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Not usually, if it's done right

In my experience, a majority of girls were into (or curious about) some kind of butt play, but maybe only 10% were into actual anal sex The ones who were actually into it were really into it, though

Primarily friend groups, work, nights out IMO if you go out onto a busy high street purely to approach every girl that walks by, you are being a public nuisance I think you should keep the spam approaching to nights out, and only approach occasionally during the day if you encounter a girl you find attractive I would say that is healthier and less desperate/creepy Most criticism of pickup is only targeted at the dudes who spam approach during the day, because if you are bad at this you end up making a lot of girls very uncomfortable They are mostly against guys who spam approach on the street during the day, which is honestly pretty understandable I doubt any of them have a big problem with guys approaching girls on a night out

Because you’re a woman Its kind of like asking why I’m attracted to girls with nice butts Lol, insecure much?

Like? I don’t doubt there are some super extreme misandrists out there, but the idea that there are feminists who want to make it harassment every time a man talks to a new woman is absurd

This is 100% an over-dramatisation, and deep down you know it

Pickup is only bad if you lack basic social skills, or you’re a dickhead who wants to use and manipulate women Those tend to be the bad ones who make the news hence the bad reputation Just view it as improving your social skills, making friends, partying etc. if you’re worried about the negative reputation

Yes he was friendly because that’s how some guys try to get into girls’ pants because they don’t know any other way, they don’t know how to be direct about their attraction Guys don’t spontaneously develop attraction for girls a year later. They know within 5 seconds whether they’re attracted to a girl or not

@egoeimai I know it hurts to hear, but he never saw you as a friend He wanted more from the very beginning. That is his fault for not making his intentions clear and you should not feel bad for distancing yourself from him

I don’t think you should be so anal about it Communities need a good balance of lightheartedness and seriousness to maintain themselves Too much hardcore/seriousness is bad too You’re meant to be a playful in life too

Man girls are so naive sometimes, guarantee he’s liked you the whole time you’ve been talking Then again he’s obv naive and immature too since he’s been lusting after you for a year without making a move Theres nothing you can do other than be honest with him

I honestly can’t find one of these that I read and say “that’s me” I feel like some of the stereotypes from each match me The ideas and impressions I have about each type in my head seem to align up impressively with the stereotypes though That page is also a fucking goldmine for investigating the validity of MBTI. It’s a dictionary of easily testable attributes of a type in the format of “If x then y” statements (If: INFP, then: addicted to astrology) If you could show they were accurate beyond chance then it would prove that knowing someone’s MBTI type can actually make useful predictions and isn’t just pop science

@Loba This is one of the last places I expected to see someone mention talking with famous people, I forgot it even existed! Holy shit that brings back memories from a long long time ago for me, like a solid 6 years I completely binged watched the entire channel when I’d discovered it but it’s barely popular by comparison to some other MBTI channels so I’d never expect anyone else to have seen it He’s done a few videos about Leo if I remember correctly

Every GF I’ve had has been loyal to a fault Girls tend to be more loyal than guys, especially if you build yourself into a great guy Your mindset should more be “I’m amazing, so of course my GF loves me. If she cheats on me she’s throwing away a prize, her loss” and then you go find another GF if she cheats on you In reality the more controlling you are and the more worrying about her cheating you do, the more likely she is to actually cheat Wanting an introverted GF purely because you’re scared of her cheating comes across as insecure, I would not say that’s a healthy mindset

Most attractive girls have a thriving social life and at least a few male friends so you’ve revealed your lack of experience a tad here Don’t be a controlling dickhead, trust your GF I find that with groups, it’s actually almost easier than solo girls after you start talking to them There’s often way less tension to deal with, because they’ll often carry the convo a bit more for you But yea, initially approaching a group of girls is harder Then again I’ve never approached a group of girls during the day, it’s always been at clubs. I have no idea if that logic transfers to during the day

I don’t mind the music at all, in fact I like it. But I hate the dress style and how popular it is here

Getting broken up with for sure, I know I’m capable of handling it but the other person’s reaction is unpredictable I usually struggle to have the balls to break up with girls, I often end up just becoming distant or letting things start to fizzle out which is very unhealthy and often crueler Though my first GF was heavily suicidal and threatened (and sort of attempted) to kill herself after we broke up so I definitely have some trauma there

It sounds like you were being very clingy A lot of girls find it very claustrophobic and get repelled by it heavily I don't really think this is anything to do with keeping your word. That sounds like a very bizarre way to justify the clinginess to me. It's time for you to move on and find someone else, my dude

Sounds like it could be a shit club, try somewhere else. In my experience people had a great time in every single club I’ve ever been to unless it was either dead or it was a sausage fest Though I would also be careful that you aren’t projecting out your own dislike of the place onto others If you have a busy club tightly packed with drunk people in my experience it’s hard for no one to be having a good time If you have that many high and drunk people, exciting shit’s always going down somewhere in the room The way to enjoy clubs is to embrace the chaos, that’s what makes them fun. Anything can happen. Don’t leave every 10 minutes, embrace the chaos head on, go right into the centre of the dance floor, that’s where a lot of the fun people are And learning to approach girls and have them be receptive in busy clubs is a really different skill set to talking to girls in day to day life, which might be why you felt they weren’t receptive Also, numbers (or snap in my case) from a club have never worked well for me. I’ve always aimed for something that night. I think almost every girl I’ve ever snapped after meeting on a night out has blanked me super quick

Sorry, I wasn’t that clear. I wasn’t trying to say mechanical sex was important, I was saying that the mechanics of sex are important Of course you flirt first and have space for foreplay, both of those are super important But so are the actual mechanics of penetration

I switched to MacOS recently for work, and it's fucking amazing by comparison to Linux and Windows I was a Linux user previously. MacOS feels like a much more reliable and polished version of Linux. You can do all the same stuff you can do on Linux, but it doesn't break once a year for no discernable reason requiring a full reinstall Basically, it has the best parts of both of Windows and Linux It does have some quirkiness that is designed to make you use Apple peripherals, but other than that I love it

Yea, I do agree that deciding to move on if sex hasn't happened after one date is definitely a bit much. I would say if it hasn't happened after two dates, that's when I'd start to seriously consider moving on. If she can't work out whether she wants to have sex by the second date, we're probably not going to be compatible. I want to go for girls who are immediately very attracted to me after just one or two dates, I want the attraction to be raw, pure, obvious and passionate. If it's taking her three or more dates to get attracted, then IMO the attraction is not strong enough and I'd feel like I'm wasting both our time by pursuing it any further I know that girls who connect with me quickly like that are out there, so I go looking for them instead of girls who can't make their mind up about me I think this is the essence of what @Knowledge Hoarder was getting at

You can research good places in your city online. Or even just walk through your city on a Friday and Saturday night and see which places are busy, filled with people in your age range Or, you can use my strategy, tell her: "let's meetup and walk about till we find somewhere for a drink" You could then have somewhere in mind and walk her there, or just actually explore the city together and look for a place that you both like The other plus side of this is that there's usually less tension when you walk and talk than when you sit across a table from each other, so walking a bit is a nice way to start a date

I agree with you, but your thinking is too black and white. You're talking like there are only two options: mechanical sex or intimate sex. Why not just get good at both? That's what good sex is, the blending of two people's psyche and bodies into one. There is a mental and a physical component and you need both

Follow the "show don't tell" rule: don't tell her she's pretty, show that you're attracted to her with your body language and tone. Think about it, would you rather a girl just told you that she thought you were cute, or would you rather see her dialed pupils staring lustfully at you, her leaning in close to you across the table, playing with her hair, giggling at everything you say? What creates a stronger emotional response in you? Or compliment something unique about her that she won't get a lot of compliments about. People love compliments about things they've worked hard on but they feel don't get appreciated Or you be playfully super sexually direct with your compliments Those are some options, but I think generic compliments often come across quite inauthentic and boring