something_else

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  1. That wasn't about daygame, that was about that post making no sense. Those two quotes are from the same paragraph but they contradict each other entirely
  2. I doubt that talking about your plans one time to some people has caused any lasting effects. If your overall desire is strong enough it won't matter and your motivation will come back My point was more about not making a habit of talking about your plans to others frequently. You shouldn't feel bad doing it every now and then
  3. It's not irreversible and you'll have to tell people about your plans sometimes anyway Just don't make a habit of 'showing them off' to other people and you'll be totally fine
  4. It brings forward the dopamine rush you get from achieving your goal by giving you some of the social recognition now Part of what appeals to you about your goals is being seen a certain way, a successful businessperson, a skilled craftsman and so on If you tell others about your plans a lot, they start to see you as whatever you're aiming for without you having to actually achieve it and that's very appealing to your ego What can happen is you essentially become all talk, because you can satisfy some of your desire for the goal by just telling people about it, which then leads to inaction
  5. I'd recommend jiu-jitsu. It's all grappling, no striking What that means is you can actually go almost full out against an opponent frequently and not permanently injure them. With a striking martial art like boxing if you go full out all of the time you're going to seriously injure someone or get seriously injured This fact makes it great for letting loose It's also quite intellectual. It's kinda like a game of chess with you and your opponents body, except checkmate is squeezing their neck til they see stars or threatening to break their arm til they tap Winning is immensely satisfying and would satisfy your urge for domination/power without becoming a human meat shield
  6. You certainly implied it. If you had framed the question as 'hey, no new video for a while, is everything alright?' then fair dos. But it was this part: You sound like someone's boss telling them to get back to work and that you expect better from them lol My point was quite aggressively framed, so sorry. But was just trying to say that you aren't owed anything as it's totally free content
  7. Are you honestly that addicted... Jesus christ, get a hobby or something It's not disrespectful to anyone, you're not owned anything. It's free content
  8. You can also walk down the street without worrying about getting raped and murdered Yes girls get a better deal on dating apps but that's a very narrow slice of life
  9. Out of curiosity (and feel free not to share if this is too personal!) were you bullied when you were younger? Or how was your social life in school is perhaps a more accurate question? I'm asking because a few of the attractive dudes I know who had confidence issues were bullied quite a bit and under socialised in school
  10. The grass is always greener on the other side It always looks like things are better for others than they are for you
  11. It doesn't really need explanation. If you could sign up to an app and have 5 hot girls a day wanting your attention you would do it
  12. I didn't say only low value girls use tinder. I said that as an average to even above average guy on tinder you are only going to be able to consistently match with low to medium value girls
  13. It doesn't even look like there's that much correlation. Stuff just looks kinda randomly arranged. The only strong pattern I see is that a lot of the super dark shit is authoritarian right
  14. Well at least show me someone who you think deserved a ban but wasn't banned, if it's a big issue there should be plenty of examples I know. But unfortunately you can't ban people for that
  15. I mean, there are more male internet users, more male users on the forum, and it's usually men who struggle with dating more than women. I would say those are the main reasons that the dating section is mainly male posts Can you show an example of someone not being banned after being sexist and misogynistic? I'm fairly active in this section and I can't really think of many, maybe 1 or 2. But I do know that examples of it are not going to be as apparent to me as they would be to you, so I know I could easily have missed them
  16. Got my first long term relationship (when I was a shy insecure 17 year old) on Tinder. Stayed with her for 2.5 years. Was an ok time but mentally she was quite unstable After that I started using Tinder again and in a year and a half I've slept with maybe 10-15 girls from tinder? Some were maybe slightly above average, some were... uhm... not. Many of the girls on tinder I found had self-esteem issues too, or just generally slightly quirky personalities but not necessarily in a good way, at least for my tastes. I've only ever met 2-3 girls from tinder that I would even consider a longer term relationship with, but I'd feel like I was settling --- The thing is, you gotta ask yourself why a girl in the 18-25ish age range who is: at least average looking; has friends; has a stable personality, would use tinder. The answer is that in every country in the world except the US (lol) they don't. It's like <10% of girls in that age range that use dating apps in most countries I can think of three main reasons why a girl would use tinder: 1. short term loneliness & boredom 2. access to extremely high value and good looking men 3. struggles to attract men she's attracted to in real life I'm sure there are more but these are the three main ones I can think of. Now when you swipe through Tinder and see the really hot girls who are clearly pretty basic and just living your average hot girl life, they're absolutely in #2 and good fucking luck matching with them, you won't even show up in their stack for them to swipe on you #1 is the girls who download tinder whenever they want to fuck, swipe for 10mins, pick the hottest dude they can match with nearby which is almost certainly not you or I, then delete the app #3 can either be because she doesn't look great or because personality. She could be unattractive, she could be nuts or best case she could just be introverted/shy and not go out much So basically, if you're like average to above average you're going to be fighting over the girls in #3 which is not a great pool of choice. Maybe occasionally you get lucky and find a girl in #1, but she's probably not that hot If this makes online dating sound like a shit show: good. It was meant to. If you can get matches it's useful as something you have running in the background but don't ever make it your sole method of meeting girls because it will destroy your self esteem and waste tons of your time
  17. This sounds almost murderous. Pickup is good but when you start sounding a bit like a serial killer take a step back Discussing strategies to 'isolate a girl from her friends' is approaching that territory... You actually sound like a psychopath here. Of course girls are going to be 'attached to security' when they're physically at risk of so much danger, especially in a club It would be weirder if they weren't concerned with their safety If a girl trusts you then she'll follow you. You don't need magical words to counteract the 'i want to go back to my friends' because by that time you've already failed Her being super concerned about going back to her friends is basically her telling you that you haven't built enough trust yet for whatever you're asking her to do, or she just isn't attracted. Either way it's a rejection
  18. It's probably one of the fields with the most abundantly available jobs that there is right now I work as a web developer now btw, sort of full stack so I do frontend and backend. It's not something I want to do forever but it's a fantastic starting point. Good money, usually pretty chill companies, often remote or hybrid working You also learn a lot of the basics of online marketing and design which is great if you want to start your own business in the future In regards to online courses, I've never taken one. But I did do CS at uni and it taught me nothing about web development Having a good portfolio of personal projects was what made me stand out when applying for my first web dev job. If online courses expose you to the job market and let you build up a decent portfolio of projects, then they're probably worth it
  19. I get the sense you think this is a bad thing Often a POV based on intuition and feeling can be correct even if you can't necessarily find the logic to spell it out
  20. How is this different? Owning your frame, displaying confidence are indicators that you're in fact not a loser or a virgin. If you delivered that line confidently I guarantee you 95%+ of girls would assume you were joking
  21. You're being too literal By confidently proclaiming that you're a shy virgin you actually give the impression that you're the exact opposite It's not about the literal words you say, it's how they're said