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If this is purely about other students asking annoying questions in lectures (and I'm not sure that it is... ) then you just learn to deal with it There are always annoying fuckheads in lectures and they come in so many different forms that you just end up having to laugh at them. Usually if they are actually consistently annoying, someone in the class will call them out or the lecturer will tell them to fuck off, politely of course In my first ever maths lecture at uni a girl put her hand up and claimed that the lecturer was technically incorrect because he hadn't put arrows on the axis of his graph

Yea, a fair few are addicted to porn, I'll give you that. The positive is freeing up your mind to think about other things clearly

Alarmy. It works really well on Android but I imagine on iOS it might not work as well

I got an alarm app that in order to turn off the alarm, I need to take my phone to another room and scan a barcode It also has other options like solving maths problems It works, but I'm still always miserable when I get up in the morning even though I enjoy my life quite a lot. I'm just not a morning person

Why do you care? Knowing the answers to these questions won't help you in the slightest. Go and do something practical instead of pondering silly questions like these Both men and women want sex, men on average want it more, men on average have less access to it and have to work harder for it. There you go. Now go do something practical @Thestarguitarist14 "Self-pleasure is anti social" The fuck are you talking about? Jerking off a few times a week is not gonna hurt you. It's certainly better than being unable to think or focus on important shit because you need to cum. Yea, if you get addicted it's bad but you can say that about many things

Also my man, @patricknotstar I just saw your face in the show your face thread and you are an attractive dude! You seriously do not have anything to be concerned about! Why on earth do you think you're not physically attractive?

I know what you were trying to say, the point is that giving such advice to people is insensitive. That kind of advice only starts to apply once you have obtained a certain amount of material success

Online dating is not representative of reality. There are a million factors that make it an extremely disadvantaged situation for guys. Even above-average looking guys will often struggle with online dating The supply/demand is completely fucked up, there are often 10x as many guys as there are girls on a dating app. If you're not at least moderately attractive your profile won't even be shown to girls at all. But in real life you can talk to as many girls as you can find You also can show off very little about yourself other than looks. It's very hard to show any masculine personality or charisma Yea it sucks if you don't have the best looks, but seriously, don't use online dating to base your understanding of dating in reality. It's just wrong and incredibly skewed. Don't translate online dating statistics to reality either Ultimately women don't want great looks, they want a man. And you can be masculine without good looks. My mother is probably an 8/10 in looks but my step dad looks like a tomato. He embodies masculinity very well though, in other words he's a man. And thus he's still attractive even though he doesn't look great. You can find lots of examples of physically unattractive men with girls who are physically way more attractive. Just pay attention when you are out and you'll see it The main thing is that you're not physically out of shape. If you combine these things with being overweight then it's pretty bad. I've seen plenty of bald men with attractive girlfriends. Like I said, my stepdad's head is literally circular (no bone structure to speak of) yet he seemed to do pretty well for himself with woman from what I gather This is not what anyone wants to hear. Try telling a starving African that food is just an attachment and he should let go of his attachment to food

In my experience with tinder this is very rare and obvious when it happens What possible incentive do guys have to do this? The ones that are bots/men are ridiculously obvious if you have more than three braincells

You sound like a 15 year old boy who's been reading a little too much redpill content on reddit

This still seems crazy to me. How on earth can jerking off every 3 weeks be that different to jerking off every 3 days Your body is designed to ejaculate pretty much as often as it possibly can

I would bet like $1000 they've both cheated again lmao

@Ineedanswers Do you have some past experience with being cheated on or someone you know being cheated on? It seems like a slightly strange perspective even though I can see you're technically just asking, you're very persistent You should not stand for being disrespected by a partner like that, if they cheat you should not just forgive them and move on because what you're basically saying when you do that is that you're ok with being walked all over. If someone cheats on you and you have this attitude, 90% chance they'll cheat again when whatever circumstances lead to it before occur again, because now they know there are limited consequences Sure, you tell yourself that if they cheat again that will be the last time, but if you forgive them the first time then your mind will probably find a way to forgive them the next time as well. You either set the limit at ZERO times or you don't get into a committed, monogamous relationship

Putting yourself through total misery in the name of selflessness is not always right At some point you've gotta do what's right for you If he stayed and looked after those kids now it would end up being very dysfunctional If the kids were not biologically his alone then it would be fine, however they are the kids of a man who his wife of many years cheated on him with...... You talk big but I am 100% sure if you were in his situation you would not find it so easy to stay. It's easy to talk a big game when you're not emotionally attached to the situation

It's easy to say this when you're not in that situation. Reading your words just screams total lack of empathy to me Like put yourself in the guy's shoes. His world is collapsing around him, basic truths of his life that he's held for years have been pulled out beneath him. Massive destruction of trust Raising the kids that your wife cheated on you to have? Holy fuck that would be hard. They're a permanent reminder of what she did! How she totally betrayed you and lied to you for years! Jesus fucking christ have some empathy for this guy instead of calling him a piece of shit The whole situation is terrible for everyone involved, yea it sucks for the kids. But expecting the guy to be a good father to these kids now is extremely unreasonable and may even make it worse for the kids because his resentment will shine through no matter what if he stayed. Basically the mother is the only person to blame in this situation, everyone else is an unfortunate victim who has to do their best to deal with the aftermath

My ex girlfriend was diabetic and ended up sending herself to hospital at least 3-4 times by not taking her insulin She also never paid attention to the food she ate either She had depression, mostly unrelated to the diabetes, but I think the main insight I gleamed was that if a diabetic is unsatisfied with their life, there is almost nothing you can do to make them look after their diabetes It requires so much micromanagement and effort, plus it doesn't pose an immediate threat to your life. This is a dreadful combo for someone with depression Mentally, a diabetic with depression is essentially being forced to ask themselves like 7 times a day if life is worth living, and worth all this effort that no one else has to go through. This takes an enormous toll on your mental health This doesn't really offer a solution, which I'm sorry for, but I figured it was worth sharing And my absolute deepest condolences if you have to deal with the US healthcare system for this as well

Yea I actually don't think this is an awful deal. You essentially paid 5k to enter the job market in quite a lucrative field, which is a lot less than a degree would cost you If you could have done it self-taught that would obviously have been ideal, but that wasn't an option so you did what needed to be done I agree that the concept of coding bootcamps are actually retarded though, I've never met anyone who thought they learnt anything useful from one. So for that I can understand your frustration. Hell, I didn't learn anything especially practical from a 4yr CS degree. Courses don't teach you how to code, you learn by coding practical, real-world projects I think you made the right choice, though. You're at least moving forward. View it as 5k to enter the job market in a field where you can start making many times that pretty quick If they don't charge you ridiculous interest just pay it off monthly over like 3 years and you'll barely even notice it's there. By then you might even be making more money and you can pay it off quicker

I think manosphere might be in my top 5 cringiest words of all time

because sex has the ability to bring you right into the moment, to open your mind, to make you impulsive and not give a fuck this is very dangerous for a structured society if you want to contextualise this into stages, stage blue wants structure and control over population and sex is very effective at destroying this control

the practical solution is move to a big city where you never see the same girl twice and you're free to experiment the root solution is a lot more complicated, I struggle with the same problem

This is spoken as someone who has a distinct lack of friends so take it with a grain of salt IMO going out 'looking for friends' is kinda not the right approach. Nor is really giving too much thought about 'how to make friends.' The right approach is to do things you yourself enjoy and then you are frequently in contact with those who are at least somewhat similar to you and friendship develops naturally over time It sounds like you are 'trying to make friends' when really you should just do things you enjoy and be sociable at these places. When you try to force friendship it's kinda like going up to someone and saying "I want to be your friend" which if you actually did you'd scare the person off I think friendship is even less susceptible to 'force' than relationships. With relationships you can kinda control and influence your situation but with friendship things do need to happen quite naturally

I'd recommend Brazilian Jiu Jitsu if you wanna do a martial art. All the guys I've met there are super chill, then they'll absolutely fucking destroy you on the mat Jiu Jitsu is good for learning to express your full physical power against others, because unlike a striking martial art you can actually put everything you've got into a spar/roll every day without worrying too much about injuring yourself or your opponent With a striking martial art you're running at half power when you spar so you don't concuss each other all the time

Most dudes here don't want to be 'pickup artists' they just want to get better with women and be more sociable. Pickup is a decent framework to start out with. Even you went through a pickup phase, and now you're preaching about how it's not the path. Sure, but you still went through that phase. It's a valuable thing for guys to do even if they transcend it at some point I mean even if you build a social circle of dudes you still need to know how to approach and talk to girls. It is a skill in and of itself. Or at the very least you need to have talked to enough girls to desensitise yourself Honestly I don't know why you're so aggressive towards others about it, it seems very strange and slightly toxic

These are bizarrely specific years. Afaik 'pickup' as a style was a thing that started to gain traction in the 60s If you're trying to tell me that the idea of guys going out to meet girls died in 2015 I don't really know what to tell you As for the rest of your post I don't really disagree, all I'd say is that healthy pickup is more about unfucking up your social skills, learning to let go, have fun, let loose, get the stick out of your ass. Many guys are socially fucked up from years of time online and pickup is very effective at undoing that rapidly. Pickup and learning to socialise is part of that lifestyle change you talk about

If it still works, how is it outdated? Also, again, you are kinda contradicting yourself. You talk about how we live in the most superficial times yet you're suggesting that the most superficial venues that exist (clubs) are not good places to meet girls anymore. By your own logic they should be better than ever The purpose of that kinda style of pickup is just to get you as much exposure to a lot of girls as possible. It's hard to build a lot of experience with girls if you're only talking to a few new ones every now and then as you go about your normal life I think you are right in the 2nd paragraph, of course these are good things to do. But combining them with some clubbing and partying is not bad, I don't understand your dislike of that approach really