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It evolved that way for a very good reason. You can bullshit with words but it's much harder to bullshit non-verbals and cues

Welcome to dating

That's good. If you can genuinely see positives in him and you are actually emotionally attracted to him and not staying with him because he checks boxes then I guess maybe you can make it work? But frankly this dude probably needs a girl with a lower sex drive and you need a dude who has a higher one If you're at the point where you're asking internet strangers if it's ok to cheat on your partner because he doesn't want to put in any effort to make you cum then something has gone very very wrong and it's both of your faults Then again I'm 22, wtf do I really know.

Why are you still with this dude out of curiosity? Like what traits does he have that you find attractive? Presumably there are some

Lol. If you don't break up with him I hope to god he breaks up with you

Maybe most girls have tried them out at some point, yea. But as you say many won't stay there that long which I would say suggests most don't really want to use them or get that much value out of them I don't think focusing on number of approaches is ideal. It will be different for everyone And it should be a balance between pickup type stuff and just being social. Go out, have fun, be social, but make sure you're pushing your comfort zone and talking to the girls you find attractive I mean if you want to talk numbers if you go out and talk to even 20 girls every weekend, which is not that hard, you're already at 1000 after a year Look at naturally sociable people, they'll end up just talking to that many new people on a night out without even trying. That's kinda what I'm aiming for

There are plenty of free resources as well. I agree with you that spending ridiculous amounts of money on this stuff is dumb, but you really don't need to I don't think anyone disagrees that there is a fuck ton of grifty PUA crap marketed at men out there but just because that exists doesn't mean it's impossible to improve your social skills and optimise how attractive you are

Fair enough for OkCupid, tinder is what I have used and in my country it's about 10x fewer women. I think the US is slightly more even, like 3-4 times fewer. Even 2x is a big enough disparity to cause problems though because it creates issues of supply and demand. Lots of men are fighting over few women, which causes the picky women to become even pickier, which causes extremely biased data Sort of, 25% of people meet online, 75% meet elsewhere. It's technically the most common but if you sum up all the other methods they still account for most relationships. In my country (the UK) it's something like 10% of people meet online. So using a dating app still makes you an outlier in most of the world Less so in the US, the US has a very high rate of online dating that isn't really representative of the rest of the world Most of the people using the app at a given time will be people who feel they get value from it though. Dating apps are a little bit weird because the people who 'succeed' tend to get relationships then leave. But the idea that your success on a dating app determines how long you stay holds true, and will create biased data

I swear if I see another graph from dating sites being used to make redpill/incel arguments... Dating apps are not statistically indicative of dating in the general population for a number of reasons. There are four main statistical issues with making conclusions about the general population from dating app data: 1. There are 10x more men than women, huge statistical problem 2. Wanting to use a dating app in the first place already makes you an outlier from the general population, especially if you're a woman. Most women don't want to use a dating app 3. Selection bias – the members of each gender who stay on a dating app and end up in these graphs are the ones who get value from dating apps which are again not people who represent the general population 4. The quality of a person's profile (which is used for dating app data) varies drastically between each user and someone who is attractive in real life can be rated unattractive because they have an awful profile (most guys have an awful profile) All of these factors mean that you are sampling low quality data from an incredibly biased and skewed population of males and females and then making conclusions about the real dating world from them

I know how you feel. I've felt like this a lot talking to girls through online dating etc. When you talk to girls online there are a million reasons why things break down. Often you just get left on read or the girl starts giving vague and dead responses. It could be for a million reasons, some of them your fault, some of them out of your control. You'll probably never know which Maybe you were too aggressive or maybe she met someone else online who she was more interested in. Maybe she was doing something IRL that left her distracted. Maybe she just feels like crap today. Could be anything The solution is likely just to move onto the next girl

Dude you missed the point. It's the same argument I was making which is that the content you are watching is not healthy to your well-being and you likely resonate with it for unhealthy reasons The mind is great at coming up with rational reasons for why we enjoy certain things when in reality the content just satisfies some impulsive and likely unhealthy itch we have inside somewhere I've had tons of these kinds of obsessions over the years and I still do. Everyone does this

There are two interpretations of this, one of them is not so favourable for your ego... However men use women for sex wayyyy more than the other way around

Lol wtf. Dude, teasing girls playfully is good fun but this is just plain insulting and being a total asshole

Redpill claims to have uncovered the true nature of women Any other healthy sources of dating advice for men, for example this forum, RSD, some healthier pickup type of guys, will give you a more holistic, truthful and less toxic view of women (and how to date/attract them) without all the crap that redpill also comes with

You can get the useful and true parts of redpill from a million other sources without the toxic crap There's no reason to subject yourself to it unless you get some kind of pleasure out of reading that stuff

Oh it will if you do it badly. Don't do 'pickup' or 'approach' on campus during the day. Don't run any weird direct approaches or any of that shit, just try and have some casual small talk with people you meet and see where it goes. Keep it super tame Lol in the UK it's the first years (our freshman equivalent) who party the hardest I suspect that you just don't have a social circle that gets you invited. The solution to that is to join as many different things as you can and go to bars and clubs until you have a social circle And in bars and clubs you can approach girls and flirt like hell without damaging your reputation too much. You get a lot more leeway to fuck up your flirting in these places because everyone flirts and fucks it up in these places lol

It's probably a pretty good indicator, yea

Says the dude who literally cannot agree that he's watching total trash content on YT despite being told by like 10 other people

If you wanna do pickup without getting a bad rep then just go out to bars and clubs at night Doing pickup at these places is barely even 'doing pickup' cos you're pretty much just doing what all the guys there are doing which is going and flirting with girls. You won't stand out When I think pickup I think approaching random girls on the street or around campus, if you wanna do that then be careful cos you could build up a fishy reputation pretty quick if you're not good at it

This is still ultimately the guys' fault's for being totally retarded lol Having said that I've never understood why a girl would lie about being on the pill

Is it just me or does it literally feel the same with no condom, thin condom, thick condom... I use extra safe cos I don't want a kid but when I've used thinner ones or gone raw (only with my ex) it felt pretty much the same no matter what

See how much thought, effort and time online dating is taking up for you? Look at that and focus on it and realise that time could be spent doing other things that would get you better results Then change that!!! Online dating is like going to a charity shop and begging for free handouts. It's so difficult to show value to girls on online dating unless you have an exceptional lifestyle or exceptional looks I'm almost sure now that you're using online dating as a crutch (like I did) because you're too scared to go out and meet girls the old fashioned, effective (but scary) way And I can tell online dating is making you bitter. Which it also did for me.

It's probably not a great idea. Go find other girls to hook up with, get yourself some variety

Yea I can't even really tell the difference between condom and no condom. I went raw with my first GF for the first 6 months then had a pregnancy scare (I was 18) and that is to this day the most depressed, hopeless and all around terrible I have ever felt in my life. Seeing a negative pregnancy test was like a gift from the gods greater than a million orgasms given to me by the 100 hottest women on the planet. I swear the relief was that good. Never again. Wear a fucking condom.

They don't need what he produces. What he produces will make them defensive and dig their heels firmly into the ground. He is not trying to help these women and portraying it that way is mental gymnastics. He's trying to make money is what he's trying to do