, knees, knuckles, feet. Now I progressively get less and less cuts as my skin hardens in those places Basically, your skin is only as hard as it needs to be for your daily activities. It's your body being intelligent about where it puts its energy. You don't get hard skin unless it thinks you need hard skin. Same as muscles. I'm sure there are other tricks you can use to help as well, but I don't really know of any

Yea I'm sure if you were a total cu** you'd attract some girls that way, but if you wanna make the rest of your (and other's around you) lives miserable just for some sex then you have some serious problems to work through Better to just be a well rounded, masculine man without any neediness. Your theory is also wrong in the sense that by trying to not give a fuck, you're actually giving a bigger fuck. The authentic 'not giving a fuck' that girls are attracted to isn't really something you can just start doing, if that's what you had in mind

Of course, I never said otherwise I was more just pointing out hypocrisy. I agree with a lot of her actual points anyway from what I read of them

Well, it would be hard to do spiritual practice in the middle of Times Square in New York for example. Lots of distractions. Looking for somewhere that's quite, peaceful, beautiful, and has many generations of spiritual knowledge accumulated is not a terrible idea I don't think

@Loba Lol, this is itself a below the belt attack

Funny you say that, someone posted here at one point that talking about spiral dynamics with a girl actually got them laid. I can’t remember who or when but someone definitely said it You can get laid talking about anything tbh, it’s rarely about what you say but more how you say it. I’m sure you’ve heard that already though

it’s kind of a silly question, it’s a bit like asking if girls want to be approached by guys with beards the factor that determines whether a girl wants to talk to you is not really your age, there are more important things and it varies per girl unless there’s like a huge age gap, then maybe it will play into it a bit more but I’ve had some good experiences with older women than me so of course some older woman will be into it

Why do you have such an aversion to dudes who have learned the skill? You can learn to express masculinity from your heart I agree with pretty much every word you said bar that part Masculinity is pretty much entirely defined by the experiences it has gone through in life. It’s not really something that a man just ‘has’ naturally

How should men treat women? Many men follow the advice women give about how they want to be treated and then they end up friend zoned and alone It can be extremely confusing. I can’t understand what it’s like to be a woman but you also don’t understand what it’s like to be a man. And the impression I get is that you think the fault lies entirely with men There are horrible realities about men, you’re absolutely right about that. However don’t pretend women are perfect either

I moved out 8 months ago and it was the best decision I’ve made That said… I don’t live especially far from my family and can still see them every so often and I do appreciate that If you do move, make sure you find hobby groups, go out, whatever it takes to make friends or just socialise

Fair enough, of course it differs from person to person. I was over generalising for sure I love loud, crazy, high energy environments. But I struggle to actually be anything other than an observer in them because the moment I’m involved my anxiety dials up to 100

What do you mean what can you do lol? It's called getting rejected, you take it like a man and move on with your life India sounds like a terrible place for doing day gamey street pickup like this honestly

3% is definitely far too low. That would be 1 out of every 33 couples. It's also difficult to quantify anyway because a lot of cheating probably happens in grey areas For example, situations in which two people who are kind of in a relationship but don't really make it official or acknowledge it. Either party would be displeased if the other slept with someone else, but is it technically cheating? I'd imagine this is pretty common I'd say the best approach to cheating is to kind of not really think about it, assume it won't happen and then deal with it appropriately if it does. If you worry about cheating it will make you insecure as hell. But you also need to be clear to yourself on boundaries/consequences if your partner cheats