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Why do you have such an aversion to dudes who have learned the skill? You can learn to express masculinity from your heart I agree with pretty much every word you said bar that part Masculinity is pretty much entirely defined by the experiences it has gone through in life. It’s not really something that a man just ‘has’ naturally

How should men treat women? Many men follow the advice women give about how they want to be treated and then they end up friend zoned and alone It can be extremely confusing. I can’t understand what it’s like to be a woman but you also don’t understand what it’s like to be a man. And the impression I get is that you think the fault lies entirely with men There are horrible realities about men, you’re absolutely right about that. However don’t pretend women are perfect either

I moved out 8 months ago and it was the best decision I’ve made That said… I don’t live especially far from my family and can still see them every so often and I do appreciate that If you do move, make sure you find hobby groups, go out, whatever it takes to make friends or just socialise

Fair enough, of course it differs from person to person. I was over generalising for sure I love loud, crazy, high energy environments. But I struggle to actually be anything other than an observer in them because the moment I’m involved my anxiety dials up to 100

What do you mean what can you do lol? It's called getting rejected, you take it like a man and move on with your life India sounds like a terrible place for doing day gamey street pickup like this honestly

3% is definitely far too low. That would be 1 out of every 33 couples. It's also difficult to quantify anyway because a lot of cheating probably happens in grey areas For example, situations in which two people who are kind of in a relationship but don't really make it official or acknowledge it. Either party would be displeased if the other slept with someone else, but is it technically cheating? I'd imagine this is pretty common I'd say the best approach to cheating is to kind of not really think about it, assume it won't happen and then deal with it appropriately if it does. If you worry about cheating it will make you insecure as hell. But you also need to be clear to yourself on boundaries/consequences if your partner cheats

I'm pretty sure the main reason is that younger guys tend to be more scared of approaching. As you get older you give less fucks what people think of you I don't really see why it should bother you. Hell, if I had older women approaching me left right and center I sure as hell would not be insulted by that

Meh, clubs are actually not that bad. They're so busy that you become anonymous. Your social anxiety acclimates to that quite quickly Moderately busy or quiet venues are a million times worse in terms of anxiety Most social anxiety isn't about the amount of people around you but the amount of eyes on you The problem is that most people with social anxiety also (wrongly) assume everyone is looking at them all the time, so in their head the idea of a club is still very terrifying. It takes a few visits to a club to realise no one gives a fuck about what you're doing for the most part, and that's an incredibly good lesson to learn for socially anxious people

What about if you're a dude who can't get into a relationship or attract girls because of their shy personality or poor looks? Are they as low consciousness as you can get for doing something like pickup?

Nepal is top of my travel list Hoping to go there sometime this year Not even for particularly spiritual reasons, I mainly want to trek and explore the culture/history

yes, words like 'chad' come directly from incel culture and the frame of thinking you had there is extremely incelly

It works fantastically to get attention. Guys have gotta stand out somehow. Even just wearing a bright shirt gets you noticed. Any impression is better than no impression But yea obv you've got to be able to follow it up with some good talking

A good thing to do to build some dress sense is to notice which guys stand out to you when you go out at night. You'll notice that the vast majority of guys make no impression on you whatsoever. Look at the ones who do, and what they're wearing/doing. Those guys will be the ones that girls notice as well That can give you some good ideas

that might be because what you know of the world comes from consuming copious amounts of incel propaganda lol

The problem is that this mindset can encourage you to stick to your comfort zone a bit too much It's super tricky to distinguish between authentically disliking something and just being plain terrified of it If you have some kind of social anxiety your mind will produce every rational excuse in the book to make you avoid social situations and mask the anxiety. '[X] social event just really isn't authentically me' is a deadly one For example if you'd asked me whether I like clubs before I started going, or even the first 5 times I went to one, I'd tell you I hated them. Then I started to really enjoy them. Initially I was just terrified every time I went there and couldn't relax Of course it is possible that clubs just aren't for you, but if you are saying things like 'I HATE going to [X] social place' then that may be an indicator that it's out of fear rather than a genuine dislike of it

If content gives you a weird, unpleasant feeling in your gut and makes you feel generally shitty about yourself you shouldn't watch it People get addicted to this feeling for some bizarre reason so there's money to be made in producing content that makes people feel that way It's almost cathartic. I think in this case the enjoyment comes from being able to place all of the blame onto women instead of yourself

It might depend how old you are. It's easier to move out of a rented place and you can forget about certain things like maintenance of the property since they're handled for you. However renting from a shitty landlord is a terrible experience too, so you should be aware of that If you want to maintain some flexibility in your life I would say renting is better. That is my opinion and what I'm doing. I'm only 22 though so I would not take my opinion to seriously as it isn't something I have a lot of experience with

I'd say this is pretty common for girls you meet on Tinder and in places like clubs btw, you shouldn't feel too bad about it. A lot of the time girls there aren't gonna be looking for something long term and they're caught up in the moment on the night This is pretty much exactly how I feel. In fact your story matches up with mine almost uncannily, almost every word you wrote here describes my situation as well. Although I do find that I can enjoy socialising if I get in the right mood. I don't have a reliable way of doing that (besides maybe alcohol) but I have noticed that as I socialise more, this state has started to occur more often at least Again, this is also normal. It isn't that you're saying anything wrong, it's just the nature of the game online The overall impression I get from you here is that you want to control your social interactions such that they always go well no matter what. I do the same. I'm unlikely to say something in a social situation unless I am 90%+ sure of the reaction it will get from others. And if I say something even slightly stupid or weird like to the baristas at my local coffee shop who I often talk to daily, it can actually ruin my whole day. Compare this to naturally sociable people who just blurt out whatever's in their mind without too much thought. If something doesn't land, they don't care because they're already onto the next thing and they don't ponder what they've said in the past much. The solution is pretty much to give less fucks in social situations and not be too dependant on certain outcomes, not trying to force certain outcomes. Let things unfold. Obviously this is much much easier said than done.

No, of course not, I was just joking around. I share a wall with an AirBnB which can get pretty rough sometimes as I'm sure you can imagine Yea I think if you don't like where you live already, it will compound any small things your neighbour does into big issues. The neighbour thing is maybe a symptom of a bigger issue It sounds like you should seriously consider moving

This is the true alpha move, show him who's boss I notice there aren't a lot of concrete problems you've mentioned about him other than the noise. What does he actually do that's irritating to you, or is it just the extreme amount of noise that bothers you?

How bout you rewatch older videos while you wait lol Or have you already learnt everything there is to learn from them?

One is pretending to be a certain way, the other is just doing whatever you feel like without inhibition Think about all the weird dumb shit you do when you're alone. Like sprinting up the stairs as fast as you can on all 4 limbs or some shit. It's super dumb and there's no reason for it, you just do it because your brain tells you it'll be fun lol That doesn't mean that if you go out to a club and run up the stairs on all 4 limbs it will make you attractive. If you just go and set your goal to go to a club and do that you'll come across as extremely weird because you're going out with the intent of being dumb. But if a situation arose naturally while you were at a club then maybe it could legit be funny This translates to what you were saying where if you go out with the intent to 'act' dumb and silly it can come across as quite inauthentic However this is kind of a subtle distinction and it's not so useful, it's very theoretical and not that practical. You learn how to make this distinction and be more authentically playful with practice I have noticed you tend to ask a lot of specific questions when I think you may just be better served with practical experience

For many men I would say the benefits outweigh the negatives It's kind of like money. Yea, having billions of dollars isn't really high consciousness per se, nor will it fulfill you, but having no money at all will cause you many many problems In the same way if you lack social skills, can't get laid, can't attract girls, can't find a relationship etc. you will find it very hard to move towards any other higher consciousness pursuits

I don't think I struggle with the theory of attraction. I know what behaviour is attractive, I'm just incredibly under socialised so I am bad at putting it into practice myself Since partaking in forum discussion here in the dating section (I haven't actually watched the dating series) I've started going to clubs a bunch and I feel like it has developed me a lot. I've had a reasonable amount of success with girls in clubs and also I'm now just generally getting better at socialising Mostly any dating content I consume is just about motivating me to actually go and socialise rather than learning any particular theory

Omegle or face to face chat rooms are kinda interesting for this. I used to use them a bit. If you can fight the hordes of middle aged penis you can usually get a few good convos and it's totally risk free socialisation. It isn't even really close to real life but it's a start