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I live in the UK lmao. Unnecessarily crude language aside, idk where you're getting this idea from anyway. It's no different from any other Western country in terms of average body counts. In fact I think the UK is on the low side compared to a lot of other Western countries. I also backpacked SE Asia for the last year where STDs are supposedly rampant and never caught anything. I'm not saying there are no risks, just that if you are diligent about wearing a condom and have at least some standards, you're probably going to be fine. Pregnancy scares me a lot more.

Lmao that's not even relevant to this thread. If you have to shoehorn your opinions into a random convo it suggests you are arguing from a place of bias/insecurity rather than reality/experience. You should be worrying about getting someone pregnant unintentionally farrrrr more. That'll fuck your life up more than an STD. I've dated/hooked up a fair bit and I've never gotten an STD. If you always wear a condom, your risk is pretty low. And even if you get an STD, most of the time it isn't a huge deal.

Lol, tell this to starving children in poor countries. if you eat only an apple a day for a long period of time you'll starve to death. Let alone build any muscle.

I'm curious to see if Honey changes their business model after this. I think if a business like Honey legitimately do what they advertise and scour the web for the best coupon possible, then they deserve some reward for that. But it turns out they aren't finding you the best coupons most of the time, and they're stealing affiliate revenue even when they can't find you a coupon. Which is extremely scummy and greedy. If they do what they advertise they'll make a lot less money, but at least it's somewhat legit. I don't see how else they can recover from this tbh.

The pics of me that have made the biggest difference to how many matches I got were: A photo of me holding a giant rat, in combination with a bio like "Yea, I'm holding a giant rat. It's a long story". It got a lot of girls to message me asking me why I was holding probably the biggest rat they'd ever seen A selfie I took of me and a group of 7 people I went camping with at sunset in great lighting. This works well because it creates such a cool, chill and relaxed vibe, and also subtly makes me look confident in front of a group because I'm the one taking the selfie A photo of me on top of a mountain at sunset with messy af hair. Kinda similar to the camping one, it creates a cool adventurous and slightly rugged vibe These all work so well because they are naturally occurring situations where you want someone to take a photo. They aren't staged photos specifically taken for online dating. It also helps a lot if your photos give off a specific vibe. A lot of online dating photos are very boring, even if the guy looks good, because the photos don't convey any emotion at all. I can't stress enough how big of a difference having interesting hobbies will make to your online dating results. Even just going on some hikes and getting your friends to take cool photos of you is probably the easiest way to get a decent photo. If you solo hike, find a cool spot with good lighting, prop your phone up and start recording video and just sit/stand in front of it, relax, try some poses, look around etc. for a few minutes. Then at the end, scroll through your video and you'll almost certainly have some good frames in there to use. If you have a phone with optical zoom, use it. It'll make your proportions look much more true to life.

She's 15, don't expect coherent and well written thoughts. When I was her age I got dragged by the balls into the depths of anti-SJW content by YouTube's algorithm and If you'd asked me to justify any of the woman hating opinions I had then I would have probably written similar garbage.

Mine is not low and I'm still cripplingly socially anxious sometimes. High body count doesn't make you instantly confident.

If not in the regular conservative manner, then how? There aren't that many ways to regulate sex beyond the ways that conservatives have been doing for thousands of years.

@Medhansh Well done for having the courage to do what you're doing, it's very hard. However, are there places you can go out and do nightgame in Mumbai? Like nightclubs or something? Trying to meet women at random public places during the day is like hitting your head against a wall, most of the time. I'd say going out at night is a much better option. It's counterintuitive, if you are anxious or shy, you want to go to the busiest and most sociable places you can to meet people. Because this is where people are most open to chatting to strangers. Daygame has a very fundamental problem in that when you spam approach, most girls are asking themselves something along the lines of "why is this guy approaching women at a train station, if he was really worth my time he wouldn't need to do this."

@Nilsi You can put together a good enough outfit just from stuff you find in Uniqlo if you know what you're doing. You don't need to go anywhere special to get good looking clothes. It's worth spending good money on jackets, shoes and maybe accessories. Anything else just buy cheap stuff that fits from Uniqlo or other similar stores.

If you learn to have fun and make friends while you are out solo, the whole thing becomes a lot easier. If you go out just to lurk on your own at the side of a club and pick out women to approach, you're probably not going to have a lot of success. This is for many reasons, but the two major ones are that you get stuck in your own head and women can sense that you don't belong here. The better approach is to go out and make lots of friends at the place you go to. Find a new group of people to hang out with, dance with, and have fun with. This will make your approaches feel much more natural, maybe even effortless. Because you are naturally introduced to a lot of different people by being a part of a social group. You should also push yourself to approach women too, but you'll find it's much easier when you are able to make a new group of friends for the night.

Bundle getting better with girls into building your social skills. They're quite similar skillsets. Focus on building up a social life where you are somewhat naturally finding yourself in mixed gender places and push yourself to chat to the women there.

I'd recommend not viewing this as learning game, so much as improving/enhancing your social skills in general. IMO it's a healthier way to view it. In some sense it's the same thing but you aren't associating yourself with all of the negative stigma around game and pickup, of which there is a lot. Just focus on having something social going on in your life at the very least every single weekend, ideally on a bunch of weeknights too. Get a group of mates to go out with on weekends, and fill your weeknights up with activities like yoga classes, martial arts, sports, clubs, meetups, etc. It doesn't have to be about getting laid at the start, it helps a lot to have a solid social foundation which you can build upon. The momentum comes from being sociable in general, not just talking to girls.

With fashion I feel like you should get the basics down before you start experimenting with weirder stuff. Could you pull these pink shoes off? Yes, probably. But the confidence and outfit matching skills you need to do it are the kind of thing you should build up with classic solid outfits/pieces first.

I have sympathy for you. Relentlessly fighting with the trauma ghosts in your head every day must be very tiring

You can’t objectively decide. You can’t figure it out. The rules are very wish-washy and depend heavily on circumstances. It’s mostly an intuitive sense. Hence why practice is kind of the only way to calibrate yourself socially. Talking to lots of people and being in lots of different social environments is kind of the only way to calibrate yourself.

Because your question is somewhat flawed to begin with and doesn’t really have an answer. Asking “who decides what social calibration is” is like asking “who decides that human beings have to work”, or “who decides that money has value” There is not really an answer to any of these questions. There is no “who”. There is no individual or group of people that actively decide any of this. Work, money, and socialisation are just emergent properties of living in a complex human society.

If you’re willing to face the consequences, you can behave however you like. No one is forcing you to be socially calibrated but if you are, it will make lots of things in your life much easier.

Thanks for the advice all

I have a very strange relationship with social anxiety. No one would call me socially anxious, at least not anymore. I’ve been backpacking for 8 months, partying, having fun, making lots of friends around the world, getting laid. Not something you usually associate with someone who has crippling social anxiety. From an outsiders perspective on my life, my social anxiety is essentially cured. But internally I am still often extremely anxious over some random basic social interactions. Like right now some guy in a hostel bathroom was asking me about my shaver and if it was good and I was literally sweating from anxiety over this extremely basic conversation. At times like this I wonder, have I really made any progress at all? I have all of these results, but I still fundamentally feel a sense of being weird, different and socially inadequate in my core. In short, up until now I feel like I learnt how to ‘fake it’ and be fairly confident around others, but I still haven’t fixed the root feeling of social incompetence that is fuelling the core of my anxiety. I feel like I need to address this in order to make any further progress, so I’m wondering if anyone has experienced anything similar and has any advice. Thank you

During the daytime in college focus on making friends and expanding your social circle. Join a bunch of clubs and societies that interest you. The more friends you have the more you end up naturally talking to girls without it really being an ‘approach’ which is kind of the ideal scenario. If you wanna do ‘approaches’ in the pickup sense then just go to clubs and parties. 80% of the guys there are trying to get laid, it’s college. You’ll only get a bad reputation talking to girls in those settings if you’re really really creepy.

If you jerked off a few times a week without judging yourself for it your lust would probably be much more manageable. Lust is a normal emotion, it’s only a problem when you start to repress it and form hefty negative beliefs around it.

There are probably statistics for this kind of thing. And if there aren’t then how do you even expect us to answer your question? Lol Just Google this and see what you can find if you really care.

This is an over generalisation, but it probably does have a grain of truth. Evolutionarily it makes a bit of sense, a man wants to know that the children he is raising have HIS genetics and if a woman sleeps with another man then he doesn’t know for sure that his kids are his. On the other hand a woman who would have needed a man for protection and resources is perhaps more concerned about her man leaving her and giving his love, and thus protection and resources, to another woman. Again, vast over-generalisation but I think this is roughly why you notice this dynamic occasionally. In most cases neither party, M or F, likes hearing that the other is fucking another person.

This is exactly what you have to learn to do when you solo travel, but it’s far more socially acceptable. Approaching random strangers on the street is 95% of the time pretty weird thing to do, and you might actually make your problem worse if that’s what the course involves. You want to find places where approaching new groups and strangers is socially acceptable and learn to do it there. Night clubs and hostels are probably the two best environments on the planet for it and you don’t need to pay 4k to just go to these places and push yourself to be sociable and chat to people.