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Divorce rates rising is a good thing. The majority of marriages have always been awful. Stage green (and orange) culture just give people the freedom to leave their marriages without being completely shunned by their communities. Stage blue marriages can be absolutely horrifically bad, because both parties end up feeling trapped by cultural pressure to stay together.

If you go to great lengths to present your marriage as perfect to your traditionalist community, you’re going to lie in a survey about it too. Hell, most of those married couples probably took the survey together so they are hardly going to answer truthfully. Honestly same goes for all marriages. But the fact that traditional marriages value being seen as put together and stable to their community, even when they’re not, will have a particularly big influence here. Traditionalist culture brainwashes you to ignore faults in your marriage and shove them to the back of your mind “for the community”

This is not really a related statistic to the point I made. General life satisfaction and marriage satisfaction rates are different things. They may influence each other but drawing conclusions about martial happiness from a study about general life satisfaction is not sound.

A lot of the time because they stay together despise being categorically and unequivocally miserable, ‘because society wants them to’. I’m pretty sure domestic violence is also higher within traditionalist marriages too, lol. A relationship with a girl with a bad personality, bad character, or simply incompatible personality is not going to be a happy one in the long term. Men absolutely should and do care about the personality of a woman.

These people are not your friends. Not even close. You really need to start distancing yourself from them as much as possible and find some actual friends who support you and want good things for you.

Brilliant lmao

Are you trying to speed run divorce with this strategy?

Would you like me to buy you a trapeze for these mental gymnastics? and a high horse for you to get off?

Look man, just own what you wrote instead of trying to distance yourself from it like you are trying to do now. There is no ambiguity in the following quote. These are clearly your own thoughts and opinions, you are not 'explaining a stereotype': --- I always get a cringey feeling when I see people say "I'm stage yellow". You're also like mid twenties I assume? No one who's as young as us really has any business calling themselves yellow. We don't have the life experience. Maybe we could argue that we have aspects of yellow, but saying that we have our full center of gravity in yellow ("I'm SD yellow") is quite insane. That would prob make you top <0.5% of the world's population in terms of development.

If you define your entire life around how easy it is to get laid, yea women have it easier. But that’s a fairly narrow slice of life. Women also commonly get sexually assaulted, spiked, harassed, raped, and treated like dogshit in 3/4 of the world. Even in the domain of getting laid, lots of women spend tons of money and 2 hours a day getting ready just to be attractive to guys. It’s not like they put in zero effort. Grass is always greener.

This here sounds like you’re implying it’s a pretty universal law.

Woman gets into relationship at 23. She stays with the guy for 4 years. They break up. Now you have a perfectly normal, single, 27 year old. Or a woman could be happy on her own until she’s 25. That doesn’t make her weird or undesirable. It’s a silly over-generalisation

Have you ever been in a trashy nightclub at the end of a Friday/Saturday night? There's people making out all over the place, I can remember occasions where I couldn't even move from couples making out. And that includes average/good/bad looking guys and average/good/bad looking girls. I pulled a lot of girls going out to clubs, but it took some getting used to the environment first. The key is making it feel natural and not forced when you approach a girl. It's so fucking hard to do that on a street, which is why it seems like such a strange thing to do to me. But in a club you can approach girls super easily, smoothly and directly with much less effort. I actually don't think it's difficult for 'most' guys. You can go out to busy places and see that most guys are actually pretty alright with girls. I think it's difficult for an increasing minority of guys who spent their entire youth on the internet, and are paying for it now. It is certainly getting worse. The average members of both sexes are pretty bad at giving dating advice to the opposite sex.

It wasn't about me. It was about not callously making overly general statements.

I've approached a few girls I thought were cute as I go about my day, but I don't leave my house on a Saturday morning to go hunting for sex on my local high street, if that's what you mean. Mostly I go to nightclubs or other environments that are naturally sociable and meet girls there. I went essentially every Friday and Saturday for about 1.5 years straight. I've stopped recently cos I'm in a relationship now, so I go out occasionally for fun rather than to talk to girls for the time being.

You're being too general. I've had girls buy me drinks and I've seen plenty of girls do it for guys.

His approaches are kinda strange, it's like fake confidence. He's trying way too hard and the girls can sense it. The black dude he speaks to has a more natural and chill confidence which is more desirable. Plus he's plonking a camera in front of them too which doesn't help.

I would argue no. You are far more likely to contribute deep value to humanity by doing something you are deeply passionate about, even if that thing is something that doesn't directly advance humanity. I'm also in a similar position to you, right now I'm working in tech making a good paycheck, but don't feel I want to do it forever. A well-paying, reliable job in tech with a really decent and chill team of people is a good position to be in while you work out what the fuck you wanna do with your life. Chill out, explore your options. Try lots of new stuff and see if you can find something that clicks.

Oh I didn’t even notice that, sorry, that’s very interesting. Thats a pretty insane charge. Like the kind of change that would restructure a country’s society if it were accurate and happened in such a short time, which kinda makes me instinctively question the stats there. When I did my own googling (which is admittedly on my phone at 3am and I’m possibly missing something) I found this page which has, I think, contradictory stats that sound more reasonable? They use govt data which is probably somewhat more reliable than an independent survey https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles/brown-manning-relationship-status-trends-age-gender-fp-21-25.html

If you think this place is so doomed, then just leave lol

I would say this probably contributes a significant amount. By the time a woman is late twenties there is a huge amount of social pressure to not be single, and age gap stats suggest the husband/partner is likely to be a older. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Age_disparity_in_sexual_relationships Says that ~25% of husbands are 4-9 years older than their wives which would account for the stats you showed here. The gaps are probably filled in with situationships where the woman says they’re together but the guy says they’re not and it’s just casual. Or some guys having multiple partners like you say. There’s prob also an element of woman being discouraged from admitting they’re single while men being praised for it affecting stats.

Coming up with hard rules like this is not that helpful. It's too logical. It will be different depending on the girl, the situation and your chemistry with her and you just need to build up a sense of what works for you through practice.

America does benefit a lot from the destruction of that pipeline

Women definitely cheat. It's probably pretty close to 50/50 in terms of the rate at which each gender will cheat on a partner.

The reason is because Tiktok is Chinese and the US government doesn't like them spying on US citizens, ironically. They also consistently refuse to obey things like Western copyright law.