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Moving out of my parents house was probably the single biggest improvement to my dating life that I ever made. You can always live in cheaper parts of the city in the outskirts that have good public transport connection or are in driving distance from the city centre. That's what I did and it worked well. And 15-20% of your salary going to savings is pretty good.

I didn't say man bad woman good, I said that you are living in a delusion. I think that delusion comes from trauma, so I do sympathise with you. But maybe you should consider that your worldview is being heavily affected by a trauma that the majority of people have not experienced in their lives.

You're lost in the clouds, fighting a phantom.

If your defining characteristic as a guy is that you’re “nice” it says almost nothing unique about you, it’s just so god damn boring. Women typically want men who fit interesting, well-defined archetypes. Those men can be nice, but ‘nice’ just isn’t their defining characteristic. Thats not even getting started on the fact that if you have to tell people you’re nice, it means you are probably insecure about how nice you really are deep down.

I was in a club at the weekend that gave you unlimited free soft drinks if you showed your car keys at the bar lol

The people who run these events use psychological tactics and (basically) hypnosis to 'cure' people. Sometimes the effects are strong enough to actually work because hypnotic effects can cure certain things, but don't be fooled that you got healed by Jesus or god.

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I saw this today, it’s from a while ago but it gives you a good insight into how narcissistically he views charity and donations so I think it’s good context here. And also shows just what a delusional dick he is. If you want a TLDR; a guy posted a crowdfund thing on twitter for his sick son and Tate asked if he felt like a failure because he was begging for money for a surgery that cost less than a quarter of one of his cars. He then offered to pay for the surgery but only if the dad ‘asked him nicely’ https://www.thelondoneconomic.com/news/ask-nicely-and-ill-save-your-son-vile-andrew-tate-tweet-resurfaces-341311/

I got the sub-communication, the dude clearly feels happy that he's made some good progress and you were a bit of a dick about it by implying to him that it doesn't matter. I don't mean this to be insulting to you, but smashing other people's progress is a such a dick move that I felt I had to comment on it.

How is that relevant?

This was very inspiring to read, and somewhat similar to me right now. I'm quitting my cushy programming job to travel for 6+ months at the end of this year. I also notice that my favourite part of my job is getting to build and design UI because it's far more visual.

If you’re in a busy bar no one is going to notice or care if you don’t buy anything. One of the keys to going out solo is going to the absolute busiest place you can get into. But you could also just order sparkling water or soft drinks or something if you’re worried about it, they’ll probably assume you are driving.

It sounds simple, but the line has to be drawn somewhere. It’s really really bad if we have people confidently projecting their ideas on how cancer can be cured with salt mixtures and sugar pills. People die from this advice being handed out. It’s a tough job to decide where to draw the line but it does have to be drawn somewhere. If you want to find sources of alternative medicine you will always be able to do that, but it makes sense ethically (and from a PR perspective for a site like YT) not to heavily promote health advice that is not rigorously confirmed to work.

When I was younger my hair would get horribly greasy so I would shampoo it every day religiously to solve the problem, and then I realised that was actually what was causing the problem in the first place. Now I wash it once per week or twice if I’m doing physical activity and my scalp and hair are much healthier. I don’t know if this will apply to you, but I remember it being quite a big problem for me so thought I’d share. It took about 2 weeks of time with less regular washes for my hair to adjust and stop overproducing oil.

I think people react to caffeine differently. I can drink a cup of coffee before bed and it can even make me sleepier. You aren’t gonna get hooked if you drink coffee occasionally. One cup a day is pretty easy habit to get into and also to kick. Though another issue with caffeine is that it’s hard to gauge dosage unless you buy caffeine pills. A cup of coffee can be anywhere from 20mg to 500mg of caffeine. Even most of the big coffee chains vary wildly in the amount of caffeine in their coffee.

You tried to insult my appearance in a discussion before. Frankly it's so bizarre that your mind even goes in this direction when you portray yourself as a psychologically hardened masculine man. It's bullying, it's a sign of a deep seated insecurity, and it's exceptionally immature. My guess is you couldn't come up with any decent responses but you also feel that you can't back down, so you need to come up with something and the best your mind can do is to ignore everything relevant and respond with insults and jabs. If you wanna know what I look like so badly, my face is on the 'show your face' thread, you can go and find it there yourself since you seem to care so much.

@StarStruck 's response has a name, it's called the chad-hominem fallacy people have been making fun of it for ages

There's a reason the UFC and almost every martial art fighting championship in existence have strict weight classes. If you are bigger than someone else, you have an enormous advantage that takes a lot of skill to overcome. So while I agree with you that skill compensates for a lot, your viewpoint that skill always beats size lacks nuance I think. It is not so simple. In BJJ there was a common idea people held that one belt level worth of skill is equivalent to about 20lbs (10kg) of bulk. And weight difference is actually LESS noticeable in martial arts with lots of rules like boxing and BJJ because someone who weighs a lot more is not able to take full advantage of that weight and strength. In a real fight with no rules, bulk is a stupidly big advantage.

This is a safety thing. It is nothing to do with man hating. You avoid large groups of men on the street too because they pose a potential threat to your safety. Why do you think that it is OK for you to say hateful stuff like this about women, but you find it unacceptable for women to say hateful stuff about men? This is very wishful thinking. The issue is not nearly this simple and there are many things that contribute far more to male loneliness than women online with extreme views.

I'm an avid solo hiker, so I'd say that you absolutely should do it! I see you're a woman so I suppose it's slightly different in terms of the safety of being alone in the middle of nowhere, but I've ran into many solo female hikers when I've been out so I don't think you should be too worried about the risks of someone causing you any trouble, especially if you stick to busier routes. If you are starting out, you should stick to easy and busy routes anyway. If you do this you will be perfectly safe. Also, make sure you pack the right equipment. Check the weather forecast and bring extra layers if it will be cold, and a rain jacket if it's going to rain. If you live somewhere where there is potential for snow and ice, you need specialist equipment to hike in those conditions so you should avoid those routes until you have some more experience.

I get the point you are trying to make, but rape and a few woman being pro-male-loneliness are not really comparable. The easiest way I can think of to show how they are not comparable is this: If you got rid of all rapists in the world, then rape would no longer happen or would be significantly reduced. If you got rid of the women online who are pro-male-loneliness, then the majority of men who were lonely before would still be lonely. Rapists are the root cause of rape, however a few women saying men deserve to be lonely are not the root cause of male loneliness. Do you see how these are completely different issues with completely different causes? They are not comparable.

Dr K is a great example of someone who cuts through the BS of internet culture and gets to the root issues of things, I really like him. And your post was very well written

If you witness this this pro-male-loneliness type of behaviour in real life then do something about it, like you should if you witness a woman being assaulted on a train. On the other hand if you witness it on the internet you should ignore it, because in the majority of cases it is designed to fuel your outrage in order garner attention and make money. Of course it counts as man hate, I just don't think there are very many women in the real world who are actually pro-male-loneliness. And because of that, I don't think they are a significant part of the cause of the male loneliness epidemic. Starting a crusade against these women saying bad things online might feel like you are doing something worthwhile, but it ultimately won't do anything to solve male loneliness because these women are likely unrelated to the root cause.

No, the legal issue isn't just scamming men. The issue is how he recruited, treated, transported and manipulated the girls involved for his webcam business. All of that was illegal, and comes under human trafficking.

When you said "Femdom is not healthy. It is trauma reliving" you took a judgemental and black and white point of view on a nuanced and complex issue; human sexuality. That's all I care about here. If you have any comment to make on that, go for it.