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Assuming you're talking about @Kwashiorkor? Just ban him. What he said is like so fucking dumb you can tell nothing valuable is ever going to come from him here ever

Women get attracted to authenticity, fun, emotions, playfulness, leading. All of those are created impulsively in the moment, they aren't calculated or studied. It is that simple. But it's also difficult and takes a lot of practice if you're a guy who spends a lot of time in your head, which is a lot of guys here, me included. The way you learn is by taking action. By talking to lots of women. By learning how to feel into your body and be in the moment. Have fun. Be playful. Lead her. What you are doing when you are thinking about or studying how to attract girls is like trying to learn basketball by reading books. They do care about you being creepy. What I was saying is that the way to not be creepy is to talk to lots of women and learn what doesn't creep them out in practice. If you really suck with girls you're going to have to accept that you will probably creep some girls out before you get good at talking to girls. If you're constantly in your head trying not to be creepy, that will make you creepy to a lot of girls. This is kind of flawed thinking. Most girls are attracted to the same fundamental things, and creeped out by the same fundamental things, just like you and almost all guys are attracted to tits and ass.

This is the problem. Spending so much time analysing what is creepy is actually gonna make you more creepy. A woman doesn't hear about a man analysing how to not be creepy and think 'oh yea I want some of that' It isn't that you're dumb, not at all. Kind of the opposite. It's a common trap for smart guys to fall into where they get super theoretical and in their head about women while there are guys who aren't giving a fuck about any of this out there just taking action and slaying. Fundamentally, success with girls is about getting out of your head, not getting deeper inside it

I made alright money in college from freelancing as a programmer. Freelancing and online selling are both options where you can actually provide some value to people which is what you are really aiming for if you want a sustainable way of making money. The others on that list are very leechy methods of making money that will require you to be very grifty and go heavy into marketing if you actually want to make anything

I think you’re over-thinking this my man

Lmao

In practice what will probably happen is you will get to your 50s and regret not experimenting a lot when you were younger. God realization or enlightenment or whatever isn't going to save you from material regrets. Using these things to avoid completing your material goals in life is a dangerous strategy unless you want to become a monk.

I have seen racism in smaller clubs with darker skinned guys. The club in my smallish city of 150k people is almost entirely white when I go, it mostly serves the small town I live in and like 5 or so ruralish towns nearby on weekends. I made friends with some darker skinned guys who were often the only people I would see rejected getting into the place. Apparently they were causing trouble with girls. But when I actually saw them going and talking to girls they were being far tamer than me and yet they got interpreted as creepy (and reported) much more easily. It actually really pissed me off and I remember arguing with the bouncer over it. HOWEVER, I have not seen this anywhere near as badly in clubs in my bigger city of like 600k, or London. There were plenty of guys of all races clearly doing super well with girls there. I notice darker skinned guys tend to have their fashion ON POINT as well, which possibly helps in overcoming the race boundary.

That isn't love on the man's part. That's desperation and neediness. Proper love takes time to build up for men as well.

Getting a tattoo of a girl's face after a month is not hard. It's impulsive, and shows almost zero awareness of future. Yes, but we also live in the real world, where the logistics of a relationship cannot be sorted out in a month. You need a balance of mind and heart to create healthy relationships. Healthy relationships also require time, and build up.

Because it's equivalent to saying "I want to spend the rest of my life with you" after only a month. It's almost like he proposed to you after a month. It's just really fucking weird.

The fuck? You need to run for the fucking hills, that is not healthy behaviour

Please stop going to malls in India and doing cold approach. It’s such a bad strategy if you want decent results. It’s very likely to tank your self-esteem as well. Read what @Roy wrote. What he wrote even applies in liberal countries like the UK and the US, let alone in conservative countries like India. Either find nightlife party spots like bars and clubs, build up a social circle, or GTFO of India.

Or, how about option (c)... which is actually go and learn how to be more attractive to girls Your options that you listed are basically (a) do nothing and (b) give up But worded slightly more extremely If you really want to explore your sexuality as a man and you value it highly, fucking go and get the sexual experiences you want. Don't just sit back and wait for it to happen. @Tyler Robinson It's a rung above food and drink, but it is still very very much a need rather than a want. Most guys aren't that open about their sex drive, especially with women. But you can see how fucked up the guys who reach their mid 30s without ever having sex are. Many incels (lots even younger than mid 30s) are seriously considering suicide on a daily basis. If that doesn't convey how much of a need it is, I don't really know what would. Hookers and porn are like bandaids. The desire for sex is rooted in men's ability to generate attraction and be a valuable man. Failing at this essentially feels like the world telling that you're an awful and useless man. And this cemented deeply into our biology from billions of years of evolution. Your advice is essentially 'stop thinking that and just love yourself' which is, I guess, truthful, but it isn't really helpful advice for guys. It's like saying "just be happy" to someone with depression, which is why it rubbed so many guys here the wrong way. Yea, ultimately, if you want to actualize, overcoming the strong desire for sex is good. But it's a transcend and include kinda situation. You gotta satisfy some of your deeper sexual desire first and then learn to overcome it. If you just try to 'stop caring about sex' when actually you care deeply about sex, then that's just sexual repression. It's easy to give the 'stop caring about sex' advice when you are already have fairly abundant access to sex, or when you don't desire it that strongly.

Is the desire to drink water social conditioning? Sex is really a biological need like drinking water and eating food. It isn't completely social conditioning, it's a strong biological drive built into the deepest parts of our brains. For guys (with high sex drives especially), it's hard to focus on anything else when you aren't getting your sexual needs met. It's like trying to work all day at a job when you're hungry or thirsty. It's hard to focus. This is simply your opinion/POV and all I can do is respectfully disagree. My primary argument against this POV would be that it's hard to find a relationship you think is worth committing to deeply if you don't have a lot of experience. When you want to go shopping online, you don't pick the first shop that sells the item you want and go with it. You have a look around and see what's out there to get yourself the deal that's best for you. Think about it, what are the chances you meet the best partner for you to spend the rest of your life with on your first or second try? That seems super duper unlikely, and it's also an awfully high risk to take.

Malls are an awful place to go looking for more casual relationships. Especially, I imagine, in a conservative country like India (where you are from, if I remember correctly) For what you want, you wanna be going out to parties and other nighttime places like bars and clubs. From some quick googling, India does have nightclubs. If you want casual relationships, nightclubs are the best place to go. You don't need to feel creepy approaching people there because it's perfectly socially acceptable.

It's also healthy to explore your sexuality in a more casual way. It's good to experience variety in your relationships when you arey young so you learn what you really want. OP is perfectly right to go chasing fun, low-commitment sexual experiences if that is what he desires in his life right now. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that and he should not feel ashamed for chasing that. Yea, at some point when you're older the healthy option is to look for something more serious and intimate, so on that I agree with you.

I’m curious what your experiences are of the typical male to female ratio in nightclubs. Obviously it depends on the club, who the DJs are etc. But generally I’ve pretty consistently noticed that the ratio in clubs I’ve been to has been around 70% dudes I thought this was just because normally I go out in a medium sized city, and to the slightly less trendy clubs since I tend to prefer that vibe. But this weekend I went to two big clubs in London (Fabric and Corsica Studios) and I kinda expected it to be damn near 50/50 but it was still easily at least 70% guys, especially later in the night I don’t suppose it really matters that much, it’s more just something I’m curious about the reasoning behind. You’d think it would be close to a 50/50 split since men and women both enjoy partying pretty equally

I’ve been rejected for being solo, but as long as I’ve at least been with some dudes I’ve never been rejected for not having girls at the door. I’ve heard that’s a very American thing? Or maybe if you go to very high end clubs? I mean I wasn’t going for precise estimates, more your sense of what the ratio was when you were out. I’d say people are fairly intuitively aware of whether there are an abundance of the opposite sex around or not so it doesn’t seem unreasonable for people to have a general sense of it It’s not something I pay a lot of attention to directly but I did definitely notice that the ratio was wayyyy more male heavy than I expected in what’s rated as one of the best nightclubs in the world. That’s what sparked my curiosity more than anything

Idk man, it seems like a pretty reasonable thing for a girl to feel uncomfortable about. As someone said, it’s very similar to your GF having tons of male friends. That’d probably make you feel a bit uncomfortable And you’re also making some very big assumptions about the girl based solely on her feelings about this matter People are complicated. Even really developed people will have insecurities or blind spots. Perhaps there is a hint of insecurity left over in her that’s inspiring the dislike of OP watching porn, or perhaps it’s actually just a deal breaker for her. There are valid reasons to dislike porn as a whole too

If you wanna actually talk in a club go to the smoking area

I don’t really see why people are blaming you. It doesn’t sound like you’d have made a good couple. If a girl is still playing games like this by the 4th date and after sex it’s just a recipe for a toxic relationship After you have sex, girls that’d make for a good relationship will stop a lot of the coyness and game playing Yea you prob could have played it differently if you wanted to keep her longer, but the real question is do you actually think it would’ve been a good relationship or did you just find her hot?

It’s always hard to tell with only one side of the story but she sounds pretty toxic, I’d say move on

I wouldn't really say redpill is mainstream. It only appears so because it's quite prominent in your demographic, but your demographic is probably not that mainstream. The whole concept of pills is that bluepill is the normie, mainstream approach and redpill is the niche but more truthful approach

I don't disagree. But it's a slightly weird thing to spend at least several hours of your day making