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I can understand why you feel the way you do now. That's a pretty bad night. But it is just one night. It also sounds like these were people who weren't really that great, who you didn't feel particularly comfortable around, which can create a bad experience. If you're with good people in good clubs when you're feeling good in life, most of the issues you experienced there are quite rare. It took me maybe 4 visits to a club before I really started to enjoy myself. If it's a foreign environment so your body panics the first few times and makes you feel quite uncomfortable. But pushing through that is where the growth comes from if you're not someone who naturally parties.

I also had quite bad anxiety about dancing. One thing I noticed helped me learn to relax and move with the music at clubs was to close my eyes and almost pretend I was the only one there. It also makes it easier to get deeply intune with the music which helps too.

It's somewhat counterintuitive. If you are pumping out trained and rehearsed dance moves at a night club or party, you actually look more like a tryhard, it can be quite cringy. You don't look cool. Clubs and parties aren't about dancing skill as much as they are about letting lose and having fun. If you're doing some rehearsed dancing on a club dance floor it better be eyewateringly impressive or you will just look like you're trying too hard to impress people. That said, I would imagine many of those who have learnt to dance would be better at letting loose and moving with the music at a club than someone who hasn't, so I do agree with you that dancing classes could help. Just not by teaching you specific moves. To be honest, any kind of physical activity helps you. I notice doing martial arts helped me a lot, not because it taught be specific moves but because it taught me how to feel into my body better and to physically relax.

Out of curiosity, have you ever been to a party and if you have, what was your experience there like?

Yea, if all you do is party you’re fucked Having a stick up your ass is not good either however. As with everything balance is key I think that being able to relax into your body, let loose, and have fun with others is a deeply human experience which for most people is unhealthy to be completely deprived of.

How? And that's not entirely related to the main point of discussion anyway, the point I am making is that it seems unfair to claim confidently that progressive states create a worse homeless situation when the issue is very hard to quantify accurately because so many factors play into it.

So homeless people in right leaning states migrate to left leaning states because they get treated better? That easily could contribute to the stat that progressive states have more homeless people, but it doesn't mean that those progressive states are actually creating more homeless people. This is actually a pretty good example of what I said in my last post:

That's something you need to back up. Just because left leaning states have higher homeless population doesn't mean much. Correlation is not causation. In this case, most big cities in the US are left leaning, and located in left leaning states. Lots of things play into this that don't make it a simple relationship between 'more progressive = more homeless'.

Look up the CallMeCarson story if you want another example of this. Dude was absolutely crucified as a pedophile for talking sexually online to (or as media stories put it “grooming”) a 17 year old fan when he was 19. A lot of comments I read about his case were people who genuinely thought he was pure evil for what he did. I almost thought I was going insane reading how angry people were at him for that.

Your argument for “a man’s morality not being a defining factor in his attractiveness because criminals have a love life” could be analogous to saying that “a woman’s weight is not a defining factor in her attractiveness because there are overweight girls who have a love life.” Just because some woman are happy to overlook a man’s morality does not prove that all, or even most, are willing to. To me, the rest of your post sounds quite baseless and speculative. What actual experiences and proof do you have that morality/comfort/trustworthiness are not important traits for a man’s attractiveness? I’m not saying whether they are or aren’t, I’m undecided on it. I can see both sides. But you sound very confident so I’m curious to know what you are basing that confidence on.

Out of curiosity, what is your reason for believing this?

It's a shame you had to deal with this. Are there any particular experiences as a result that you feel caused you to feel like there is a war on men?

Can you be more specific? What experiences have you had in your life that make you feel this way?

A good middle ground between asking and just doing is to say “I really wanna kiss you right now” or “You’re really making me wanna make out with you right now” and judge her reaction. You’re still leading but also giving her a really easy opportunity to show whether she is comfortable going further or not. I really like this line and I find it works well if you say it with playful energy at the right time.

The statistic I have seen commonly referenced is that around 1/3 of the world's forests have been cut down in the past few hundred years. And about 1/5 of the amazon has been cut down over the past 50 years. I believe the sun was also significantly dimmer when this was the case. No probably not. Though the calculation of: 'more CO2' => 'more heat' => 'bad for human life in a variety of ways' is simple. It's worsened if it happens quickly because we (and all life) don't have time to adapt to sudden changes very well.

We are also chopping down a significant portion of the trees and plants that would actually make use of the rising CO2 levels, so the planet isn't really becoming greener as a whole. The Amazon Rainforest is the best example of that. Yea life on earth would survive the rising CO2 levels, the question isn't really whether life will survive. I don't think many people are seriously suggesting rising CO2 will kill everything on earth. The question is just whether humanity can survive in any meaningful way.

Based on your description you probably shoulda went for a proper kiss. The way to reduce awkwardness and build up to a kiss is to start with light touching, then heavier touching and moving closer to her, and if she doesn’t react badly to any of these then you go for a proper kiss. A kiss feels much more natural if you build up to it with other physical touch. It’s a tricky thing to get right, you are not dumb. Most people struggle with this to a degree, it’s natural. You don’t need to overthink it or beat yourself up Go again next week and see how things play out. Try to be playful and more touchy to build up to a proper kiss. I don’t think she will cancel. If you are both youngish then she will be accepting of a little awkwardness.

This is something someone stuck in a cult would say. Not saying actualized.org is a cult at all, but this way of thinking is what leads people into cults. "We privileged few know the truth thanks to our glorious leader" Most of the concepts you see here should be treated with scepticism until you verify them yourself.

It's being treated like a catch-all for Tate related discussion. Better than having a bunch of different Tate threads polluting the forum IMO. Also a lot of the sources posted by @Bobby_2021 here are very good too.

Abandoning your parents from your life entirely is a very extreme move. Maintaining a healthy relationship with your family is very good for your stability and mental health. If your mother is extremely toxic, narcissistic, or controlling then it's different of course and you should distance yourself. She's not completely wrong, I certainly think calling her 'full of shit' for saying this is very extreme. Her perspective sounds quite balanced. Plenty of people change the world and have a family too, it just requires you to balance your life well. To be clear I'm not saying that you should start a family, I'm just saying that your mum is not being especially irrational here and that my first impression of this sentence was that you were being a bit unfair on her. I don't know your exact situation, that's just my impression.

You make a fair point and I do understand where you are coming from. You want young guys to have a strong man as a role model, and I agree that is something younger guys lack in the 21st century. But Tate actually strikes me as more of an insecure and narcissistic man-baby than a strong man. I don’t think he is the saviour you want him to be. He is also not being honest and showing integrity when he talks about his crimes either. He is showing off. There are better masculine roles models out there than Tate.

Sometimes the bad things people have done are so bad that you don’t even bother considering the good things they have done. I think that’s rational. I actually don’t even think he has done that much good, I suppose you could argue he has inspired many men to improve their lives. But he’s probably also inspired many men to start sex trafficking rings too. And he’s likely also destroyed many men’s lives too with his scams. His bad side massively outweighs his good side.

Don't let yourself be influenced too much by stuff you see online, get your own experience. I would imagine that most of the guys who are making content like this are not having particularly healthy relationships. They are not good role models.

He got rid of 80% of his staff, he's massively downsizing. I would say it's more along those lines instead of racism.