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Oh, yea of course. I can’t really advise you on dating there, it sounds like a fucking nightmare

No, I go solo, which can actually be a bit of a nightmare sometimes. I'd like to get some clubbing partners too, but I'm awful at making friends, lol. It's weird, when I'm out I can be ultra social and talk to tons of people, but actually building and maintaining longer term friendships with people is something I'm absolute dogshit at

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Dude, if you’re at university now is the fucking time I’d sacrifice three of my toes to be back at uni At least in my country there is no better time of life to get laid easily than uni

It certainly happens I can think of two times in particular where I threw Hail Mary requests at girls that worked out. Both of them were outside clubs after I’d had a really shitty night and was basically just thinking “fuck it, what’s the worst that can happen” I pretty much said “let’s go fuck” but worded less directly, in kind of a teasing way. But it was still very clear what I meant, and very direct In one case I went and talked to a girl, just like two or three fairly standard questions like “how was your night” and then out of nowhere I threw in “Wanna come help me fulfil a fantasy” and she just laughed and started following me But that was pure dumb luck, and anyone selling you a course based around this kind of system is preying on your fantasy to be able to fuck a girl with minimal effort. It’s the pickup equivalent of marketing a get rich quick scheme What has been more realistic in my experience is some pretty innocent (but obviously engaging) conversation at the start but conveying lots of sexuality through body language and eye contact. If she responds well to that and she’s flirting back start ramping it up from there and seeing how sexual she is comfortable being This is kind of my goto strategy in clubs which is pretty sexual but not really EXPLICIT per se

I agree with most of what you said, it’s certainly framed in a healthier way than the guy who I quoted previously What is an absolute over-dramatisation is the “the feminists control the media and they are coming to get us” mindset

This is exactly what I was thinking reading this Look dude, I’m pretty sure you want sex. You said yourself you wanted it super bad when you were younger If those desires go unsatisfied it’s not healthy for you as a man, don’t repress your sexuality

This gave me a great laugh, especially the entire left side of the graph

You are probably far more extroverted than average and that’s why you think there’s no such thing as state For introverted people it takes time for us to ramp up into extroversion and get out of our heads That isn’t a belief. What you’re doing by saying there’s no such thing as state is basically equivalent to saying “just be extroverted dude” State is just another word for mood, and if you don’t believe that your mood affects how well you socialise, especially for introverts, then you are totally deluded

When you have an off day, just give yourself the most basic of tasks and let yourself feel good about completing them If it comes to Friday night and I feel tired and feel like shit, I set my limit as low as going out and just talking to like three girls, sometimes even one if my mind is being an absolute dick with resistance Ironically I’ve often ended up being more charismatic and gotten better results on those nights, because after my goal is complete I know I’m free to just dick around, have fun and be authentic and that ends up being way more attractive

It doesn't matter how you got there. Your belief is currently "I'm too healthy to attract girls" which is absolutely a belief that sooths your ego from rejection. Ironically, this is an unhealthy mindset Of course you can. Empathy, care, and kindness are deeper traits. They are valuable later in a relationship. You need other traits that initially attract girls, like a girl's appearance attracts you. Those traits are basically anything that sparks an emotional response in girls. I gave you a good list in my last post. The thing is that it isn't really always that toxic to do those things. Sometimes it absolutely is, but sometimes it's necessary. The times I've ghosted a girl have been because I haven't felt like talking to her anymore cos the vibe just wasn't there, or she went cold on me first, or something else happened that made me lose interest. Girls do the same Being willing to walk away is an attractive trait. Doing it intentionally to manipulate is fairly toxic, but sometimes it is authentic and the non-toxic option.

Oh I missed this, sorry ? The order of your images was weird, might be a mobile thing. Ignore my last post, none of that applies lmao You actually didn’t do so bad here, that was quite funny to read, if she has a sense of humour she prob took it well, she knows she’s pretty Just try and set up a casual date now, ask if she wants to go for coffee or drinks. If she’s interested she’ll agree, if not move on

You’re not setting a great frame. You’re complimenting her and fawning over her, placing yourself below her She even told you, she knows she’s pretty. She doesn’t need to hear that from you in the first few messages Try and be funny or cheeky, then try and set up an in-person date. That’s what you try do with texting for the most part UNLESS she seems super into texting and you guys have good chemistry over text. Since you’re on the younger side like me, it’s really common now for girls to want to text back and forward quite a bit if there’s good chemistry. But you always wanna be moving towards an in-person date

You could memorise an entire dictionary with mnemonic techniques like a memory palace or method of loci I’m sure there was a dude who didn’t speak French but won a French scrabble tournament by literally just memorising all the legal French Scrabble words

Here’s the same dude tearing apart tai chi and wing chun masters. On their own these are not effective martial arts. Bruce Lee also famously talked about how limited he thought Wing Chun was

I would say that almost every fight I’ve ever witnessed in real life and many I’ve seen online end up in a scramble on the ground And unless someone grabs you and won’t let go, your aim should always be to run from the fight anyway The basic takedowns that BJJ provides should almost always suffice in that situation If you want the absolute best chance of winning a real fight against another well trained opponent then you gotta train MMA, but frankly I don’t want to get brain damage lol It isn’t perfect but I think if you had to pick just one martial art system to learn that would give you the best all round experience in self-defence it really has to be BJJ It’s also just really fun. I don’t see any other martial art that I think would really stimulate the intellectual part of my brain as much

It’s alright for some surface level comparisons, like sensors and intuitive are probably not gonna get on that well together But when you start saying/thinking things like “your 4th cognitive function makes you incompatible with everyone who has a certain cognitive function in their 2nd slot”, you’ve entered astrology and ideology land

I'm surprised there aren't any recommendations for BJJ (Brazillian Jiu-Jitsu) here. It's got one of the best communities of all martial arts and progressing in it is super rewarding. There are girls at my BJJ gym who absolutely fuck me up, so it's something that girls can be super effective at, even against bigger dudes It's really intellectual as well, and the injury chance is lower than striking martial arts. If you wanna learn martial arts purely to defend yourself then you go with MMA, but if it's slightly more about self-improvement I'd recommend BJJ. Holy crap though do not do shitty martial arts like Tai Chi or Wing Chun if you actually wanna be able to defend yourself. These are not good for that at all. Tai Chi especially is not even designed for fighting, it's more of a spiritual thing, almost like dancing.

This is a short story that might hopefully make some of you feel better about getting shitty results on online dating apps A couple months back, I ended up meeting and going home with a girl at a club. The next morning, we both ended up talking about Tinder. Turns out we'd actually matched online several months prior, but she had totally blanked my first message. She couldn't even remember matching with me, so she clearly wasn't really that interested online. Yet she seems super into me in real life, and we've met up another 3 or 4 times since then. Just because you can't attract girls on Tinder doesn't mean that girls don't find you attractive in real life. Girls who aren't into you at all online can be super into you in real life. Don't let shitty results online fuck up your self-esteem and convince you that you aren't attractive to girls, it's just false And don't listen to statistics about online dating that people extrapolate into the real world either. This is a good example of why that is a silly thing to do because the dynamics are totally different.

I think this^ is something you have convinced yourself of to sooth your ego "I don't have as much success as I'd like with girls, it must be because I'm too stable, healthy, actualized, caring, honest, humble and non-dramatic" – that's kind of what I read when I read your post And you can absolutely be those things and still be attractive. But you also need a few other things too, otherwise you're just going to bore girls. You need a bit of edge. You need to take risks. You need to be confident. Be OK with stepping out of your comfort zone. You have to be fearless. You have to be masculine. You have to be fun. If you sprinkle some of these exciting traits in with being stable, healthy, actualized, caring, honest, humble and non-dramatic, you become extremely attractive, even more than the guys who don't have all of those things and are just straight toxic There is a lot of overlap between being only stable, healthy, honest, humble and non-dramatic and being a weak man. Many weak men exhibit these traits to hedge their bets with others and take a comfortable path in life. I'm not saying this is you at all, I know for sure that isn't true in your case. But the problem is that to a girl, if all you exhibit are these 'nice' traits, that is the impression it gives off, even if you are not actually a weak guy.

I mean I’m sure they can be sometimes, but in my experience they’ve been pretty flaky If you’re at a busy enough club/bar there’s no reason to go for numbers when there will almost certainly be opportunities for a pull IMO If a girl is super hot and you hit it off but logistics don’t work for a pull then may as well take her number, what’s the worst that can happen

It’s a good idea to move around the club with a girl anyway, idk about the kissing in front of friends thing though One of the best indicators of interest I’ve found is that she’ll follow you around the club if you try to take her somewhere else With a girl in a club I usually end up doing a combo of dancing, talking in the smoking area or quieter parts and walking about and exploring the place with her if it’s big enough You can prob kiss her anywhere if she’s not super shy

Jesus fucking christ lol

Assuming this is JP, he's a huge supporter of Big 5. And also obsessed with Jung, like you say. Which yea, honestly doesn't bode so well for cognitive functions, lol