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My style is quite boring day to day, just a nice fleece, oversized jumper, patagonia t-shirt, some Levi's 501 jeans, Nike trailrunners and a nice watch. I'm not super into trendy expensive streetwear clothing but I wear clothes that follow the overall movement of modern fashion which is relaxed fit and comfy. I'm not saying you have to dress super modern, just that you should follow broad movements in fashion. For example the corduroy trousers your grandad wears every day would look stupidly dated on you as a mid 20 year old in 2023, but in his time they were likely super trendy. This is just a more extreme example of how skinny jeans end up looking dated.

I don't see how it's ego, it's just how fashion works. You probably don't need to follow modern fashion to succeed in life but it sure does help in almost all social pursuits if you know how to dress at least somewhat trendy.

You'll notice he said that it happened a few times at the start when he was less calibrated but it stopped happening. I was the same, I got kicked out of the first club I ever went to solo for creeping some girls out, I even posted about it. This was the last time it ever happened except when my friend got caught sniffing ket in the bathroom lol. I'm actually glad I got this negative feedback in hindsight because it helped me calibrate myself to the envrionment much quicker. You don't need to characteristically castrate yourself to not creep people out. You just need to be somewhat socially aware of other people's thoughts and feelings. Nightclubs are filled to the brim with weird ass people, that's part of the reason I love them so much. You just have to work out how to channel that weirdness in a fun way instead of a creepy way.

This is my personal (and admittedly not particularly well researched) opinion on nootropics, but here we go anyway. Do you really want to be regularly taking a bunch of random chemicals? The chances are at least a few of these will have other contaminants in them that aren't particularly well researched and may do you harm in the long term. If you want to boost your mental performance occasionally then take some modafinil and it will blow all of these out of the water, otherwise I'd stick to the well researched vitamins rather than nootropics. I think many nootropics are working on the placebo level.

How do you know that this is the case?

While I do really regret not having the 'college experience' or as we'd call it in the UK the 'university experience', I found it somewhat easy to make up for afterwards. It helps a lot if you have a good job making decent money. All you need is a few friends to go clubbing and partying with and you can get 90% of the experience that way. However college does make it very easy to meet new people so you should try to do what you can to build a social life in uni. I find this kinda hard to believe. If you put tens of thousands of young people together like in a college, there will be plenty of parties. Start joining some clubs and organisations, and move into college dorms (if they exist where you are, idk how it works but we have them here) and you'll see plenty of parties. You'd be surprised how many girls won't do this. Average body count at 25 in most western countries is like 7 or something around that.

They would really be considered skinny fit now, which tends to look very dated. And you don't need to care about the small-picture fads and trends, but you should care about the overall big-picture 'movement' (happens in cycles of like 10 years) of fashion if you don't want to look like you're stuck in the previous decade. Following every trend and fad blindly makes you a sheep, but understanding the big-picture of why people are dressing the way they are in current times (and learning something from this) does not make you a sheep. In this case, skinny jeans are really from the last movement when people still, for the most part, wanted to be neat, well-groomed, 'tryhard' and put together. Now fashion is moving towards: chill, relaxed fit, flow, easy-going, utility, ethics, vintage, convenience, work-from-home, low-maintenance vibes. Skinny jeans are antithetical to most of this and so they end up looking really really dated. And worse than that, they look tryhard. Because they indicate that you are trying to be fashionable and trendy but kinda failing. If you want to look modern then your fashion choices should fit that vibe. But you still have so much flexibility within that overall movement to express your own style that it's not sheep-like to just follow it.

I think this is pretty much the best way to judge it. Basically how do you feel about her during post nut clarity lol.

There's a common sentiment that fashion styles tend to go in and out in cycles of 20 years.

This is it. Nightgame is very 'now' focused. If you don't do anything on the night, the chance of anything coming from it later is quite low. If you want to increase the odds of something happening later you can talk about what you want to do in the future on the night e.g. "lets go for a drink next week" but game it up a little bit, make it playful and fun. Make it clear to her what you are looking for and lead her in that direction.

Fuck lol. I'm glad you realise what a sham that is at least. He is using the age old scam of converting people's insecurity into money. His video titles/thumbnails are designed to make you feel a visceral insecurity so that you click on them to find out if what he is saying is really true and applies to you. From here he can funnel you into his other revenue streams like paying for ratings and offering you a solution to the insecurity HE PUT IN YOUR MIND IN THE FIRST PLACE. It's extremely manipulative. Looksmaxing is a good thing, and you should do it. It will help you. But everything you need to do that is either common sense or publicly available for free. You want to think of it as learning to express the best side of yourself and your personality in an aesthetic way. If you want a decent looksmax channel, I quite like Hamza Ahmed. He is also a mixed bag like many of these types of creators, but I think he's one of the better ones that actually tries to build you up rather than knock you down to sell you something.

This is just a classic slippery slope fallacy. There is a distinct difference between gay marriage and human-animal marriage. Very few people are actually born with a desire to marry a horse. Attraction to an animal is akin to attraction to a child in that an animal is not smart enough to understand what is happening to it, so we can quite easily say that attraction to animals is not healthy, is likely mental illness, and should be banned. And incest creates a fucked up gene pool. Father-daughter relationships are also going to be subject to enormous power-imbalance causing a lot of suffering. The only thing gay relationships hurt is conservative people's feelings. A significant amount of the population are born with same-gender attraction too, so it's not just something you can dismiss as unnatural.

QOVES? I remember watching that guy's content a while back and he offers a supposedly objective analysis of your face as a service. In theory a lot of the stuff he talks about is true, but like others have said it does not actually benefit you at all to consume it because most of it you can't change. Almost delusional levels of self confidence will get you way further than an accurate rating of where your face falls on a scale.

I have good social skills in some scenarios, for example I find it very easy to go on a night out and meet new people. Or when I stayed in hostels in foreign countries, I could chat and make friends really easily. The rules of socialising in a bar/nightclub/hostel just come very naturally. However when it comes to connecting with people at work, the jiu-jitsu gym I go to, or other day-to-day stuff like cashiers/servers at a coffee shop, I find it really hard to connect. I always feel out of place. It always feels like there is a sterile coldness between me and other people which I can't seem to cross. I don't know if it's in my head. I often worry that no one likes me, or that I am being weird in these situations because I don't know the rules. I guess it's a form of social anxiety because these are day-to-day situations where people's opinions of me matter more. If I say something weird, I will see that person again and the consequences are more tangible. Does anyone else have experience with something like this, or does anyone have any advice?

Chrome. Even if that's true, this is still an issue. The website should work on all browsers, especially the most popular one. There are significantly less people online than usual so I don't think it's a particularly isolated issue.

I think this is why he blocked you, not the LOTR reference. If I was messaging a girl and she started accusing me of being a fake profile made by her ex, I'd probably stop replying too.

Yep, same problem. Yup. It logs me back in once I go directly to any forum thread, but if I just try to visit /forum it's not working.

It could be very hindering to your spiritual success if you are constantly thinking about sex and women. It can be good to get all that out of your system and then move onto more spiritual pursuits afterwards. Transcend and include.

Yea I used to be quite scared to wear anything that stood out too, but having this mindset helped a lot

A thread like this was made already https://www.actualized.org/forum/topic/94619-show-me-your-fashion/

I also keep getting logged out and shown the login page with no CSS styling ever since the crash

I think this is more how bullies are created. You have mentally ill parents who beat or psychologically abuse their kids turning them into monsters. The kids who get bullied are basically anyone who doesn't conform enough, which could be for a variety of reasons unrelated to parents.

Being bullied in school can fuck you up more than you realise, speaking from experience. It causes you to learn all sorts of coping mechanisms that affect you negatively for the rest of your life. For example bullied kids often learn that not reacting is a good way to stop bullies from targeting them as much, so they learn to ignore problems instead of facing them head on. Or they learn that self-expression/uniqueness = pain, so they learn to be shy and invisible. Or you end up with crippling social anxiety because your lizard brain learns to associate all other people with pain.

You have more control than you realise over your mood when you go out. Just chat to everyone you can in the most sociable parts of the club where talking is possible and I promise your nights out will get 10x better

This might be long but I’ll share my experience with clubbing. The two things that significantly improved my experience in clubs were: finding people to go with most weekends focusing on having fun instead of just talking to girls This is because a sociable state is key to having a good time in a club, and having a good time in a club is key to meeting girls there. The key to this puzzle is getting into that sociable flow state. The best way I’ve found to get into that state is to chat to guys first. Make friends. This is good because you’re no longer “alone” in the club, and it also significantly improves your state of mind. For example, here in the UK most clubs have a smoking area that’s crammed with people. When I used to go solo I headed straight for the smoking area, chatted to a bunch of people and made some temporary friends for the night. Just from this, my emotional state was 10x better and then I’d also have people to go and dance with or chat to. I now have more permanent friends that I met from doing this who I still go clubbing with occasionally, which makes things way easier. Once you can reliably chat to guys and make friends for the night, then you force yourself to more directly confront the fear of approaching girls. It will be much easier now, but likely still scary. Set yourself a goal of just talking to (or dancing) with 5 girls in one night and then scale it up over time. Once you have done the 5 approaches you have achieved your goal, you are free, you can relax, you can do whatever you want for the rest of the night in the club, you can feel proud of yourself. Then scale that number up each time. I noticed something very powerful happened when I had done the N approaches. Because I told myself that I had done what I came to do and now I was free to relax and chill out for the rest of the night, much of the anxiety and pressure vanishes almost instantly. I hope this helps you, sorry again that it’s so long