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You believe this because you don’t talk to people If you don’t have a social circle, you need to be the one who makes the first move. I know it’s difficult, but you need to do it. Get some hobbies. Fill up your weeknights with hobbies and go out and have fun at weekends. If you can’t do it solo, find Meetup groups for people who wanna party but don’t have anyone to go with

The problem you are going to have is that the chance that the first girl you end up with is going to be a suitable partner for the rest of your life is extremely low Because the only way you can really find out if you’re suitable for spending your life together is to try. What if it fails? Now by your own standards both you and the girl are screwed And a lot of girls (in the west at least) will be very iffy about a guy who has zero or little experience as well If I was still with my first GF I’d be beyond miserable right now, but I’m still glad I had that experience, it taught me a lot about what I wanted and didn’t want. Same goes for the various relationships I’ve had since then

Minecraft servers, League of Legends, a ton of programming, not enough real world socialising lol

Expectations and standards are pretty synonymous. I don’t think this mechanic plays out in reality as much as you think it does. Most of the time people explore their sexuality when they are younger and then find someone who ticks most of their boxes and who they enjoy being around to settle down with I don’t think it’s especially common for guys or girls to pine over past relationships when they’re in a new one that they are truly happy with The idea of women always wishing they could’ve locked down some super attractive guy they had a fling with once is I think mostly an idea developed by guys who feel they themselves aren’t worthy or can’t compete with her past lovers Thats the only reason I can think of for a guy to be super picky about a girl being a virgin. A truly self-assured guy wouldn’t care If you are a high value guy none of this matters because you know deep down you are worthy and can satisfy your girl even if she’s had a fair few relationships and flings before you

I grew up in a pretty well off family as an only child and I feel like I have a lot of laziness baked into me as a result, which seriously hinders me However I knew plenty of people who were also in similar situation that I went to school with that took advantage of their privileged situation to get an exceptional start in life I don’t think I would wish to have had a worse or less privileged upbringing, I think I would have wished that I had not been an only child, and had parents who enforced stricter rules on me instead of being overly relaxed and giving me too much without effort on my part

He’s literally just straight orange? Is it really that hard? He’s like epitome of orange He’s like if you took a literal orange, blended it up with orange paint, then threw it into molten lava levels of orange

How so?

Mate I lost my last two years of uni to covid and my first two to a shitty relationship, my biggest regret is not getting more involved in uni social stuff while I could. Get yourself into a flat with some flat mates or join your uni accommodation. It forces you to meet people who do fun shit Ask the people you do know where they’re going out and ask if you can come along, I know it’s scary but you’ll be surprised how likely they are to say yes

Mate if you are in college just start going out to parties, making friends. You have it so easy with just a tiny little bit of effort. Don't go about spam approaching girls during the day, just try to make friends who you can do fun shit with, have a little confidence, talk to some girls, and you'll get laid easy.

Not anyone's problem but the guys if he feels he can't compete on any of these traits. Most women, like most guys, will have a few traits that they prefer in a guy and some they are willing to sacrifice. Exploration helps you work out what those are. Women having high standards is only a problem for guys who offer little value to women to begin with. The flip side of the coin is relationships which collapse because one or both parties had little experience and constantly wonder what could have been if they had seen more of what life has to offer. Over-committing too soon is often just a waste of a life. In your fantasy land, maybe all guys care about this. In my experience most don't give a flying fuck. I want a girl who knows what she's doing. What are you even talking about here? Have you ever been in a relationship with a woman?

I'm sure it's possible but I think most women would be repelled by it if they knew what you were doing, no matter the energy. Any time I've seen guys doing cold approach videos in public, even the guys with great energy, they have never been honest about why they are out. It's always a lie

Correlation isn’t causation. It could be that trauma, trust issues and baggage cause promiscuous behaviour and not the other way around Low pair bonding ability could be because those with lots of experience are going to develop higher standards. It’s not necessarily a bad thing, except for people who don’t bring much value to the table Most stats to do with divorce are silly because so many marriages are doomed to fail from the start anyway. Most divorces are probably a good decision overall

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It's not about whether it works or not, I know it works and that it's possible. It's about whether it's a sleazy/scummy/creepy/cringy practice or not. You have to lie about what you're doing, because if a girl did know that you were going about your town approaching a bunch of other girls during the daytime she wouldn't want to touch you with a 10ft pole

If you want to do it in a way that is less scummy then it has to be more natural. Like not leaving your house specifically to look for girls during the day. If you see girls you are attracted to while you are going about your daily business then you approach them. That's sheer confidence and very very authentic. It's the predatory aspect of leaving your house specifically to approach tons of girls that will rub many people up the wrong way and for good reason.

A really good trick to warm up and get into state is to chat to guys as well. Especially some of the lonelier guys sitting at the side. You help them feel a bit better and get yourself into a sociable mood. You might even make a friend. Or approach groups of guys and just chat shit. Most of the time they'll be really nice. Assuming you have some basic social skills which it sounds like you do. It's much easier to organically meet girls if you are sociable with everybody, rather than focusing on just chatting to girls.

Another aspect is that richer people can afford to take bigger risks. If you have 100k in the bank you can afford to throw 5k into an investment that has a 75% chance of losing you the entire 5k, but a 25% chance of making you 50k. If you have 5-10k in the bank, that kind of risk is essentially out of the question. Obviously it's not as simple as this in reality but the principle is roughly accurate.

It’s outside the norm of society and it’s a fairly selfish behaviour. You’re basically saying that you’re willing to annoy and creep out hundreds of women just to get some sex. I know this is not how the guy sees it but it’s how a lot of women see PUA style guys It’s mainly a daygame issue, I’ve never had an interaction go that badly out at night because trying to hookup or flirt on a night out is a social norm Ideally you should probably just not give a fuck, but quantitative spammy daygame like that is just going to get less and less socially acceptable as time goes on

I find anyone who identifies strongly as INFJ gets on my nerves I think that many of them don't really exhibit that many INFJ traits, but it makes them feel nice to identify with what MBTI enthusiasts often perceived as the most mysterious and even 'best' type In terms of cognitive functions none of them really annoy me When I think about types of people who annoy me most, it's the people with the following traits all in one package: strong desire to fit in, adopt every trend in order to fit in, willing to bully others harshly for not fitting in. This combo of personality traits create the most infuriating type of person to me. It's probably like unhealthy ESTP or ESFP As an example there was this dude who came up to me and started filming my shoes when I was on a night out, and shouting about how ridiculous they were. They were literally just the most basic pair of grey Adidas flat shoes you could imagine. I remember asking him why he gave so much of a fuck about someone's shoes and he just essentially ignored me and doubled down on filming my feet and yelling how bad my shoes were. So infuriating But I've experienced a few people like this in my life with that exact combo of traits, and they always stick in my mind as some of the most annoying to talk to

I don't mind the culture. I don't think it's that bad. What I hate is the dress style. Streetwear style is the exact opposite of how I like to dress but it's crazy popular where I live. To the point where I actually almost feel almost like an outsider at certain events if I don't dress in that style.

Mate I get what you're doing, but this is the most ironic thing I've read all week

If he’s tall, at least average looking and has a group of friends that enjoy going out, he will be able to meet girls just by going out to busy places with his friends

Man what the fuck. You think such a service would even come close to a real relationship? It would actually destroy your self esteem by convincing you that the only way you can get any scrap of love is by paying The dating market isn’t as fucked up as you think. You think it’s fucked up because you don’t leave your house and get all your ideas about the dating market from online If you actually pay attention you see guys of all kinds of appearance with girls. If you go to a club you can see pretty average or even unattractive guys who can attract girls

This is a huge understatement. Any kind of intentional testing like this is a huge red flag that indicates massive insecurity and total lack of trust. It's also just very deceitful and disrespectful.

Dude chill the mother fuck out I hope you can see nothing positive is coming from anything here