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It sounds like you’re in a pretty crappy city/town. In a half decent town/city almost every club will have at least some decent girls in it on a Saturday night I live in a town of 80-100k people and Saturday nights are great no matter where you go here. Other nights are super dead tho

Where have you only seen good looking guys hook up with girls? I see all sorts of guys and girls with different looks hooking up when I go out

I think learning to have a great time while you’re out is a great starting point. Learn to just chill while you’re in social environments, learn to approach girls as it feels right, you’ll make good progress

Oral with a condom? What the fuck? You put it on before you’re gonna have actual sex

Whether they approach spam or not, they’re still approaching at least a few girls which from the sounds of it is more than you’re doing Everyones path is different. It sounds like you just want girls to fall into your lap with zero effort because you see a few other guys get that. Well tough shit, very few guys get that. Life ain’t fair Sorry if this sounds aggressive but I do get the sense you want to get results with girls with very little effort which just isn’t how it works. You’re going to need to challenge yourself and do things that are difficult

“It might not work so I’m not even gonna try” ^ This is a sure fire way to get zero results

Your average extroverted dude (approx. 50% of the population) will easily meet 5 girls a week if they go out at weekends or go to parties Talking to lots of girls when you want a girl friend is an extreme measure? Most guys don't have girls falling at their lap, it takes work. Especially for an introvert Talking to a bunch of girls is exactly what most guys do when they want a GF... Just do it, don't try. This isn't something you can succeed at with an "well I'll maybe give it a shot" attitude

The fact you can't even come up with an estimate suggests that it is extremely low and inconsistent If you're not consistently talking to and hitting on even 5 new girls a week you have exactly zero things to be complaining about because the problem is obvious Of course you'll get friendzoned if you are only talking romantically to such a small number of girls

True masculinity would not feel threatened by feminism

Say whatever you want about him, but ultimately he has probably had a more beneficial impact on the world than a detrimental one Obviously it's hard to gauge that, and you're perfectly valid to criticise him about specific issues. I think the video you linked does a good job of that in regards to veganism. But I always feel sceptical of criticism of a successful public figure that tries to paint their entire being in a negative light, especially in very outright derogatory ways: This kind of take does not demonstrate much wisdom on your part either, in fact I'd say it's ironically a very egoic take

If you ever feel like you're better than everyone around you, it means you're not challenging yourself enough You should consistently be surrounded by people that you feel are better than you, and learn to feel humble in their presence rather than intimidated by them

Parts of what you say here are good. Developing yourself as a man is good. But all this toxic trash about a 'war between feminism and redpill'? That's the propaganda Stop calling it redpill and just start developing yourself as a man. You've been brainwashed by redpill. The most effective kind of brainwashing is the brainwashing that leads you to believe you're "free from the system" when actually you've just been indoctrinated into another system You can embody the good parts of redpill without identifying with it so strongly. But you identify with redpill like fucking crazy and it will ruin your life if you take it far enough

You have to be extremely off-putting visually. Like bottom 5% of looks for guys maybe. Then I could understand this statement. But I see guys of all shapes, sizes and appearance with average to hot girls all the time It's also body language. Your brain is designed to spot fearful and 'defeated' low status body language. Or 'weak' body language. Girl's brains are even moreso wired towards detecting it. That's probably why you can spot them but can't put your finger on why you think they're an incel

Out of curiosity, how many new girls do you meet on a weekly basis?

If I'm enjoying the vibe and in a good state I don't set goals, just go with the flow and approach as I feel it If I'm in a shitty mood then I set myself concrete goals and reward myself for talking to x amount of people over the course of the night

You made another post talking about being lonely. I am feeling that you might use this form a tad excessively as a substitute for not getting as much socialising in real life done as you’d like. I recognise it because I also use the forum far more frequently during periods of loneliness. It’s an easy trap to fall into I wouldn’t necessarily say it’s bad that you have a lot of posts, but it could indicate that you are using the forum as a substitute for human connection I also know that you probably want comforting rather than being told a solution, but I really really would recommend that you try to build up a solid social circle in the real world and disconnect from the forum for a bit I wish you all the best, whatever you choose to do

Make sure you do something sociable every night of the week. Fill up your week nights with activities. I do chess on Monday, jiu-jitsu on Tuesday Wednesday, usually a date on Thursday, out partying Friday Saturday and then Sunday is just whatever, sometimes it's a free night sometimes I have something on What you do could be different but that's what works for me Did you notice how in school the people with large friend groups were typically also the people who did lots of extra-curricular activities? What you need to do is tap into the same mindset those people had in school which is to fill up your free time with stuff and do lots of new things It won't be easy. Your mind will come up with all sorts of excuses to avoid going if you're socially anxious and introverted like me. But you have to push through

Your wording of it was quite elitist itself, that's all I was pointing out

Lol. Do you see the irony here? You're creating elitism between what you called 'organic people' and 'non-organic people' which is exactly the same thing as dividing people into high and low value categories

What is so good about this girl that makes you want to stay with her?

This sentence makes you sound like you haven't left your room in 5 years and your understanding of other humans is based purely on what you see on reddit and YouTube

Fair enough. Not sure you need redpill to know these things though No need to identify so harshly with redpill if you agree it’s mostly toxic. Do what people here say and take the parts that are valuable (mostly amounts to don’t be needy, live your own life outside of dating) and drop the toxic ideas about women that also come with redpill

A good rule is to try and match her investment in the text convo, and don’t ever let yourself break that rule

Look dude I don’t know what to tell you. You’ve been brainwashed. You’ve been dragged into an ideology that’s going to drive you insane and make you miserable for the rest of your life I know it feels like it’s the truth, but it’s only part of the truth. You will be far better off taking the good parts of redpill and dropping the rest Get into healthy pickup. Meet tons of new girls and you will get a much better model of how women think and act than redpill will offer you If you live in a blue society then work on getting the fuck out of there

I'd prioritise physique, dress style and hair style when it comes to looks I suppose it depends on how bad your acne is, obviously it's good to try and treat that anyway but if it's mild it's not gonna stop your attracting girls. Same goes for yellow teeth