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Well she also swiped right on a bunch of other dudes and if she likes one of them more and he’s giving her attention she won’t reply to your messages Thinking about this too much is not healthy for your self esteem which is why I think that beyond optimising your profile pics you should take as low effort as possible approach to dating apps. I have notifications for them disabled on my phone and I check them maybe three times a day max unless I’m messaging a girl There are guys who kill on dating apps, and there are guys who get nowhere. For these dudes, dating apps are simple. Dudes like you and I who are somewhere in the middle are actually in the danger zone of being sucked into spending way too much time (and money) on dating apps, because they tease the fuck out of you Dudes in the middle might also be subject to some sketchy shit by dating apps as well, because they’re the only people that are ever going to pay. For example, there is a decent amount of anecdotal evidence that paying for a boost on Tinder will work, but then once it ends you find that you get far less matches than you used to previously until you boost again

There isn't really a secret to this. At least, I haven't found anything reliable in like 2 years of Tinder So I usually just go for fairly low effort stuff. If she's interested, then pretty much anything will work. If she's not, then there isn't really anything you can say to make her reply Maybe 10% of my matches go more than two or three messages back and forth, if you want a point of reference. From what I gather that sounds about right for Tinder

"Who wants to demonise them?" *proceeds to demonise them*

I agree Mostly, when guys say they don’t like makeup, they mean they don’t like excessive or badly applied makeup But each to their own, I can certainly see the appeal of wanting a girl who wears no makeup. And personally I’m not a fan of piercings but plenty of guys are

This thinking is too black and white Yes, over-censorship can cause things to build up and burst, but allowing them free reign of a public platform spreads those ideas to more and more people who end up getting sucked in which is far worse People get brainwashed super easily, we know that. Society has a responsibility to try and prevent people from being dragged into harmful ideology Think mums radicalised into anti-vax through Facebook and the potential harm that causes. That’s a prime example of this dynamic There was a thread here recently of a dude who got radicalised by 4chan (a paragon of free speech online) and ended up shooting 10 black people

Your use of the word ‘couple’ here shows that you don’t get just how much rejection from girls guys have to face throughout their lives He’s probably talking about a couple hundred rejections/ghosting he’s experienced Any guy doing a lot of dating is probably gonna deal with a couple thousand throughout his entire life

@Striving for more I’m not saying no one should do daygame, it can work for some guys under some circumstances, clearly it does for you I’m simply saying that it tends to be interpreted as very needy and creepy by wider society and with good reason 90%+ of the dudes who end up doing hardcore daygame just annoy or creep out a lot of girls The fact that daygame is only viable when you get to a city with a population of 1 or 2mil or more is an indicator of the issue, it requires an absurd amount of anonymity to avoid getting into serious trouble or building up a bad reputation There are already dudes in the 1mil pop city near me that have a poor reputation, or have gotten in legal trouble for doing hardcore daygame. Several news articles on them Meanwhile I can do nightgame in my 100k town and have no issues at all. If I started doing hardcore daygame here I’d be in a news article (or all over social media) by the end of the week, even if I was good at it To me there’s no reason to hardcore daygame when nightgame A) Is actually fun B) Is far less risky C) Has more girls concentrated in a small area D) Has way more receptive girls Basically the only disadvantage is cost and sleep pattern but these are not huge factors if you’re careful

No, nothing at all. She was creeped out because you said something socially uncalibrated and quite over the top out of nowhere You coulda got away with that line no problem if you’d built some sexual tension/chemistry up first

You should try to understand why they are the way they are And if having such people in your life does not benefit you then take steps to minimise contact or remove them from your life entirely Certainly don’t demonise them, that harms you

@Yarco What is it you would like to express that you feel you cannot on current platforms?

I wasn't into ass at all really until I got my first GF who had an amazing one and now I fucking love girls with an ass I don't see how it can be propaganda or brainwashing. Where is the brainwashing coming from? Also why in the fuck would anyone want to brainwash people to like butts? It's probably largely that these things (ass, boobs, lips, legs) are sexually dimorphic that make them attractive. And also that well filled, symmetric butts, boobs, lips, legs are all good indicators of health Why would you be attracted to a mouth/lips? That's a slimy, saliva-filled, disease factory. Why would you be attracted to boobs? Those are just gelatinous milk factories. Why would you be attracted to a pussy? That's objectively disgusting to look at, yet somehow it drives the male brain crazy

You went from 0 to 100 real quick here Yea, you were talking a lot about sex with her, but it wasn't flirtatious. It wasn't about the sexual chemistry between you two, you didn't build any of that really, you just talked about sex in a very mechanical/clinical way So when you drop that bombshell about what you want to do to her, it feels extremely out of place and not calibrated at all You need to escalate and ramp up to something like that with playful and cheeky flirting You should have gone with something more like "you know you seem kinda kinky, now you're making me curious what you can do" said in a cheeky tone

Just because it's difficult to decide where the line should be doesn't mean there shouldn't be a line at all If you have people organising crime or talking about genocide on your platform, then that's a serious problem If you have people being abused racially on your platform, that's also pretty much undeniably bad The ideal solution is to have a few different platforms that each draw the line in different places and allow you to reside wherever you feel that line is fair Total free speech everywhere is beneficial/favourable to the most powerful groups in society, who have little to fear from absolute free speech

I'm sorry? Not all people who walk around confident and cocky are dickheads. It's better to walk around like that than to walk around defeated and insecure You shouldn't be immediately repulsed by people like that

Not usually, if it's done right

In my experience, a majority of girls were into (or curious about) some kind of butt play, but maybe only 10% were into actual anal sex The ones who were actually into it were really into it, though

Primarily friend groups, work, nights out IMO if you go out onto a busy high street purely to approach every girl that walks by, you are being a public nuisance I think you should keep the spam approaching to nights out, and only approach occasionally during the day if you encounter a girl you find attractive I would say that is healthier and less desperate/creepy Most criticism of pickup is only targeted at the dudes who spam approach during the day, because if you are bad at this you end up making a lot of girls very uncomfortable They are mostly against guys who spam approach on the street during the day, which is honestly pretty understandable I doubt any of them have a big problem with guys approaching girls on a night out

Because you’re a woman Its kind of like asking why I’m attracted to girls with nice butts Lol, insecure much?

Like? I don’t doubt there are some super extreme misandrists out there, but the idea that there are feminists who want to make it harassment every time a man talks to a new woman is absurd

This is 100% an over-dramatisation, and deep down you know it

Pickup is only bad if you lack basic social skills, or you’re a dickhead who wants to use and manipulate women Those tend to be the bad ones who make the news hence the bad reputation Just view it as improving your social skills, making friends, partying etc. if you’re worried about the negative reputation

Yes he was friendly because that’s how some guys try to get into girls’ pants because they don’t know any other way, they don’t know how to be direct about their attraction Guys don’t spontaneously develop attraction for girls a year later. They know within 5 seconds whether they’re attracted to a girl or not

@egoeimai I know it hurts to hear, but he never saw you as a friend He wanted more from the very beginning. That is his fault for not making his intentions clear and you should not feel bad for distancing yourself from him

I don’t think you should be so anal about it Communities need a good balance of lightheartedness and seriousness to maintain themselves Too much hardcore/seriousness is bad too You’re meant to be a playful in life too

Man girls are so naive sometimes, guarantee he’s liked you the whole time you’ve been talking Then again he’s obv naive and immature too since he’s been lusting after you for a year without making a move Theres nothing you can do other than be honest with him