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Social anxiety is weird. You can heal your social anxiety completely in certain situations and still have it really bad in other situations. I can go into a loud club and talk to everyone I meet but I can't hold a conversation with my local barista without getting filled with anxiety. So even if you can use mindfulness to quell anxiety overall (which I'd say you absolutely can, it gives you a sense that no matter what happens you'll be OK and allows you to have enough peace of mind to access that when you're anxious) there will likely still be situations that need more direct work to address.

Neither did you apparently

It doesn't matter if you're autistic or not, at least not unless you're really autistic to the point where you need lots and lots of support. If that were the case you'd have been picked up on it a long time ago. You can improve your social skills, I've basically spent the last two years focusing pretty heavily on it.

@Devin I think you may be trolling. If not, god help you.

This thinking is the issue. Some people actually are victims. I think I've been exceptionally privileged and I don't feel like a victim in most parts of my life. Maybe you feel the same. But if you were born into a battery elements mine in the Congo or if you had to get poisoned at work every day dissolving computer parts to recover the gold just to make enough to eat, you may feel differently. Statements like "life is so easy, just exist bro" are somewhat insensitive towards others who may not have it as easy as you.

My point was simply that you can't just say "oh life's so easy" because for many people it isn't. Even in Western countries.

What if I'm an 8-year-old enslaved cobalt miner in the Congo?

If you’re going for jobs at big companies like Google, Microsoft, Amazon etc. right now then no. They’re all firing a fuck ton of people right now. But there are sooo many startups doing great right now that haven’t been affected by that, plenty of them are hiring. It’s still one of the easiest fields to get a job in if you have some basic credentials or a portfolio

Programming is the best one for it. I’m a programmer. There are tons of chill remote startups out there which will be relaxed about where you work from

Digital nomad is another option. Work for a chill remote tech company that lets you travel a lot and work while you do it. Im going to Nepal for a month and a half next month and working while I’m out there

The reason I believed it initially was because of this video here that I posted earlier in the thread where he admits to scamming lonely guys very directly. It has the same "I'm scamming people and getting away with it" energy as the deep fake one so it was somewhat believable. I actually couldn't tell that the voice was any different, it just seemed too dumb of a thing for even him to say after a bit of thought.

My best friend in school was a mentally unstable, 5ft5 Bangladeshi guy from a low-income family. He got laid like 5x more than me when we went off to uni. He had an entitled alpha energy and exceptional social skills (basically, he had great game) that made him amazing with women. I always think about him when I hear people talk about how personality doesn't matter. He's the epitome of personality getting you further with girls than looks and money. I don't doubt that those things you list play a part, but I think you undervalue the role your charisma and personality play. Women go for guys who stimulate emotion within them. Having money or good looks is one way to do that, but having game is another.

If anything you'll get charged with harassment. You're not going to get charged with sexual assault for talking to a girl, at least not unless you start talking about your giant throbbing dick in front of her. If you give off good vibes you're not putting any stress on a girl. Humans are social creatures, most of us enjoy a friendly and stimulating conversation. And 9 times out of 10 if you piss a girl off you can just apologise, say you're sorry for bothering her and both of you move on with your life. Guys who are shy often project that shyness onto others and assume that everyone must be shy and hate talking to people, but it's simply not true. You realise that daygame can literally be just having a conversation with a girl you happen to encounter in your daily life? Most people with fairly sociable lives are meeting new people every single day. A significant chunk of couples probably met through daygame without even realising that's what happened. Healthy, confident guys will go and talk to girls they find attractive and want to get to know all the time. I'm playing devils advocate here because to an extent I agree, I don't think daygame is great. At least not the kind where you go to your local high street at 11am on a Saturday and approach every girl you see. But it's healthy to be able to see a girl you're attracted to as you go about your day and be able to strike up some kind of conversation with her. Lots of couples meet this way. Personally I prefer just going out to clubs because it doesn't feel like a chore and you can be way more direct because it's a more naturally sociable environment.

What do you think are the important aspects of attraction is then, if not your charisma?

You're not gonna get arrested unless you're really creepy, or filming yourself and girls as you do it. Or maybe very unlucky. Hundreds of guys do 'day game' every day without even knowing what day game is, they just talk to girls they see going about their day I don't think hardcore daygaming is especially ethical, but you have to do it really excessively and really badly to get arrested

Did he really say that? Audio clips are really sketchy now because they can be AI generated pretty easily. Having said that it sounds like the kind of dumbass thing he'd say.

I'm pretty sure Leo has said before that he doesn't really try to make this place unbiased and free. I also remember him saying you can discuss right wing stuff if you want but you have to do it in a mature way, which is where you start to stumble

People have been losing jobs to robots + AI for like half a century now

Yup, I think you’re right. Back to the search for a decent wingman

To be clear nothing serious was going to come from it for either of us, it was very clearly casual. It’s not like he was in love with her, he thought she was hot just like I did. He also wasn’t my best friend, it’s a dude I met twice, but I felt like we had good chemistry while in the club approaching girls. Basically good wingman material If he was someone I’d known for a long time and I could see he was struggling emotionally with rejection it would be different to an extent. But he should’ve been able to handle this situation, I think.

I feel like anything like this that’s fuelled by insecurity should be avoided. If you’re gonna do this do it from a place of pure curiosity and not insecurity. It sounds like OP might be coming from insecurity in which case the solution is to realise that his dick is perfectly up to the task if he learns how to use it

Thank you for the reassurance. There’s a decent chance I’ll run into him again and I’ll be civil if I do but I’m not rushing to do anything with him again

There isn’t that much difference other than skill level. It’s the same fundamental job. Software architects are really just advanced programmers. It’s like junior dev vs senior dev. Most of the sensor devs I know would all call themselves programmers, but at some point you end up focusing more on higher level tasks when you get more skilled. They’re not separate professions

I wouldn't say it threatens these professions yet per se. It can code, but software engineering isn't just about coding, it's about architecture design, connecting different technologies together and managing massive codebases. That kind of work is akin to constructing a building, an AI like ChatGPT doesn't have the interface to the real world that can allow it to effectively construct a building. It's similar with programming. It can write small scripts and classes extremely impressively but it doesn't have the action set to build or design complex and multi-faceted software engineering projects yet. It's also not that scalable. It's insanely expensive to run at the moment. It's definitely a step in the right direction but it's not going to replace programmers in its current state. Content writers and artists are farrrr more at risk of being replaced by AI because the output data format of their work is very simple and easy for computers to work with; just text and images.

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