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Based on your description you probably shoulda went for a proper kiss. The way to reduce awkwardness and build up to a kiss is to start with light touching, then heavier touching and moving closer to her, and if she doesn’t react badly to any of these then you go for a proper kiss. A kiss feels much more natural if you build up to it with other physical touch. It’s a tricky thing to get right, you are not dumb. Most people struggle with this to a degree, it’s natural. You don’t need to overthink it or beat yourself up Go again next week and see how things play out. Try to be playful and more touchy to build up to a proper kiss. I don’t think she will cancel. If you are both youngish then she will be accepting of a little awkwardness.

This is something someone stuck in a cult would say. Not saying actualized.org is a cult at all, but this way of thinking is what leads people into cults. "We privileged few know the truth thanks to our glorious leader" Most of the concepts you see here should be treated with scepticism until you verify them yourself.

It's being treated like a catch-all for Tate related discussion. Better than having a bunch of different Tate threads polluting the forum IMO. Also a lot of the sources posted by @Bobby_2021 here are very good too.

Abandoning your parents from your life entirely is a very extreme move. Maintaining a healthy relationship with your family is very good for your stability and mental health. If your mother is extremely toxic, narcissistic, or controlling then it's different of course and you should distance yourself. She's not completely wrong, I certainly think calling her 'full of shit' for saying this is very extreme. Her perspective sounds quite balanced. Plenty of people change the world and have a family too, it just requires you to balance your life well. To be clear I'm not saying that you should start a family, I'm just saying that your mum is not being especially irrational here and that my first impression of this sentence was that you were being a bit unfair on her. I don't know your exact situation, that's just my impression.

You make a fair point and I do understand where you are coming from. You want young guys to have a strong man as a role model, and I agree that is something younger guys lack in the 21st century. But Tate actually strikes me as more of an insecure and narcissistic man-baby than a strong man. I don’t think he is the saviour you want him to be. He is also not being honest and showing integrity when he talks about his crimes either. He is showing off. There are better masculine roles models out there than Tate.

Sometimes the bad things people have done are so bad that you don’t even bother considering the good things they have done. I think that’s rational. I actually don’t even think he has done that much good, I suppose you could argue he has inspired many men to improve their lives. But he’s probably also inspired many men to start sex trafficking rings too. And he’s likely also destroyed many men’s lives too with his scams. His bad side massively outweighs his good side.

Don't let yourself be influenced too much by stuff you see online, get your own experience. I would imagine that most of the guys who are making content like this are not having particularly healthy relationships. They are not good role models.

He got rid of 80% of his staff, he's massively downsizing. I would say it's more along those lines instead of racism.

I think you make a valid point, the study is interesting and there is definitely something worth looking at there. However I don't think that it is fair to conclude that a softened form of masculinity is harmful for most people from just this. Someone who wants to be seen as masculine, and reports that they are in a study, is unlikely to report themselves as having any issues in life because that is stereotypically unmasculine to admit such things. Even if they do in fact have issues or dissatisfaction. Self-reported studies always have to be taken with a grain of salt. It's also a bit sus that 41% of men reported themselves as being very masculine. Softened masculinity also doesn't necessarily imply a lack of masculinity. Softened masculinity can be created by taking a masculine man and adding femininity to him as well, making him more well rounded. Not by subtracting his masculinity and replacing it with femininity. So someone in that study could report as 'very masculine' but also have feminine traits, making them 'softened.' I think that is the idea here.

Lucky for you cargo stuff seems to be back in style, at least where I live, haha

I bought this Patagonia Retro-x fleece recently (see model pic below) and it's one of my favourite items of clothing I've worn in a while. I think it suits my personality well and I usually wear it with very similar dark navy jeans to what you see below. I tend to wear mostly just jeans and a t-shirt for convenience and then a more interesting jacket for style. You could probably call my style something close to Gorpcore. I like Levi's jeans, and I like Patagonia t-shirts, especially capilene cool trail. But these are more for quality, comfort, ethics, and practicality rather than style. It's also again not really style, but I'd recommend you get rid of all of your socks and buy like 3 pairs of darn tough merino wool socks. They're comfortable, very smell-resistent, and they'll last you a lifetime. And if they break, they come with a lifetime warranty so you can get replacements sent out for free.

Then he’d no longer fit the wise bald man aesthetic

How are aliens going to get all the way to earth if they can’t use tools?

Well this is about what style of life forms would be capable of building space ships and traveling to another planet So tool use, which our bodies are optimised for, is going to be a critical trait in a species that reaches that stage A dolphin or an amoeba can’t really build a space ship no matter how intelligent it is

It could be because that configuration is universally effective. Bipedal motion could be one of the most effective and efficient general purpose configurations for a being. Think about it, your bipedal setup allows you to move quickly, fight, and use tools effectively and also at the same time.

I get your point, but it could also be the case that there are certain traits like emotions and bipedalism that are generally extremely useful and so evolution on other planets would also produce creatures with them. Almost all animals on earth have evolved to display basic emotions like fear. Fear seems like it could be a universal emotion for any organism that doesn't want to die. And if I remember correctly, bipedalism is a very efficient way to combine moving + fighting + using tools simultaneously. Also regarding communication, if they have the technology to make it to our planet, they would likely be capable of decoding and replicating our speech near instantaneously. It could be the case that aliens are very similar to us, or entirely different. It's really just speculation and it's something that is very hard to know for sure. I would not be so confident about it

Any advanced editor features like quoting, images, lots of formatting, tags etc. just don't work very well on a phone Though I do visit on my phone a fair bit anyway.

I live in Scotland and I heard not a single thing about this despite it being released in March. I can only find two articles about it online and both are quite biased. So it’s somewhat hard to get an accurate picture of what this is actually about. You’re right, it’s pretty extreme the way it’s worded here and on the articles I could find. I doubt that it would be enforced in this way if it were introduced into law. I would also say that a group of guys loudly talking about sexual conquests in public is not really acceptable behaviour, it should be discouraged. But this is probably not the way to do it. Most places already have laws about being loud and obnoxious in public, as well as laws against public hate speech, this would likely be similar to those. They mostly only get enforced at the extremes or as part of more serious crimes.

Leo has a video about this! I'm sure you can find it if you search for "actualized.org intuition"

Poverty in the US is caused by things like lack of education, massive rent payments, health insurance costs and debt. Reducing taxes is not going to change any of that.

Most guys go into online dating thinking that they can stick a few random pics from their phone up and get some matches, but chances are those pics will be quite boring. If you’re gonna do online you should do it right. The next step up from random boring pics from your phone is a cohesive set of images that match specific aesthetics. A lot of guys who put effort into making a profile go for aesthetics like: - the part time Eastern European drug dealer - the gym bro - the tall skinny goth sad-boi - the thoughtfully stares off into distance bro And these are often what men think women want rather than what women really want. Some guys can pull these styles off but most can’t. The reason is because they make you look like you’re trying too hard and like you take yourself too seriously. That’s a turnoff for a lot of women. You need pictures where you look comfortable and natural, that match attractive aesthetics, and also match your own personality. This is quite tough to do well but if you get it right, even if you look average you can get matches. Obviously the better you look and the more you pay dating apps, the less effort required. For many guys the effort + money would be much better spent meeting women IRL, not even just because of how they look but because, as you mentioned, online dating doesn’t really grow you much at all. As a final point: the best pic you can put up on your profile if you want to meet good woman online is a high quality picture of you in comfy but stylish clothes, with a massive warm smile cuddling a big fluffy dog. Even better if it’s in a cool place. Picture that in your head. Everything about that image is appealing to a majority of woman.

Why are your desires for sex more important than a woman’s desire to feel safe? Women are smaller and weaker than men. A small minority of men will kidnap women and chain them to radiators. A much larger minority of men will spike a woman’s drink, take her home and rape her. If you were at risk of these things happening to you, do you not think you would be quite wary around men who were “creeping you out a little”? That feeling a woman has around creepy men is the same feeling you have when you walk by a rowdy gang of dudes alone at night. No one is teaming up to put you in a cage. It’s not like that. If you consistently creep out enough woman in the same area, the number of reports against you to the same authority gets high enough that they will tell you to stop doing what you are doing, and if you don’t then they will arrest you. If you find yourself in that situation it is not the worlds fault, it is your fault for being a public nuisance and not heeding the numerous signals you got that what you were doing was making lots of people uncomfortable. It’s absolutely possible to learn to navigate the social world without being creepy. That’s what you need to learn to do instead of getting hung up on what happens if you creep women out. I promise you it’s worth it.

This is a very reputable source of survey data. I think that any data they present will be accounting for biases like this.

Here is an example of this happening for reference, posting as it's one of my favourite infamous Tate clips where he admits to some BS while trying to show off:

It's really hard to do everything well. If you look at Twitch and YT as an example, in theory both should be able to do exactly what each other do successfully. But they can't. Why is that? Or YT and TikTok. YouTube has tried to enter the TikTok space with shorts but it failed pretty badly. Why is that? Massively scaled tech companies like this often need to specialise, it's very hard to do everything well at such a large scale. Let's say it's even possible to create a successful everything app; musk fired 80% of his staff. And on top of that, I expect a lot of his most experienced devs probably quit anyway. Musk's companies have a reputation for being a toxic place to work. These experienced devs would be the kind of people who could switch to any other big tech company and get a high paying job in a hearbeat so there is little incentive for them to stay at Twitter.