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Not really. Some of the dumbest people I've ever met believed they were exceptional and proclaimed it to others all the time. Not saying that's you, simply that you need some kind of qualification to determine what an exceptional man actually is and whether or not that is actually you. If I sit at home playing video games and eating cheetos for 12hrs a day but I've convinced myself I'm an exceptional man then I'm actually delusional, not exceptional.

This is so black and white, I think you could do with some more nuance in this viewpoint. Exceptional people come in all shapes and sizes. To say "exceptional men should exert their will on the world" is problematic because plenty of exceptional people should actually have their ability to assert their will on the world stripped. Hitler being the classic example. Men and women can both be exceptional in good and bad ways, and it requires an exceptional amount of wisdom to judge whether those exceptional people are helpful or harmful towards building a healthy and strong society.

A large part of it is lack of healthy masculine dating role models, combined with social isolation, combined with people’s tendency to play the victim instead of try to enact change.

Maybe if he was I’d find it easier to build muscle but thank you, hahaha

I was out last night and ran into a dude I knew from a while back. He was bi and tried to make out with me on the dance floor the first time I met him lmao, but he’s a chill dude and we ended up having a great night together talking to girls. In the end we brought three girls back to my flat, two of them left after a couple hours but one stayed longer. She’d been giving clear signs she was interested in me, but I know my friend was also very interested in her. She was pretty clear she wasn’t interested in him though. So obviously when the two other girls left it made for a very awkward situation, just me, her and him. She was still interested in me, and my friend was very pissed when she showed her preference for me. At one point he was making very forward advances that she very directly rejected. At the end he came to me in my kitchen (where she wasn’t) and was really sad and asking me not to fuck her. At the time I was really turned on and she was pretty cute so I didn’t know what to say. He got really pissed when I didn’t unambiguously say I wasn’t gonna fuck her, he left and then blocked me on everything this morning saying that we could’ve been good friends if I hadn’t done that, which I think is true, he was a great guy and we got on really well Part of me feels like a dick, and had the roles been reversed I’d absolutely feel like shit at the rejection. But at the same time she wasn’t interested in him anyway, and she made it quite clear to him. It’s not like if I wasn’t there they’d have had sex Anyway, I feel bad and I would like to stay friends with the guy. I have one of his friends contact info so I might ask him to help reconcile. But I basically want an external opinion on whether I was an asshole or not and what I should’ve done

That’s absolutely a fair POV. I agree with that entirely. I’m assuming this is a US thing because such people would get the surgery for free or cheap in lots of other countries, or essentially any first world country

Who cares?? It’s still better than rich people hoarding their money

What? I don’t see your logic here I don’t think. As far as I can see you’re basically saying all charity is bad because the image it gives can be abused. Well duh, but just because some of it can be used for evil doesn’t mean the entire concept of charity is bad

Yea but that’s actually better than those 1000 people not getting the surgery this kind of shit exposes the flaws in American healthcare where your healthcare is actually just hoping to god you can get funded on GoFundMe or be lucky enough to have a charity help you thats the real evil

What? How can you frame a guy paying for 1000 people’s surgery as a negative thing? The only way I can see it as a negative is that the people shouldn’t have to fucking pay for it to begin with. But they were unlucky enough to be born into the world’s only first world country that makes them pay for it

You woulnd't be calling me gigachad if you saw my spindly twig arms and legs and my concave chest

You could say that the efficiency with which the nazis killed the jews and other minorities was pure art, but no one says that because it was an awful event and you shouldn't give it any positive attention at all. It's the same with Andrew Tate, if you start trying to appreciate him and see him for anything other than a massive conman it does not reflect well on you

It's just another personality test. People get hooked on categorical personality tests like MBTI and Enneagram and this alpha/beta stuff. Notice how you don't see people get hooked on something like Big 5 as much even though it's objectively far better. It's because it doesn't give you a neat little box to place yourself and others within.

Haha, thank you

Fuck it, figure I may as well, what's the worst that can happen

He got arrested for it in my city lmao I'm actually not surprised, hardcore daygame seems like the kind of behaviour that you'd get a lot of shit for here

I mean who's complaining about making it appear bigger than it is The entire industry of fashion is designed to make you perceptively more good looking than you are, it's not a unique concept

It's an illusion, it makes it perceptively bigger

Social anxiety is weird. You can heal your social anxiety completely in certain situations and still have it really bad in other situations. I can go into a loud club and talk to everyone I meet but I can't hold a conversation with my local barista without getting filled with anxiety. So even if you can use mindfulness to quell anxiety overall (which I'd say you absolutely can, it gives you a sense that no matter what happens you'll be OK and allows you to have enough peace of mind to access that when you're anxious) there will likely still be situations that need more direct work to address.

Neither did you apparently

It doesn't matter if you're autistic or not, at least not unless you're really autistic to the point where you need lots and lots of support. If that were the case you'd have been picked up on it a long time ago. You can improve your social skills, I've basically spent the last two years focusing pretty heavily on it.

@Devin I think you may be trolling. If not, god help you.

This thinking is the issue. Some people actually are victims. I think I've been exceptionally privileged and I don't feel like a victim in most parts of my life. Maybe you feel the same. But if you were born into a battery elements mine in the Congo or if you had to get poisoned at work every day dissolving computer parts to recover the gold just to make enough to eat, you may feel differently. Statements like "life is so easy, just exist bro" are somewhat insensitive towards others who may not have it as easy as you.

My point was simply that you can't just say "oh life's so easy" because for many people it isn't. Even in Western countries.

What if I'm an 8-year-old enslaved cobalt miner in the Congo?