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You can get them viewed by women only for free. It just takes time and a little effort. If you are diligent in rating other people's photos you can get your own photo fully rated (at least 15+ votes, ideally 30) in about a day Some musings about photofeeler based on spending too much time optimising a Tinder profile: Photofeeler is interesting because I notice that there is a heavy bias of girls on there towards the 'nice guy' pics where you smile, and you'll often be slightly penalised for the more intense pics. However on Tinder I notice that my intense (no smile) pics often did a lot better I don't really know what causes this tbh, different crowd of girls perhaps Another thing I learnt on photofeeler is that depending on photo quality I'm either a 4 or a 9 And finally, a very small change in a pic can make a ridiculous difference in outcome. In some cases just zooming in slightly would take the pic from a 6 to an 8. And in other cases changing the lighting slightly with editing would create a similar result. The reason this is interesting is that Tinder fucks with your pics a whole lot when you upload them, it blurs them a lot and it also zooms and crops as it pleases. Given how much of an effect this can have on photofeeler it's potentially affecting you on Tinder as well, assuming you already have a reasonably well optimised profile

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Yea this is such a hard step. I've made so many acquaintances in the past year but actually converting them into deeper friendships is super hard. Some people seem to be able to do this super easily and I envy the crap out of them lol In terms of meeting lots of new people I find that pretty easy. Just fill up your week nights with activities/hobbies if you work a 9-5 and go party at the weekends. It gets you into the routine of meeting new people frequently and as a plus it keeps your mind busy

Just cos you can't make it work doesn't mean there's a problem with cold approach as a whole. How do you think the average guy gets a GF? Girls certainly don't approach guys, and someone's gotta initiate If you are socially calibrated it works great. Especially in places like a club, you can cold approach every girl in the place and be totally fine Yea during the day you gotta be a bit more careful

This is pretty much what all people want in the end. But the problem is that it's so hard to tell whether you want this with any given person before you've spent a considerable amount of time with them and also a considerable amount of time with others so you know what you do/dont want. And even then, things change between people over time. That's why I personally prefer a more relaxed approach to relationships where you feel things out over time rather than going balls deep immediately, but of course each to their own I'm not saying it's impossible, but you should realise that this is not something that is easy to find and it will probably take you a lot of work. You're essentially looking for someone who is genuinely willing to commit to you for the rest of their life after only a few months right? Such guys are not the norm. It goes against our biological nature and you should def be aware of that if it's what you're looking for. Don't blame the guy for it either, we are not always so willing to commit to long term things easily because it comes at enormous cost to us Anyway, I don't wanna derail this thread anymore, I've said what I want to say

This all sounds like it's based in personal trauma, dating in the west is not anywhere near as extreme as this. There are plenty of trusting and loving relationships in Western cultures too Again, this happens in Indian marriages too to an extent, they just stay together because divorce is less acceptable, right? According to stats only 1% of marriages get divorced there, but 50-60% result in at least one partner cheating! That's fucking bonkers No matter what culture, it seems like 50-60% of marriages just straight up don't work out, even if they start with good intentions Again, it's not like committed, healthy, loving relationships are impossible in Western culture. We are just more hesitant about going balls deep into new relationships because it can be very costly I think the solution for you is still just going to be exposure to more girls. You have to talk to as many new girls as you possibly can until eventually you learn how to attract the girls of whatever culture you're in. If you talk to lots of girls it also makes you feel far more capable and far less inferior to others

India sounds like a nightmare for guys dating based on everything I’ve read about it And it sounds awful for girls too. Dating in general sounds hard there. I’ve heard horror stories from both sides Maybe nightmare is too strong a word but it sounds like there are many expectations placed on both men and women and many many pitfalls

That might actually be worse lol Is it normal in your culture to tell girls you barely know that you love them? Fine if it is, but it just seems super strange to me

I know it’s probably a culture thing… but why are you proposing to girls at 21. I can’t get my head around that

It’s meant to encourage you to be authentic, but in practice people give that advice when they really have no idea what advice to actually give you

I can give you lots of tinder profile advice if you want it but the truth is I spent 1.5 years getting mediocre results on Tinder optimising my profile, yet feeling constantly powerless. Then I started going out after covid and having way more fun and just generally feeling far more abundant with girls IMO the biggest difference between Tinder and the real world is how much control you have. In the real world you are in control of your exposure to girls, but online you are at the mercy of the Tinder algorithm. You are constantly waiting for new matches. But in person you can go and speak to girls whenever you feel like I still have a Tinder profile running (in fact the girl I’m seeing rn is from Tinder) but in order to not let tinder make you feel like total trash you need to be able get exposure to girls in the real world frequently to build up that abundance. Then you can have Tinder running in the background I went from like 1 match a week to 2-3 matches a day just by optimising my profile tho so it’s def possible to improve your results. Tips for optimisation: - Put all your pics on photofeeler.com - Post your profile in r/tinder under their profile review thread. You’ll prob only get a response or two but can often be very valuable

Dude move on or you’re going to get your heart fucked over hard here If she’s showing tons of interest in making it work long distance then maybe it would be possible but if she’s not showing signs like that then you are so going to regret fawning over her Ask yourself if you had 3 other girls equally as attractive but within walking distance if you’d still have this same obsession over her

Go somewhere where approaching is extremely socially acceptable like a club You can also start off by keeping chats elsewhere quite platonic until you get used to it

Remember that you have a very particular image of Leo in your head and it probably isn’t him going out and partying 99% of what you’ve seen of him is a floating head talking about super serious topics, now you’re seeing him in literally as far away a scenario as possible from that, but the original image in your mind of him is still there That makes you feel like he is out of place even though everyone else there just sees him as another dude having a good time since they don’t have those same preconceptions

Ok dude, whatever works for you, good luck

Is there that much energy in semen?? And idek what you mean by life force

Fair enough for the abstaining part, but looking for ways to stop wet dreams because you’re so obsessed with semen retention seems neurotic If wet dreams were harmful to you then that mechanism would not be built into men

IMO the sensible approach to artificial sweeteners is 'why bother taking the risk?' Maybe they're fine or maybe they fuck up your gut biome, make you hungrier, and give you cancer Is it really so important for you to drink some diet coke that you wanna take that risk? Lol

A week or two? Minor energy boost but counteracted by horniness Maybe you get some magical benefits by doing it longer but I struggle to believe that placebo doesn't play a huge role in that. It would be absolutely retarded for evolution to program into your system that ejaculating makes you tired. Like, that shit would get removed from the gene pool ASAP

The problem with this experiment is that there's no way to tell it isn't just placebo I feel like I get a minor energy boost but I also get horny as fuck, which counteracts that energy boost

This just sounds so neurotic to me. Maybe I'm missing something, idk

They’re healthy but if you’re using them as a substitute for sex it will start to make you feel like shit Dont stop fapping necessarily just make sure you’re still fulfilling the sexual relationship part of your life at the same time

Oh, I didn't even notice it was old, lol. Sorry How do you know? Plenty of intellectual ideas are extremely dangerous I mean... Yes. Objectively they are pretty much the most dangerous method of widespread transport we have. Even people who know how to ride them at an expert level die on them every day The problem is that you can't ensure people will interpret it in the right way online. These kind of teachings would have to be administered in person to avoid a lot of the pitfalls. Making intellectually risky ideas like that public is just that.... risky

The solipsism video is particularly dangerous because it's super easy for people to take on as a belief. It's very easy to just believe that you are the only person that exists. But if you just 'believe' in solipsism it will turn you into a narcissist at best or delusional/suicidal at worst. All of these are terrible for you as an individual and strategically bad for actualized.org's reputation which is already perceived as slightly culty It makes total sense to remove that video Anyone who feels so strongly that they need to see that video is likely addicted to Leo's content. There are hundreds of videos on the channel that show you how to attain realisations yourself instead of relying on them being hand fed to you in neat video format

It's an area of life he has a lot of experience with, and it's an area of life that many guys are struggling with It would be silly of him not to share his experience in that area You can't do any of the advanced spiritual stuff unless you have the material basics of your life together first. 'Self-actulization' is derived from Maslow's hierarchy of needs which is based entirely on that principle. So Leo has presumably had that holistic approach since the very beginning of actualized.org